My friends with benefits called us having sex making love what does that mean?

[Anon8713]

He's been my friends with benefits for about a month. He always compliments me. Says he loves things, like "I love how you feel" etc. We text everyday and he will FaceTime me fairly often. We cuddle and kiss a lot, take showers together have hung out without having sex etc. We see eachother almost every day. Both of us agreed to be just friends with benefits when this all started. We both talk to other people but we only have sex and such with eachother. He told me recently that he loves making love to me and that he agreed that cuddling with eachother is almost as good as sex. I'm just looking for some outside perspective on this situation. Thanks.

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If you're not going to give a real opinion on my question and are just going to be an ass please keep your comments to yourself.

[Nicetouchguy]

It sounds like the relationship is progressing into more than friends with benefits - at least I think that he would like it too. Why don't you just ask him if he has further intensions. If he does and you don't then you should break-it-off before he gets too attatched.

[lifeisatrip123]

Couldn't have said it better myself.

[Anon8713]

I would bring it up but I like how things are. I wouldn't mind if he wanted more but at the same time don't want to risk what we already have by bringing it up because if he doesn't want it to be more I don't want to have him think that I'm not satisfied with how things are and go running for the hills thinking I want more right now.

[Anon8713]

Just to clarify I don't even know if I will want more than what him and I currently have. The situation is pretty good as is because I don't know how long I will be in this area and I'm a single mom as of a few months ago. I'm content. I would be happy if he wanted more, but I'm happy with how it is too, if that makes any sense. I'm just confused because of how he is.

[trudds]

Im in the same situation, We entered this as friends with benefits but over the past two months its not felt like just sex, I would be keen if he wanted more but also enjoy how things are and dont want them to change ifbit means he ends us. I guess we just have to wait n see how it goes, i am leaving that discussion up to him to bring up, im not in a hurry though

[bubbletrouble]

It seems to me that its now moving into full on relationship. You have the power to stop that or let it progress...

[Anon8713]

Thank you

[PalmWave]

Sounds like an uncommitted relationship to me.

[Anon8713]

Thank you

[theperfectdater]

It means durrrrrr that shit doesn't EVER work out. You'll grow up

[Anon8713]

I didn't ask the question because I'm hoping that it turns into a relationship or to have rude comments made, thank you. I am grown and I know the risks associated with the type of situation I am in. I've had friends with benefits before and know from experience that it has the possibility of not going anywhere just as it has the ability to go somewhere the the latter is a much slighter chance. I was just asking to get an outside perspective on this specific situation because he was the one to approach me about being friends with benefits and has been the one to say the things that sound like more than just fwb.

[theperfectdater]

It doesn't matter who approaches who. And yeah, there are lots of successful relationships that started out as friends with benefits Lol... WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG WITH THIS GENERATION?

[Anon8713]

I'm in the same age group as you are. I don't expect this friends with benefits relationship to become a real deal because that's not what I'm looking for right now. I was just trying to get opinions on why my friends with benefits would be saying things like he loves making love to me and that he misses me etc. Do you have an actual opinion on the matter or not?

[theperfectdater]

Sure I will state a clear opinion because obviously my age group counterpart has trouble discerning anything.

My opinion is grow up. Learn to have respect for yourself by not sleeping around (or having options as you call them...) Be a young woman and an example for other lost 'girls'

[Anon8713]

The friends with benefits relationship I am in is monogamous. I am not sleeping around. I do not have sexual relations with more than one person at a time. I am not ready to be in a relationship that has a title because not all that long ago my child's father and I had a bad falling out. Not that that is really any of your business. Just so you know I do not appreciate you assuming that I'm some stupid little girl because I am in a friends with benefits type relationship. I do have some feelings for my friend but am not willing to approach them currently because things are still new and I don't want to be hurt again while the wounds from my child's father are still relatively fresh. The situation I am in now feels safe for my heart. I just wanted to see what other people thought about my friends approach to things and if he was possibly developing feelings that are more than what we agreed to be for now.

[theperfectdater]

right

[Anon8713]

I will add that yes I've talked to other people but I don't plan on starting anything with them because I am content where I am. Those who I do talk to on a regular basis know that I'm in a monogamous friends with benefits relationship and respect that. So do you have a real opinion or are you going to continue to be a thick headed ass?

[theperfectdater]

I stated an opinion. Also, you being content has nothing to do with a POSITIVE situation and you know it. You are in flux

[Anon8713]

I'm guessing your "right" comment was sarcastic and that you have no real opinion. You seem to be one of those people who like to belittle others to make themselves feel better. Here's some information for your tiny little closed mind. A person can have a monogamous relationship with someone without being in a relationship. Just because him and I have titled what we are as friends with benefits doesn't mean we are running around and having sex with other people.

[theperfectdater]

Listen, I stated my opinion about you needing to be more mature and a good example for the younger girls around you.

"a person can be in a monogamous relationship without being in a relationship" makes sense

But let's say it does make sense... It's not a positive situation at all. It's ultimately negative. Which I don't think you would disagree with at all. Especially if you claim to have experience in doing this.

[Anon8713]

If I wasn't in flux Id be dead. Life is always changing. So of course I'm in flux. My current situation is better than the actual relationship I had with my child's father so I'd say it is positive. I do not appreciate that you've been insinuating that I'm a stupid little girl who needs to grow up because I know where I'm at in life. Yes my situation is not ideal but it works for now. No him and I are not in a traditional relationship because that's not where we are at in our lives at this point. Plus with our profession you never know how long you will be in a certain area. I will apologize for being rude to you. I only did so because I felt you disrespected me with how you worded things.

[Anon8713]

If him and I were having sex with other people I would say it's a negative situation and very unhealthy for all parties involved. I know that from experience. This would be my first monogamous friends with benefits because I had been at one point a stupid girl but I grew up and learned that living that way was not healthy and was a very risky lifestyle. I believe that despite this relationship not having the title of officially together hanging over it that it is healthier than other relationships I have been in both official and fwb. Would I suggest that younger girls be in this type of relationship? I can't say either way if I would. I would tell a younger person male or female that they shouldn't be intimate with someone unless they are truly mature enough and ready for the good and bad that comes with that type of relationship. I never had someone tell me that so I learned the hard way. My situation is good for me right now. He makes me feel cared about and special and I think...

[theperfectdater]

Felt disrespected? What are you a gangsta? Lol

Good luck with all that though.

[Anon8713]

... That's more important than having a title of boyfriend/girlfriend etc. all I wanted to know is if the things he's been saying and doing possibly mean he's developing feelings for me. I know I have noticed feelings developing for him and it scares me a bit because I'm not ready to have a relationship that would hurt badly if it ended. As it is now I can care about him and feel relatively strong feelings for him but I can avoid saying/thinking that I'm falling in love with him because friends with benefits aren't suppose to fall in love with eachother. Not sure if that really makes sense or not because I'm on the verge of falling asleep but hopefully you understand what I'm saying

[Anon8713]

I felt you disrespected me by insinuating that I'm a stupid little girl... Obviously that gangsta comment shows you are not as mature as you like to think you are. When I said I felt disrespected I was saying you disrespected me as a person by assuming that I'm a stupid girl who needed to grow up.

[theperfectdater]

Telling another person that they need to grow up is not disrespect. Just as saying to a person that they need to clean up their life isn't disrespect.

[theperfectdater]

And gang members pine on 'respect' because they are incredibly insecure.

[Anon8713]

It is too disrespectful to tell someone they need to grow up especially when you do not know said person. How about I reword the feeling disrespected comment to I did not appreciate you assuming I'm a stupid little girl who needs to grow up because I am a mature adult who only wanted to find opinions on what my friend's actions and comments may mean. I did not ask my question to have someone try to tell me I need to grow up because they do not agree with a friends with benefits type relationship.

[theperfectdater]

Understood. Although, I still believe the "relationship" you have is immature in itself.

[Anon8713]

Why is that?

[Anonymous]

it means ur a troll n u always ask bs questions like this where the answer is obvious u just want attention

[Anon8713]

No it means I was actually trying to get people's opinions and there's assholes like you and the other dick on here who are the trolls

[Opinion Owner]

u always ask dumb questions though just like a troll

[Anon8713]

I've asked one question and it was to get the opinion of other people to see what they thought of my friend's comments and actions to me. It's not trolling if you genuinely are seeking answers.

[TotallyAlmost]

Sounds like a man in love to me.