Should I hit him up first or give up?

[Anonymous]

I've been talking to this guy for a couple weeks and we text everyday but there's breaks in between of course. Sometimes he replies quickly and other times not but I do the same. Anyways, last week I replied to his text and he didn't reply for 3 days so I just said hey and he answered within minutes and the next day he sent me a morning text and we talked all day while he was in school too. Since then we have talked everyday as usual but again he replied to my message and I replied back, now its been 3 days again. Basically I don't want to seem desperate, I like him a lot and he always seems interested in talking. We both kinda "take turns" texting first so its not just him or me. So I'm thinking I should just let him be but at the same time I wanna text him even though I know I have a feeling he's prob losing interest. He has started college again recently but I dont think that's why. What would you do? I don't know if he's playing games or just simply is bored with me.

If you wanna talk to him, hit him up

Wait for him, if he doesn't reply just forget him

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Well about to try and text people lol let's see what happens

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Actually never mind everyone, just noticed he unfollowed my Instagram lol May sound very silly but to me that means he's not interested anymore, forget that. Thanks everyone for your answers :)

[soneoak]

Personal opinion here, not advice.

Sometimes, a guy reads garbage materials from random 'dating tips' websites. One such thing is to 'play the girl'. That if he does it right, he would get you vulnerable enough to sleep with him.

Some take it as a compliment, others feel it is unfair, self serving, and manipulative.

Not everyone plays games, some people do, because they know very little about relationships, others are more comfortable with things.

I'll just share my personal view on this now.

I talk to girls with genuineness. I don't bother with how many days wait or rules for this or rules for that. To me, every girl is a good girl. I don't have to set up tension or whatever, I just talk to them like a real human being. Skip the games, skip the small talk and superficial things. I get to the crux of things.

When I discuss such issues with a girl, I get to really talk to her and find out about how she feels about things. I get to know her motivations, her dreams, her desires. Any guy who waits around with stupid games like this are going to lose out. I got my first girlfriend like that, she was single, but there was 'this guy' who seemed interested.

Things go super fast, because all the groundwork for a relationship is set straight away.

However, this was only because this girl was actually interested in a relationship, there were a number of guys after her, all pulling random non-sense too.

I feel that guys who make a girl wait are doing it for their own stupid ego boost.

If you want to do it, make sure you're doing it with a girl who is actually into playing too. Otherwise its plain unfair to her.

She wants something, but somehow no attractive guy has the balls to go up to her and just make things happen. Everyone's all playing dumbass games, and she doesn't have a clue how to 'play'.

For girls who play, sure, play with them, but even genuineness beats the crap out of playing.

This guy isn't all that jazz, pass on him if something comes along.

[Asker]

This really helped a lot, makes me think about the situation in a different perspective. I'm still going back and forth in my head on what to do. I appreciate it! Thanks :)

[DabieberRoyalty]

I need to marry you. I will find you and put a ring on that finger. stay put buddy. stay put. ..

[justbe]

At what point does he initiate contact? You have to give him the opportunity to do that. Just relax and sit back... go do your thing.

[Asker]

Well when we texted on most days he would initiate but if you mean as of right now, he initiated the night he stopped replying. Yeah I know, I'm giving him a chance, if not then I'll figure out what to do. Thanks!

[bama_girl89]

I can understand some saying go for it and some saying let him text you. I was brought up to know that men should pursue. If he likes you, then he'll do what it takes to keep you. Not saying you shouldn't put any effort in. However, it sounds like he's the one playing a silly game. ignoring you fort three days then back on. Thats childish. If you feel in your heart that he should pursue you, then keep to that. If you wanna chase a man, go for it. I recommend buying Steve Harvey's book Act like a lady, think like a man. #1&#2. It'll open your eyes. 👍

[Asker]

Yeah I agree that he should definitely pursue and he is being pretty childish, I feel the same way about it. I just don't know what he's thinking (maybe feels he was being clingy or just playing games) so I wanna just try to say hey so I can say I tried and if he doesn't reply then that'll be it 100%. I know I shouldn't be but I can't get him off my mind so I need to just try. Thank you! :)/

[Corsair777]

How is it childish if he is unaware that he is in a courting ritual? Most people just text for fun and if you're not committed he's not obligated to respond quickly or at all.

[usernameismyusername]

Value yourself as a girl more than he does. I hate rejection so much in my life. I never go after a guy. If he's interested enough he will surely find a way to get to you. Love yourself and don't let anyone pull you down. It doesn't mean you have
to give up on him but remind yourself that you're the prize here and he has to do his best to earn you, not the other way around. Play hard to get co's if he really want you he will do his best to get to you. I hope this help. Good luck!

[Asker]

Yeah I'm trying its hard to fight the urge though to be honest. I have no idea what to do but for now I'm gonna wait and see. I get what you're saying, I completely agree, thank you! :)

[yct6502]

bad advise. this is the games little girls play.

Am I saying go after and text him every min of the day? No. But I just walked away from a girl because she was doing something like the above. I feel like I will go after you till a certain point but after that I am done. I have no time for little girl games. And guys do it too, dont get me wrong.

[Asker]

Yeah I understand what you're saying but I'm really not trying to play games or make him chase me etc. Its just simply that he never replied to my text while we were having a convo and I feel like if you don't reply to that then why should I hit you up again? He got my texts, I feel like if he was inyersted he'd reply. Last time I did text him first even after he didn't reply but I need him to show me he wants to talk to me also ya know?

[Chicka25]

Just send him a text that say hey, what u doing. If he responds then that a conversation starter, if he doesn't respond then just give up. He may just be busy, maybe he has things to do, some times people have a few bad days in a row n just don't wanna talk. Send one last text and see what happens.

[Asker]

Yeah I understand, it happens, thanks for your advice :)

[Anonymous]

That's EXACTLY what I'm going through now :( He didn't speak for 2 days and I felt he was ignoring me but I found out he was in hospital and didn't have his phone.. haha, but getting to it just text him first one more time and ask what's been up with him lately. If he doesn't reply at all then forget him because he doesn't deserve your attention or time :)

[Asker]

Aw well at least you figured that out before gettin mad lol yeah he's on IG sometimes so I know he's fine lol I think I'm going to text him tomorrow just once so I can say I at least tried. Thanks! :)

[Opinion Owner]

I was actually getting ready to delete him from my contacts lol, but glad I could help in the slightest :) Hope he stops being an ass and replies! :p

[matheus_mb]

There's been 3 days. I don't see any problem if you text first again.

[veronica44]

Hold of for a bit, otherwise this stupid on and of will just continue.

[pleapeddler]

dont text or write him for a specific time , he'll miss u and he'll talk to u

[samit11]

I say text him. He probably thinks that if he doesn't wait those 3 days, you will see him as clingy. So text him first to change his mind.

[ky1990]

If you like talking to him just do it, if he's shy and doesn't think you want to talk with him or thinks that he's being clingy (big fear for blokes) he might not keep talking with you.

[grahamcracka]

I always preview texts then forget to reply. it happens. just text if you want. or call maybe

[girl111m]

talk to him sometimes i take long time to reply and sometimes i dont even reply because I forgot dont text him am million times neither but just keep going for it if you want i.

[Virulent]

I would give up. Despair ever so sweet.

[answeryou]

if you want something, go get it. period.

[Anonymous]

Just text him first instead of waiting

[jonwhit]

hit him up
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[Marrryyyyy]

hit him up first!!!