My boyfriend says things that hurt me? (Page 2)

Question

So, my boyfriend is very clear about his physical preferences about women and they represent someone who is completely my opposite: blonde, blue eyes, tall, etc. I resigned myself to the idea that I'm completely not his type... it's okay, he loves me. But it just gets to me whenever he makes comments about this.

 He's always so sincere... one time he told me that I looked disproportionate (my hips/ass is bigger than my breasts), he often jokes about my small breasts and points out my flaws, like it's nothing, while talking (some of them I didn't even know before I met him and made me really insecure). 
Sometimes he would make comments about girls, like saying my friend X is cute or good-looking or compliment someone about her hair or something like that. One night we were out with my friends, he turned to me and said "Sarah looks really good tonight". One other night we were hanging out and, while we were talking, I don't remember why, I ended up saying "beautiful girls", he answered me that when I said that someone showed up to say hi (meaning he got turned on).

I never do this kind of things, give him negative comments about his looks or positive comments about his friends' looks. I think it's very disrespectful and hurting, he sounds insensitive when he does it, like he doesn't understand that it could possibly hurt me.

Am I overreacting? Do you do the same as my boyfriend with your partner?

Snow-Wolf18 · Answer

You should just dump him. He's being absolutely horrible to you by saying all those mean things. If he really loved you, he'd love you for who you are and not be disrespectful at all toward you. You deserve far better than him.

sawno · Answer

He doesn't love you, there is no reason why you should continue to love him.
Find a guy who loves you for who you are both mentally and physically, this is a relationship thats currently doomed to fail.

Anonymous · Answer

Wow, he sounds like a total douche. You should dump him. Someone who says such things is someone who doesn't appreciate you, and isn't worthy of being in a relationship with you. Leave him and start learning to love yourself despite what others may say or think of you.

Anonymous · Answer

I dated a guy like that. We would go to the mall and he'd say damn look at that girl in blue , look at that girl eating ice cream I wish it was my d-ck.. So I thought he was really honest with me and I had learnt to live with it.. Too bad he ended up cheating on me. Its not honesty, its disrespect. He doesn't care how you will feel.

CommieDearest · Answer

He sounds like a total douche. It's not like people in relationships don't notice other people but he seriously acts like you're his wingman. I'd run for the hills.

Anonymous · Answer

You need to tell him this bothers you and if it doesn't stop you need to break up with him. You are not overreacting and this is emotionally abusive behavior, even if he may not realize he is doing it.

2014raser · Answer

Dump that guy. He should be trying to make you happy.

Random_chick_2384 · Answer

That guy is a dick! Dump his sorry ass. And don't be sensitive with him. Make him cry. U deserve someone better.

notgoodwithnames · Answer

act the way he does. if he becomes insecure and start to care then leave him.
and i think if he won't care then he might not give a crap about you and i still think you'd be better off without him anyway

bbyred17 · Answer

Your best solution is to talk to him. Tell him how much his comments hurt because he may or may not realize what he's doing. After that if it continues walk away because he shouldn't make you feel insecure that's not the good relationship.

SarahSue87 · Answer

My bf has never once said anything negative about my appearance, only positive. And he never talks about other girls being pretty or him being attracted/turned on by them in front of me. You're right, it's disrrspectful

7heDubz · Answer

Nope. and Nope.  Dump him once you get fed up with him being an asshole.

xoxousername · Answer

I think u should def talk to him about this , if he loves you he should make you happier and more confident. not the opposite.
let him know you only want stay with whoever make you feel better about yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

You're not overreacting. Let him know how this makes you feel. If he apologizes for it and doesn't do it again, then maybe everything will be fine. But if he keeps doing it, or worse, he doesn't care what you think and even makes fun of you for thinking that, dump his sorry butt. There's way better fishes in the sea than that guy.

Moe111 · Answer

Do the same with him... Start talking about guys in front of him give him a taste of he's own medicine

Alexei_Ustinov · Answer

I would dump his ass. If he loved you he wouldn't say those things about you. He should find you beautiful just the way God made you.

soliloqueen · Answer

Wow this sounds like my first relationship. The one that left me scarred to the point of believing I'm unlovable. Get out before he cheats or breaks your heart some other way. He clearly has no regard for your feelings and as someone else said I can clearly see the trajectory of this relationship and it's not good.

sharonatxoxo · Answer

try ignoring him for a few days and see how he reacts. this guy that sits beside me that like me does this all the time he tell me girls that look hot and stuff and he calls me flat chested (which i dont care) and stuff like that but i just move on. guys like to tease girrls like that all the time, but if you were in a relationship with this guy for a long time he shouldn't be saying things like that and maybe think about staying wiith him

misscocobutter · Answer

He is a pig. He is disrespecting u. What are u going to do about it? It is ok to stand up for yourself u know. This would make me so angry and I would tell him it's not on

Nathalyy · Answer

You should tell him it bugs you! And try doing the same to him and see if he likes it! He's probably an immature guy because all guys/girls should know what can hurt anothers person feelings!

purplishone · Answer

You should talk to him this topic sister. I'm sure he doesn't want to hurt you but people can be sometimes tactless. He should realize that he hurts you. Good luck =)

Anonymous · Answer

He sounds awful, tell him how it makes you feel. If he doesn't change leave him. You deserve much better.

Dogdude · Answer

Sounds like a prick. Don't let him put you down, tell him it hurts you. He will change if he really loves you.

rUinSAYAN · Answer

act the same way as he does (switch roles). if he still don't get it or comes to a conclusion, then I consider a break up

genericname85 · Answer

you should clarify that it hurts you if he isn´t considerate enough to think of it...

Silverware · Answer

REAL MEN make OTHER girls jealous of their woman. LITTLE BOYS make their woman jealous of other girls.

ZOMBIE3273 · Answer

Some men are seriously just oblivious to how girls feel about things. Point it out to him. Tell him you hate it. Do it back to him so he can understand. Guys have to experience it to understand.

Phy3dd · Answer

My ex was like that. It was a form of manipulation that he used to keep me around. He made me believe I wouldn't be able to have/be with anyone else.

blessed_curse · Answer

You need to talk with him. Tell him that it hurts you and he'll understand.. If not, that means I don't know maybe he doesn't really care If it hurts you.. break up. thats it.

pooper89 · Answer

You're not overreacting but have you talked to him about it? He probably doesn't know you have a problem with it so it's up to you to address it with him

Anonymous · Answer

You are not overreacting. Dump his ass immediate. He's captain douche.

Anonymous · Answer

Hey I do that to my previous girlfriend. It's just guys banter. Some guys like me enjoy winding up their partner. Get them all worked up. It's a habit. But if it gets hurtful tell him. I seriously know he doesn't mean it.

username3 · Answer

OH MY GOD ! what are you doing with a guy like this AGAIN PLEASE?

crazyincalifornia · Answer

No! I am so mad at him. Leave him.  Aaaaaagggghh!

Anonymous · Answer

I'm sorry, but he sounds extremely disrespectful. You deserve better than that.

devilINSIDE · Answer

Being straight forward is not disrespectful that's called bravery and may be others also say that for you are you happy with them? That they didn't said it on your face, think...

girl111m · Answer

the only really bad thing he did is saying you look disproportionate but saying other girls are beautiful is not really bad you may also find other guys hot.

Anonymous · Answer

Sorry but that is not love and he will be moving on till he gets what he is looking for. Leave him. You won't until he cheats on you at least once but you should.

apshm · Answer

He obviously doesn't respect or appreciate you. Dump his ass.

DaddyPet · Answer

A guy that really loves you won't do this. It is time to sack him

Givemeit · Answer

He is a jerk breakup with him I were I would have done it long time ago. You deserve to be treated better

Hajar_Whitestone · Answer

You know what @Asker poke his face :/ give him a good punish to his face --"

beautifulangel76 · Answer

He clearly wants to be with someone else. You should find somebody that will love you for you.

lauren89 · Answer

Cheat on him, teach him a lesson he will never forget. Sorry I'm a little vengeful.

Lachea13 · Answer

dump him, sounds like a typical arrogant jerk man who needs a balls kicking =)

abundantlyrich · Answer

He is a sexist pig like some of the guys here in gag. Better off with a blow up doll.

Anonymous · Answer

LEAVE HIM!!! He's a toxic man. Anyone who makes you feel insecure is not worth hanging on to. He's abusive and you are in danger.

resham_chandwani · Answer

Girl you ahud totally breakup with him! If a guy loves you he'll never hurt you! And for a guy his girl shud be the the most special ! trust me you'll move on nd u'l find a better guy who'll see how much special you are! :)

Marisasista · Answer

He sounds like a total jerk, if he really loved you he wouldn't say hurtful things like that (whether on purpose or not) you deserve someone who treats you right and makes you feel beautiful. Cut your losses and move one cause you can do much better

HoneyButterCup525 · Answer

wow he sounds just like my ex,... it could be him! lol idk... DUMP HIS A$$.

kingsean · Answer

Well if he's being like that to u he clearly doesn't know u he's just an ass hole did u ever just think of giving an honest guy a chance like lets face it u just chose him on looks what do u expect

cth96190 · Answer

You need a new boyfriend.

candirose · Answer

You need to break up with him. You deserve someone better.

kittyd7015 · Answer

you should be critical of him and show him how it feels xxx

MaybeNormalQuestions · Answer

In my opinion he doesn't seem right for you.

Anonymous · Answer

if he really love you, he will never hurt you, may be he only say it not his meaning

zombiebabe · Answer

just get rid of that asshole.. you deserve better

theperfectdater · Answer

Leave him and move on

Iron_Man · Answer

You should think about maybe moving on

Versz · Answer

You don't give him good sex.

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