My mom has been really mean towards me when she drinks lately!

[Anonymous]

She isn't exactly an alcoholic. But she drinks wine every night until she sleeps starting at around 6 p.m. Her & I have always been close, and she has never been mean to me before when drinking. But lately it's getting really bad and upsetting and makes me cry. What should I do? :'( I need some really good advise. Thank you.<333

[fish82]

I think that your mom is going through something in her life that is making her want the escape. If this is happening on a daily basis it is realistic to think that it could turn into a problem. Right now it doesn't sound like she's an alcoholic, but could definitely be on the path to becoming one. You said that she starts in the evening, maybe ask her if she'd go for a walk outside with you.. Might sound out of the ordinary, just tell her that you miss her company and would like to spend a little time with her to catch up, I wouldn't bring up the drinking issue while she's drinking, but when she's sober, Tell her that you understand that life has its ups and downs and that sometimes you just need a drink to relax, tell her your interested in what's going on in her life and would like to help in any way possible, once you have a good conversation going with her, let her know that when she drinks she sometimes says things that are very hurtful and you don't understand why she would want to make you feel this way, when all you want to do is help. These situations can be very touchy, if your mom doesn't want to open up to you and continues with her ongoing behavior, I would ask some other family members to have an intervention with you. If you don't have other family to turn to, you can contact AA on your own terms and get advice from them as to how to approach the situation and the best things to say, they have lots of handouts and work books that have really good insight. If I think of anything else I'll let you know, Hope this helps.

[crazylady29sexyfine]

I think you and your mother need a heart to heart...

SERIOUSLY ask her what's really going on and tell her how much you love her, and these changes are affecting you. If that fails, reach out to other family members so that she can get the help that she needs. She might get mad at first, but in the end its what's best!

[kairon156]

I think you're mom is becoming an alcoholic and should go to AA meetings. (alcoholic's autonomous)

hope she get's the hint. I believe you can pick up AA panelists somewhere but I don't know.]

she's probly not mad at you I say it's a money thing or some other reasion she's mad and you happen to be there. have you talked to her? told her you think she's drinking to much or are you afrade she'll hit you?

[Asker]

No she's not going to hit me! & she has a perfectly functioning marriage and family and everything, it's just only towards me lately. Like digs and rude remarks mainly, but they are just very hurtful. & I'm not someone that crys real easily.

[kairon156]

Ooh. well hopely it's a passing faze in that she is just drinking at night (to me 6pm is a bit early to drink) could she be drinking out of bordom? I know I tend to eat when bored so she might drink. ask her if she want's to watch a movie at 5 and hang out with her when she isn't drinking and if things do get out of hand talk to your dad about takeing your mom to AA because you are worried.

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

It still might be the start of alcoholism. Anyway you don't have to do anything with Alcoholics Anonymous, because really even if she was an alcoholic, that's really something she should do for yourself.

But anyway what you can do if it gets really bad is try talking to a group called Al-Anon. I believe they are the folks you go to if you have friends or family who are alcoholic, and I think the point is teaching you how to deal with if when you know someone like this.

[Anonymous]

intervention