When a guy says "You know you're pretty"?

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I find that offensive lol. Like I am some conceited person. I noticed a lot of guys have sad that to me "You know you're pretty" "You know you're good looking", They really put a emphasis on "you know". I never talk about my looks, and I am very self conscious. I am nowhere near conceited. But what do guys mean when they say that? Are they trying to say I'm conceited? Or in their way are they trying to compliment me? Why can't they just say "you're pretty!" Instead of "You know you're pretty." Lol.

Hannah591 · Accepted Answer

Same, I hate it! It's so awkward, you don't know what to say to it either. It makes me think about anything I've said or done which gives the impression that I'm conceited, but I'm pretty sure I don't.

People who've said it are people I'm close to so I don't think they're trying to say I'm conceited, maybe it's a way to boost our confidence but instead, it makes us paranoid messes!

Guys here are saying it's a sign of attraction but it's been said by entirely platonic male friends after they compliment me and I deny it. They make out I'm lying when I say I don't agree.

It's the same as saying "you know you're really intelligent" in front of people. It's just awkward, embarrassing and unnecessary. I don't want people to think I'm conceited!

I don't appreciate guys saying that.

BumbleSuperBee · Accepted Answer

Yeah i knoow... i get told that a lot with 'u know' and i just think that guys mean to tell u you're pretty but kinda not directly i guess :/ basically, they just want to say you're pretty but they probably put it in a question with 'u know" so you'd say sth back. If they say 'you're pretty' im guessing you'd just stand there and smile or say thanks.
Another theory is that they wanna try to figure out what kind of person u are. If they say u know ur pretty and u say yes, then you're one of those conceited girls who think they can get any guy, if u say no, then that would make u even prettier hehe :)

Bellibooo · Accepted Answer

I think this is a difficult topic.
One guy on here called me deluded and full of myself when I made a joke saying "I look hot in every outfit *smiley with glasses*" and when I told him I was joking that was even worse, because now I had no faith in myself.
Sometimes you just can't win.

AleDeEurope · Accepted Answer

Saying that doesn't mean you're conceited. I know I'm attractive, that doesn't make me conceited, it will if I was always bragging and shoving it on everybody's face.
Acknowledging something positive about you doesn't make you conceited. That's a problem we have. When you say something about yourself people say you're arrogant, egotistical, conceited... like it's only acceptable to say negative stuff.
There's a difference with acknowledging and bragging.
When guys say that, take it as a compliment, you know if you're attractive or not, we all know that.

progboy · Accepted Answer

For me I think it means I think you're pretty therefore lots of other people must think so too and tell you so in which case you must know, if that makes sense. If I ever said it that would be how I meant it. I can see how it could be taken the wrong way which I hadn't really thought about before so thanks for explaining it the way you did. You are very pretty by the way :)

kheserthorpe · Answer

They think your self-consciousness is fake.

Some of them think you're attractive, lucky to be so, and just fishing for complements to pad your self esteem based on your drawing good looks in the genetic lottery.

Others may be more teasing and just saying they're not gonna play that game of showering you with complements because they're too alpha or something.

BelleGirl21 · Answer

Coming from a guy it's a compliment, usually if they're nervous to actually just say "I think you're pretty".
Coming from a girl it most likely means she thinks your conceited.
I hate when guys say that though. It makes me think "seriously? No girl actually thinks that! "

LokiOfEngland · Answer

If I say it to a girl it's meant as a compliment. I'm not suggesting that the girl is arrogant to think she is good looking or anything. I just mean to say that it's obvious to everyone that they are pretty. Therefore how can they not realise it themselves.

xHoneyxBeex · Answer

Yeah. I think a lot of people just assume that if someone is attractive, they MUST know they are attractive and have a ton of self-confidence. In reality, even attractive people can have insecurities and not see their own beauty.

Anonymous · Answer

Do they say this if you post a picture, or is it just random? If it's just random then they are probably just saying "you know" casually. Sometimes I'll start saying something to someone by saying "you know what" even though I don't expect them to say: "yes."

If they are commenting on a selfie then likely they think you are fishing for compliments.

Anonymous · Answer

Their reasoning isn't meant to offend and isn't said because of how you present yourself, or that they think you are conceited. It's more in the idea that they feel common sense should tell you where you stand in the realm of what society deems attractive.

You can know you are pretty without being conceited. Like if you know you are pretty and don't act like a bitch because you don't feel entitled and expect people to treat you different.

That-Guy · Answer

You find this offensive? if a girl says to me:

- You are handsome
- you know you're handsome
- you're sort of handsome
- you put the H in Handsome
- i can see how some girls might find you handsome.

i'll take any of these.

beesod · Answer

Its a golden rule not to compliment a girls looks straight away, especially if you believe she will be attractive too many and hear it a lot.. I guess they say that so they don't make this mistake.. At the end of the day it's just a compliment.

YourFutureEx · Answer

Guys add the 'you know' thing because they don't want to act like perverts. But actually they end-up being weirdo. They're just lacking self-confidence and want you to keep smiling.

QueenJ · Answer

you're pretty yet you barely admit it. i guess they are encouraging you to be proud once in a while

Klaatu51 · Answer

it means what it means... that you SHOULD know too, you're pretty ;-)

madhatters4 · Answer

it's basically a compliment. they're saying "I think you're hot" without saying it

violettasanchez · Answer

Knowing you're pretty doesn't make you conceited, I'd actually take that as a compliment rather than an insult.

Star_Lord · Answer

You know guys just say that on the mouth, Then say I want to bang her, have sex with her. Say this in the heart.

Prof_Don · Answer

Pretty much it's a way to signify attraction, without inflating her ego.

I_M_LEGEND · Answer

these days, you can't just admitt or acknowledge the truth without being labeled something. its really bad.

Anonymous · Answer

It's possible [they] assume you use your looks to manipulate men.

sizedoesnotmatter · Answer

usually when i say dat i mean : "You know you're not pretty" but in ur case i will not mean that at all

notverycreativeguy · Answer

It's probably just a casual 'you know' which people often use for several reasons, you know?

StickStickity13 · Answer

Do you say you're ugly to them? If yes then they're trying to tell you stop seeking attention.

ThatGuy98 · Answer

I'd say it as a compliment, it's like a milder version of "I think you're cute" ^^

Anonymous · Answer

It's a compliment. You shouldn't be offended, unless a crude comment is made.

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