Best guy friend rejected my hug?

[Anonymous]

We're really close and have known each other for 9 months now and we talk or text constantly almost every day since we met, occasionally til 3 or even 5 in the morning. I'm honestly not sure if he likes me, but he always makes a specific effort and goes out of his way to see me at break, lunch, in between one of his classes, and sometimes after school. He tried to hug me once a while ago but I was so surprised I might not have reacted as warmly as I usually would, and that was that. Since then, he's only touched my hair and shoulders a few times but we don't touch much. Today, he was in a bad/depressed mood because of something that happened to him yesterday and I asked if he was okay and he said no, so I just hugged him from the side (with both arms) and he after a couple seconds he quietly said "I don't need a hug. Get off me" So I just said "okay" and let go but it was awkward for me. He acted normal after and still came to see me, but I don't know... I'm pretty sure he only acted like that because he was upset.. what do you think? Should I be mad or let it slide or what?

[GiveMeABreakPlz]

Yep, he was hurt/upset about something. If I were you, I'd try hugging him again. I've done the whole "get off me, I don't need your help" thing, a lot of people do that. It's not that I don't want the hug, In my head it goes "don't pretend like you care, you don't really care, go away". I just wanna see if somebody would go out of their way to try it again and show they truly care :)

[Asker]

Wow, I never thought of it that way before! :o Thanks!

[GiveMeABreakPlz]

I hope he takes your hug because when I did that thing, nobody dared to try twice. And it wasn't some kind of 'game' I was playing, I really felt like nobody cared and they were just pretending to be nice. There's a quote that goes “Sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down.”

But do consider that he might flip out and say "i already told you, get off me!", it's not your fault though. I would be SO flattered if somebody went that far for me...

[Asker]

I really like that quote! I'll remember that the next time I see him feeling down about something, becausethat really seems like something he'd think! He says I'm nice to everyone, so maybe he doesn't feel like I truly care? :/ He did take the hug, but I admit I was too scared to try it again because he totally WOULD flip out on me lol next time though... I'm going to break those walls down because I don't want him to see him suffer alone. Thank you soo much!! :)

[itsme_goodsamaritan]

I think you should respect his wishes for not wanting to hug. Being close friends doesn't give us a right over that person.

[Asker]

Of course lol I thought so too :P

[RyuTakumi]

let it slide. totally.