I gave a girl a BAD first date. Any idea how to fix this?

[pmodern]

I (22m) met a girl (19) at a rodeo in August. Through mutual friends we hit things off really well. Everyone else ended up leaving and it was just us to hanging out. I didn’t ask for her snap because I really wasn’t in the place to date- my work schedule was all over the place. Through our mutual friends she ended up finding it out a couple months later. It was like we didn’t miss a beat- we could of snapped/called all night long. The day of the official first date comes along and I hardly got any sleep. I worked late the night before and was completely out of it. I did not feel like myself at all. I decided to go on the first date, things seemed to go well- we had planned a second date. She ended up cancelling the second date because she felt “sick”. Come to find out through our mutual best friend that she thought I was a different person than when we first met and over the phone. I don’t have any idea how to fix this, because she has since moved on. She truly seemed like a special girl, and I’m left wondering if I should of just rescheduled the first date.

[Truthatanycost]

This is doomed to failure because you think you need to prove yourself to her. But this is what happens when you're young, have no idea what your purpose is, and place women on a pedestal. Take her down from the pedestal, get on your purpose and spend that time worrying about things that will truly help you ascend. When you do this, then things happen more naturally. When you know what you were born to do, have accomplished your life goals, know what you were sent here to do... do you think you'd still be worried about performing or impressing?

'She truly seemed like a special girl'

She's not...

[AviatorTom]

You can only make a first impression once. She's moved on and so should you. Find a nice girl to date.

[Lilly970]

Did you feel like yourself on the date or were you extremely fatigued from work? You could send her a text apologizing for a bad date and explaining that you were very tired and the date understandably was boring. That’s what I gather anyway. BUT if she meant that she thought you were a different person due to other reasons, I’d say just move on dude. You’ll find someone else.

[Desconhecida]

The answer is simple: tell her the truth. You said you spent hours talking so I imagine if you open up to her, she might see the person you showed her before the date. You didn't feel like yourself that day - tell her! Reach out to the girl you like, don't waste time. Good luck!

[Guy13]

It’s done. Don’t chase like broken bull

[Anonymous]

I sort of think I can remember how reading what I am about to write may feel at 22 (20 years ago for me); I will write what I have to nonetheless.

The "special girl" for you will not turn her back to you after a first date where you don't perform up to some standards she have. Life isn't a show.

[LovingLoverReturned]

Admit your mistake to her so she knows you aren't delusional.

Try to say somethig witty and Offer to make it up.

If you know her at all suggest such a date that might peak her interest or ask a friend.

[Anno2]

Can't you tell her what you told us about the first "official date"?

Personally wouldn't touch her again if she can't handle my low, but your choice.

[KelleyNice]

Just find another girl. There are dozens of them much like her within a dozen miles and one million in the USA.

[dustybiker]

Live and learn situation. You realized she was special after she was gone. Don’t let it happen again.

[Jamie05rhs]

What the hell, Dusty? It wasn't his fault. Just what exactly did you expect him to do?

[dustybiker]

@Jamie05rhs He didn’t appreciate what he had while he had it. Facts. Never said it as an accusation. Chill.

[Jamie05rhs]

@dustybiker How did he not appreciate her?

[dustybiker]

@Jamie05rhs read his own words.

[Jamie05rhs]

@dustybiker I did. 3 times.
Again, what did he do?

[A_Bell]

I've got nothing. Re-roll a new character and start over.

[PinkRose24]

Lol who cares? There's plenty of fish in the sea.

[cobojovein]

You should follow your gut on this one. If you wanna see her again talk to her. Ask if she would wanna go out for a 2nd date? 1st dates are gun but can be very anxiety provoking. Always follow your heart!! Good luck

[DiegoO]

Work first, women's later. You have a work, you have a schedule. Next time arrange your time better.

[DiegoO]

And be open. Did you tell her you was exhausted or burn out? If you didn't, that was a mistake you should learn from.

[TroyDT2]

Just tell her the truth. Otherwise you'll never know.

[Randalama]

Stranger doesn't want to invest in you. Don't invest in the stranger.

[art84]

She's not interested plain and simple. Just move on to another girl.

[AngryCarl]

Maybe you can fix a bad date, but you can't fix she's not into you.

[Shy_Steve]

Ask what she would prefer on a date and do that and offer to pay for it.

[kuba2333]

same with me too but i like Indian girls who understand problems

[Fuentes]

Find another chick

[jimmy2]

Just tell her you are sorry

[slatyb]

It's over. Move on.