Not a joke: My little bro has been stealing my underwear. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I really don't wanna just call him out on this, can't imagine how weird things would be between us after that. But I really don't want him to continue to borrow my panties to do god-knows-what with. He's in his mid-teens and I'm in my early 20s. First noticed a few months ago that my underwear drawer had been ransacked (was kind of a fluke that I noticed things were out of place, but I knew for sure that day that a certain bra was in a certain place and when I looked the next time it had definitely been moved).

Thought maybe my mom had been looking for weed or something (lol she knows i smoke, i actually thought maybe she'd wanted to borrow some but I never even bothered to say anything to her). The next time I noticed anything weird was when I went to do laundry and a pair of panties that I KNEW I'd worn a couple nights before was like totally MIA,

This happened one more time and then I was really confused. I knew my sister wasn't borrowing my dirty underwear lol eww, but I asked her about it anyway and she's the one who mentioned that maybe our bro took it. He's clearly interested in girls now but is a total introvert who hasn't had any luck actually dating or whatever as far as we know.

So finally I snooped and found a few pairs of my panties and a couple that I think were my sisters in his dresser! I'm more than a little freaked out by this, but I guess maybe it could be normal? I've heard of guys wanting to sniff panties and wear them and stuff before, but the thought of my brother doing this is obviously pretty shocking. Bottom line is I don't want to make things permanently awkward between us, because I'm sure he'd be really embarrassed if I confronted him. But I also would feel too weird about allowing him to keep doing this.

[iambread]

I think you should tell him in a non serious way when it's just the two of you. Something like: Dude you gotta stop taking my underwear *chuckle*. At this point life will be in slow motion for him. Not too much pressure but a moment of OH MY GOD SHE KNOWS I'VE BEEN STEALING HER PANTIES AND DOING STUFF WITH THEM OH NO... NO NO. So a positive reaction could be him saying ok and apologizing. A negative reaction could be him trying to deny it (even though you know for sure) and/or getting angry and blowing up.
Also maybe try to reassure him that you understand but he can't do that sort of thing and that you won't tell anyone ever. And also tell him you will help him find a girlfriend (as long as he is worthy) and answer any questions he has.

[molan]

He is most likely sniffing your panties (possibly masturbating meanwhile as well). It can become very awkward indeed, however not permanently.

You simply tell him to keep his hands of your underwear, not mentioning anything about why, nor commenting about it being weird. Do when you are alone, and in a calm voice, not angry or accusing.

Allowing him to keep doing this, would be weird indeed, even though he would appreciate it for a while he too will feel awkward about in the future.

[Asker]

Thanks so much hun, this is prolly the way I will go about handling the situation. Just asking for my stuff back without sounding mad or accusatory should be enough to put a stop to this. Letting this go on would be so much worse than whatever feelings of shame or embarrassement he's gonna experience now

[Abbypink420]

There is always the chance that he wearing your panties. I used to steal my cousins panties to wear them hers always fit me perfectly. But anyway don't confront him about this he will die of embarrassment. I hope I never get caught dressing up and or wearing panties instead of boxers. However if you do confront him and he does admit to wearing your panties be supportive and take him shopping somewhere for his own panties.

[blackskyburn]

Don't do that. Some even can do suicide. I used to steal even my teacher's panty, my cousin's panties, and my aunt panties too. This is shame. My cousin and my aunt knew that i stole their panties but they never told me about. Let him do whatever he want with your panties. They will stop stealing when they stole mass. Age will teach them. Everyone has good heart and bad heart too. For example, while you masturbating then your mom see it then how you gonna feel. This is just like that. There's only one way that you can stop is locking your belongings. To be honest, all panty guys know that he fascinated you. You can have sex with him with condom, so he will appreciate you. You have to offer him. For me that happened. My cousin sister signal me with her big boobs but i was so shy, that's why i had to loose my opportunity. She even likes me than her boyfriend. I never told her that i want to fuck her. Panty perverting is different than any other. But don't marry ok.

[justbanANNAz]

ahaha u poor thing, question of the day:P

i reckon u should just quietly take them when he's not around. then he'll come back and find theyre not there and realise 'oh snap this is embarrassing, i ain't gonna do that again'. basically give him the message that u know what he's doing without u even saying a word to him. he should stop.

[Asker]

Yeah I'm thinking thats definitely my best plan. I don't see him continuing to do this after he knows that we know whats up. And I don't see him mentioning it to me or my sis. But still, wtf? lol Can't believe I'm even in this situation. anywho thanks for the advice!

[justbanANNAz]

no worries:)
haha yeah it did make me laugh thats for sure

[ObliviousSoldier]

At first, I thought we were talking about some seven year old who just loves to bug his sister. Seriously though, talk to him. Don't bring your parents into this. Just you, your sis and your brother.

[Asker]

Yeah, I would totally not do that to him. He's obviously having a hard enough time as it is. I don't need to tell our parents, I'm definitely just gonna talk to him on my own about it or like you said with my sis maybe

[AlanTaz]

If he doesn't stop then put the panties etc on his bed so he knows that you know what he's doing and tell him what they cost you to replace

[StrawberryCream]

Take the panties back. He will propably realuze someone has found out.
If this continues, confront him. This is not okay

[Asker]

Yeah it's definitely not okay. And this is probably the best way to handle it. I don't see him saying anything to me if I just take my stuff back, and hopefully he'd be smart enough to realize that we know what's up and it's not cool at all after that

[StrawberryCream]

Yeah exactly. If it still continues, firat you talk to him. Then you tell parents if it still doesn't stop. He has to stop this because it is not okay to do-whatever-he-does with sisters' panties. No matter what some guys on this site say. Its not okay

[Mauiman]

Hey I used to be one of those pesky brothers. I was 3 years younger than my sister and at about 12 i started the panty raids etc. It didn't help she used to run around in panties and a tshirt all the time. But I was just starting to figure out girls and low and behold I found out my sister was a girl. haha. So i suppressed all the memories thinking I was just an odd pervert and found out recently it's not uncommon for sisters/brothers to spy/experiement as they grow up. Little brothers have access to women in their own homes typically when they finally figure out girls aren't icky. The mother and any sister will often have to put up with their curiosity and snooping. Believe me I was lucky I was never caught. I used to spy on my sister changing and in the bath at times (I actually drilled a small hole) and used to "use" her panties for my own masturbation. Yeah I know it was weird but again not uncommon. I grew up pretty normal and my sister and I have a fairly normal relationship despite the early sexual behaviors. She used to see me too. We never "experimented" but I guess we were both curious to the opposite sex. She's seen me naked and with a hard on and even masturbating. I've only seen her naked and of course used her panties to my own satisfaction. That's kind of how we had an odd arrangement. She figured out I was using her panties and never said a word but would spy on me when I went into her room to find new ones in her hamper. We've laughed about it all now. Apparently her friends had similar deviant little brothers.

[Anonymous]

I know that this may appear creepy and all considering he is your brother, a blood relative. But at his age, all he sees is a girl, and boys' hormones are very intense. He probably is not attracted to you per-say, but he is attracted to vagina. Any thing pertaining to that area, including underwear, arouses him. He may have a panty fetish, he may like your dirty panties because they may have the stains and scent on them.

When I was real young, I picked up my little sis's panties and smelled them. I instantly got rock hard.

[Asker]

I guess if I can try to think about it like that it might actually be less creepy. The fact that he's prolly just curious about girls in general, and since my sis n I are the only ones around I guess it kinda makes sense. Still not cool that he's been doing this, but I'm trying to understand where he's coming from. He's going through a weird time obviously, I'm not gonna be a huge bitch to him even when I confront him about this

[Opinion Owner]

You are a good sis

[Asker]

thanks, I try :). hopng he feels the same after tomorrow, but i'm not even gonna confront him face to face, just gonna take the stuff back (altho i don't know if any amount of washing would make me feel okay with wearing it again), and pray that he never mentions it

[nikiboy]

i started out as being curious about my sisters panties too. I would smell them inthe laundry but then I got more interested and started to inhale their scent as I masturbated. which was super exciting. But next I figured out I could rub my penis into her clean undewear and then things descended as I eventually ejaculated regularly into the crotch of all her clean panties rubbing it in carefully and putting them back for her wear. The high for me was getting my sperm against her vagina. Finally one time on holiday I woke up very early and found both her and her friends bikinis still damp hanging in the shower and I soaked them both way more than usual. but they woke up and came out wearing them half an hour later. omg. they were both walking around in front of me with my sperm rubbing in their vaginas.
I was freaking out ! I have finally gotten over doing it but it has taken a lot of time.

[decemberxblue]

Come on, he's probably not sniffing or anything. He's probably just profiting / selling them to friends / your secret admirers. :-D Jokes aside, when him and your mom's in the room say "Hey mom, my underwear has been gone missing. You don't know of anybody stealing them do you?", basically being indirect.

[jgarcia]

well he most certainly might be sniffing them or jacking off with them there's another possibility out there he might be wearing them. a lot of younger guys try this around 12 13 it's completely normal and you shouldn't be worried although if you want him to stop taking yours maybe you should talk to him lovingly and reassure him that he's not weird. maybe offer to take him to Victoria Secret and buy some panties for him

[Asker]

omg the last thing I would do would be to take him shopping for womens underwear lol! I already confronted him about it actually. Just took my stuff back at first and then like a day later he told me he was sorry. Almost wish he hadn't said anything to me at all because then we had a super awkward convo where he explained that he was just curious about the smell :\ I told him being curious is ok but Im his sister and this was a huge invasion of my privacy. He said he will respect me and my things and that was pretty much that I hope. I just really wanna see him get over this depression he's been dealing with and meet a girl too

[Ilikenormal]

Lol wow

[Anonymous]

Well he is possibly sniffing them or most likely masturbating with them. Yes its a little weird becuase you are a family member but as you said he has had no contact with girls.

Serious point though, if he has been masturbating with them - and obviously ejaculating; if you accidently put on a pair he's recently done this with the pregnancy risk is very real for upto a few hours after he has done this

[Asker]

omg when I get these back from him the last thing I'm going to do is put them on. I'm thinking more along the lines of burning them lol

[Opinion Owner]

well i thougt maybe if he got himself off and then put them back in your room drawer or something. Tennage boys can (and will) easily cum several times a day

[Asker]

omg too gross to even think about. I'm pretty sure I'd notice if he had done that all over something I was about to wear

[AlanTaz]

Don't bin or burn them I love wearing lace panties nothing weird or wrong with that send them to me

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

I highly doubt any girl can get pregnant from semen in a pair of panties
but you need find a way to stop him from what he's doing even if it's
a note on your panties inside the drawer saying stop taking my panties

[lordAlex818]

Wow... I've honestly NEVER heard of a guy actually sniffing panties in real life, but what else could he be doing? Oh wait, he might be jacking off in them. I doubt he has any incestuous feelings, tho. At our age, we have pretty strong hormones. And if you're not getting attention from girls, I guess you have to improvise.

[Anonymous]

Just let him do whatever he wants to because if you directly approach him he will die of embrassement and he will stop talking to you for months. Just let him RELAX and let him satisfy and after that he will surely put them back from where he found them. I am telling You this because this is normal things for guys to do and you should never think of this as a big deal. I am telling you this because I have also been in this type of scenario And trust me! that changed everything in my life when I get caught! So I hope you understands whatever I am telling you. Thank you for your attention. And nevermind my English!

[NotJustAGuy]

I would take the panties and stuff back... He'll know you've caught him out without actually confronting him once he notices they are missing from his dresser...

[ecell85]

Ok I did the same thing growing up. I just found it exciting to wear them I would always get so hard. My sister found out I was doing same thing and she took all her panties out of mu stash spot and bought me some new panties to wear we never talked about it but we both knew what was going on.

[Anonymous]

Hell no thats nasty af lol sisters are gross unless he has some redneck fantasy lol anyway just tell him dude the problem isn't going to go away until measures are taken to prevent them either talk to him or have your mom talk to him lol

[Asker]

I know right? So gross lol. I seriously doubt it's anything more than him just being curious i guess but regardless of his reasons it's still too messed up. I guess I should prolly spare him the further humiliation of our mom finding out and just tell him myself that he needs to knock this shit off

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah tell him to stop and maybe try to get a vibe off him to see if he might be into some other weird shit as well lol but yeah just uh good luck with that

[Asker]

shutup lol. if he's into some other weird shit I definitely do not wanna know. wtf did I do to deserve this? lol

[Opinion Owner]

Its because you've been injecting dem marijuanas man haha I don't know dude but for your bros sake you need to intervene if he continues down this road he's going to end up weird as fuck

[Asker]

lol thank you for the sage advice

[Opinion Owner]

thats what im here for

[Dionysos]

Buy him a few pair from Victoria's Secret and put them in his dresser.

Something slinky. You'll blow the poor guy's mind.

[BoyInYourDreams]

It's a phase all men go through hormones are extremely intense thing at his age for men. For me I sniffed my friends mother's bra and panties at his age... just hide your underwear and try talking to him... maybe that would work

[Eternallylucky]

You obviously can't stop him from stealing your panties on him. How about smearing abit of feces on it. Maybe that will put him off.

[Downanddepressed]

My little sis had dried tire tracks on her underwear. That was what made me aroused.

Of course, that was when I was much younger and a horny kid

[Eternallylucky]

Are you saying you're into poopies?

[alycedia]

yeah i found out my brother is into that and will definitely not help me. dear god.

[wowzer]

Simple. You tell him you will tell Mum and Dad if he doesn't stop.

[Anonymous]

How did this turn out? I have a friend in a similar situation so i'm looking up old Q/A. she's to scared it would be to awkward :P

[alycedia]

Let me know if you get an answer. I'm currently in this situation and it's creeping me out.

[Mickbert]

I used to borrow my sisters panties because they were so sexy! I loved wearing them. I WISH she’d have caught me!!!

[Anonymous]

I mean, I used to sniff my sisters panties out of curiosity but I never actually stole any pairs. My sister caught me in the act once and we had a chat about it. Everything was cool after.

[Asker]

omg what were you thinking when you did this? Just trying to figure out where he's coming from. And what did your sis say to you? I'm pretty sure I can keep my cool if/when I end up confronting him about this, but what all was said during your 'chat' about this?

[Opinion Owner]

I mean sisters are "forbidden". If we can't have you, no one can, which explains why we are so overprotective when you enter relationships. My sister understood why I did that, and we had a discussion about her, and her body, and my general curiosities. She basically allowed me to express all the things I wondered about and answered them accordingly. We are best friends to this day and part of the reason was her cooperation with this specific incident. There is nothing I wouldn't ask her for advice about now, or that I would be worried to express. Society is so judgmental about things like this, (I. e. - the guy below who stereotyped this to rednecks). I come from an affluent family and we are all very well educated. Bottom line is, we are all human beings and curious as a result.

[molan]

I suppose it's normal for boys in puberty to try to sniff the panties of an older sister. But it doesn't makes it ok, you sister did very well though.

[JoeyJo71]

He is possibly thinking of you as just a vagina if there is none around him. That would turn to an attraction very quick though so you may want to stop him. If he's finishing in them then he likely is thinking of you. Are you in the same age range? And do you ever reveal yourself to him? Being brother and sister it's likely he sees you in showy clothing or bathing suits.

[Theguywhomadeurday]

Why don't you buy him some inner wear?
He is short of those that's y he is using yours.
Hahaha😂😂