Why do guys ask to hang out then bail?

[OhPaige]

This has happened to me a few times. It just happened today. My new guy friend & I hung out last night over his place. We had a good time, got to know each other, etc. He kept expressing the whole time how he was so into me & I could tell he actually honestly meant it. He asked multiple time to hang out again soon.
He emailed me today around 4pm saying "Im free all day", "We can hang out today if you want". I agreed & said he could come to my place this time. He agreed & said "Cool, I just need to finish some homework then Ill get back to you". he's in law school. 4 hours later he finally replies & says he can't hang out. He messaged me in the first place & said he was free all day! Why do you guys do that? Dont make plans if you know you aren't going to follow through. Im wondering if its actually homework thats keeping him. Ugh... any advice.

[Anonymous]

I think he said the same thing to several people then took his pick who he was gonna hang out with and it wasn't you.

[OhPaige]

Yeah, I was kind of thinking that too.

[Opinion Owner]

meh, fuck him. lol

[OhPaige]

When we were talking last night the subject of do you meet strangers often came up & he said he meets girls every now & then. Usually if I ask a guy that q he'll say not really or no. The fact that he was so blunt leads me to believe he's a bit of a player.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, either that or he wants you to believe that because he reckons you'll see him as desirable if you think other women also see him as desirable. lol

[OhPaige]

Well thats just a stupid thing to think lol. Im not into guys that have women around them all the time. Imaginary or not. He was actually a really cool, laid back guy so its throwing me for a loop.

[Opinion Owner]

I've never understood that sort of thing either, if I'm interested in a girl and she gives me the impression she's got dudes queuing up, I go right off her. If he was a player he wouldn't have said he meets up with random girls like that, that's why I suspect he's just a bit of an idiot (combine this with flaking out on you over meeting up). Some people seem cool then they don't live up to expectations, that's life.

[OhPaige]

I guess so. Just hate the build up for nothing. I like his company. You'd think I would have learned my lesson & put on a thick skin by now by I haven't. It still sucks every time haha.

[Opinion Owner]

I know what you mean, I've met a few girls who I've been totally into but then I've seen some things I didn't like, I feel like it's a shame but it's better to come to that conclusion sooner rather than later.

[OhPaige]

Very true. I'll see how things go next time we hang out. If it doesn't seem promising im moving on.

[Opinion Owner]

All you can do initially is play it by ear, good luck!

[Klaatu51]

guess they chicken out... and teh r afraid of rejecton afte da date 8)

[Anonymous]

You just have bad luck!

[rthomas43]

This isn't a guy thing, it's a human thing.

[OhPaige]

Ill admit to bailing out on certain guys but this really does tend to be more of a guy issue. A lot of them do it. I don't know if its ADD or a better opportunity comes up or what but its really disheartening to us girls. I even cleaned my entire house b/c I knew he was coming. Then he says he can't. That really sucks. I dont even clean my whole house for myself lol.

[rthomas43]

I don't want to say you're wrong, but you're simply drawing a conclusion based on a few guys. You aren't trying to date girls, so you don't experience them bailing on you.

[RickyRicthofen]

if i ever ask to hang out i never disappoint

[Anonymous]

Same reason women do. Fear