How to hurt a man's ego/heart?

[Anonymous]

I dont want to hurt a man im just wondering what things you shouldn't tell to a guy
Like for girls its : you're fat/ugly etc

[kairon156]

depending on the man his ego can be very fragile as well as his heart although they don't have to be the same.

things to avoid. "we need to talk" even if you are asking him something simple like what color to paint the walls to a guy "we need to talk" is among the worst things you can hear from a girlfriend as it's assumed she's braking up with you.

another one to avoid is compairing him to other men you know. mainly in an insulting way IE: "my brother can do better than that"

this isn't a big one but "let me do that for you" could be a mini insult depending on how strong his ego is. instead ask "can I do that for you?" it's pretty much the same but it gives him the choice of saying no. which is much less damaging to an ego.

if a guy tries really hard to do something for you and fails be careful how you word it. IE instead of saying "that meal sucked" say "there's room for improvment" or if you are a good cook (or what ever he did for you.) you can say "I would like to help you next time as I like it more this way than that way"

off toppic: oh and at all costs avoid nagging, at least for me personally I do the oppesit or compleatly avoid doing something that I'm being nagged about tell I feel like doing it on my own time.

I hope my opinion helped a little. I answered a slightly related question a while ago "Are you men emotionally weak?" if you would like I can link it to you.

[kairon156]

I know t his is an old question but thanks for most helpful opinion.

[ketfoen]

1 on 1 you will never hurt a normal guys ego even how much you try. The thing to break a guys ego or anyone for that matter is to have a crowd and just speak the cold hard truth about his wrong doings, lying and saying superficial things like his penis is small or he is bad in bed can back fire and make you out to be kind of an airhead. Nothing stings harder then the cold hard truth, but if you don't have anything, don't even try this and just leave it how it is.
Also make sure that the crowd are strangers and not his buddies, because the worst thing that can happen is that his buddies jump in where they see their friend is struggling with a come back line.
You gotta split him from the rest of the herd, where he is alone and vulnerable, just like hunting lionesses on the African plains.

[Asker]

this gave me chills

[Willow4]

I think a way to really flatten a man's ego is to question his abilities as a man, I don't think they would take it too much to heart if you simply called them fat or ugly (albeit anyone would find that a bit hurtful). Women are much more likely to become upset by direct insults to their appearance. I can imagine a man would take a major blow to being told that he can't provide properly, he is useless, has a crappy low paid job or is a complete wimp in comparison to other men and can't keep a woman. I don't know if men would agree but I reckon insulting his efforts in bed might be degrading for a man aswell.

I'm sure guys will be much better able to answer this though :)

[kairon156]

sounds about right. although I don't care about having a girlfriend so that one wouldn't work on me.

[Annymous8]

A way to hurt a guy's ego is to tell him that whatever his worst fear is will come true.

[abundantlyrich]

Shame him in public and state he is a small penis indeed

[kairon156]

man-shaming is pretty bad and more common than most might think.

[JoeEDangerously]

Yeah, I called a girl ugly once. She did something really dicked up and it was well-deserved. She was pretty devastated though. I heard she cried for hours. I'm not remorseful, honestly. She REALLY deserved it. But anyway, guys have a thing about penis size, so don't say it's not big enough or anything like that. You also don't want to say any of his friends are "hot" or whatever. Common sense stuff. Just be a cool person. Don't whine about ex-boyfriends or anything, obviously. Also don't insult us, you know? Like if someone plays games don't say "videogames are stupid" or anything. Our hobbies are important to us. If they weren't they wouldn't be our hobbies, would they?

That's pretty much it. Just have some common sense and treat us like equals and we'll do the same. If the guy you're with doesn't do that he's not worth it.

[Camallunt]

If you really truly want to hurt a man fake a relationship with him let him become completely in love then leave him and take anything you can when you do.

Funny enough despite what is said about men they get hurt the same way women do, you just have to be a little more tactical with it like more careful wording or making sure certain people know or just repeat the same digs over and over til it sinks in.

[Belgie]

Depends on the man, but usually you want to find the thing that he is most ashamed about, and reveal it to the person who's respect he craves the most.

[Mgoods]

...wow.

[TheNewClassic]

So mean but true

[Asker]

What if he's ashamed about having a small dick ?

[Daniel121]

Damn I hope there aren't any pissed off girls around here!

[punchline]

It hurts when a girl beats me in video games, and taunts me about it.

Depends on the guy actually.
If he's a nerd, you say that he sucks academically, or he can't play video games like a real man.

If he's a social beast, you just taunt him about his social status and his friends or something.

If he's an athlete, just call him a slow poke. it really hurts i can tell you that.

[Dionysos]

If you make a man feel like he's fat/ugly, worthless, effeminate, incompetent, pathetic, or like his naughty bits are undersized or somehow abnormally repulsive, you'll eff him up in the head.

Guys are pretty strongly ego dependent.

If you want him to feel good about himself, making him feel needed, wanted, attractive, capable and strong will go a long way.

[Anonymous]

I've been through a lot all because I wanted to date people, I'm still single but glad to find out what personality's are out there, this is what I've experienced
get you friends to laugh with you as you pretend to ask the guy out
runaway from a guy when he's trying to talk to you
ask a guy to meetup and never show up, keep talking to the guy for 2 days pretending your nice and all that but on the 3rd day say I have no interest in seeing you stop contacting me,
talk to me online as soon as you saw my face didn't talk to me again

there's more than that but I have just forgotten about it I guess

[TheGamingOne]

It's not easy tp hurt a man, what you could do to really hurt him is strip away all of his friends get very one to hate him infect his computer witha trojan and brick it
Then he has nothing left
P.S. if you break a nice guy you leave a person behind who doesn't care about anything anymore, these people are very dangerous so be careful who you break.
Especially if he is mentally unstable (3 killing spree radar ready XD (im gonna go to hell for that))

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Probably penis size would be a way to hurt his ego...or lack of kissing ability.

[chidude]

Lol, most of the responses here made me laugh, thanks guys.

[thesaintman]

his abstance of your love is enought to hurt him. for real men that is :)

[genericname85]

i think think the worst thing is :"you are terrible in bed"

[Anonymous]

Tell him he has a small dick
Tell him he's fat when he isn't. Two guys brought it up a week later
Laugh him when he compliments you

[Anonymous]

" I think we should just be friends " boom selfconfidence gone

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Dont tell them they have a small penis

[Anonymous]

Rejection usually has that affect.

[MyUsernameRules]

Ugly, skinny or fat.

[Anonymous]

"You have a small penis!" seems to do the trick.

[alieni]

Weak and skinny