Guys, why would you only text a girl at night?

[Yeahno12]

There's this guy I've been talking to, and for some reason he has got into a habit of texting me once a day, and it's always at night (anywhere from around 11pm- 1pm, sometimes even around 2am.) I know most people would usually think it's a booty call, but his messages simply seem to ask how my day was, and just to catch up on stuff we've been doing that day or to talk about random things. I'm not all too bothered by it, but I think it's a bit strange to catch up on our day when I'm clearly only going to read his text the next day (I tend to sleep at night.)

I know it's stupid to jump to conclusions, but do you think he's maybe treating me as an option or just talks to me as a last resort? Have you guys ever done this continually, and why?

[Rawrzz]

There's an idea that I've read online that states to get a girl thinking about you sexually, then you should text her at night, when she's in bed. The content of the text doesn't matter; it's just getting you to relate him to your bed. That's the idea, anyway. I've never put much stock in it.

Without really asking him, we simply can't know what his intentions are. He might just not have any time during the day, but wants to talk to you, so he sends you the text when he finally gets home. Do you know what he does for work?

[Yeahno12]

he's not really working.. He just left Uni and is sort of having a 'gap year' type thing where he just explores his hobbies I guess

[Rawrzz]

Hmm. So, we could probably assume he's intentionally texting you at this time, then. We don't really know that, but it's a fair assumption. It might be the sexual context thing. That's probably not the case if he always texts you later and later, when your asleep, because then you'd see it in the morning. That kinda defeats the purpose, I think. So, if he texts earlier and earlier, then it *might* be that.

Otherwise, you'll just have to ask him why he only texts you at night. He might not tell the truth, but at least you'll get some kind of idea. Or, you could just outright ask him if he's treating you as an option or last resort--though, it would be better to ask him in person, so you can gauge his facial expression and tone of voice.

[Yeahno12]

Thank you for the advice- will try it

[DarkHumorRUs]

He's busy the rest of the day.
He thinks he texts better at night.
He thinks you'll pay more attention cause it's a weird time.
Who knows?

I do that too, like I just wanna text my crush at midnight for some reason, I think it's because of the third reason I listed.

[Yeahno12]

Thanks for the advice. But for some reason, he's just stopped responding to my texts. Like it's been 2 days and he hasn't replied when he used to text me daily.. Lost interest?

[DarkHumorRUs]

Do you keep texting him? Or did you text him 2 days ago, and if so, was it something he could actually reply to?

[Yeahno12]

No, I just sent the one text.. yes it was something he could've responded to, it was a question that I reflected back onto him.

[DarkHumorRUs]

Weird then. Either he doesn't know a good answer or he's avoiding you.

[Yeahno12]

Yeah it's really weird because it was so sudden. And previously he was always keeping the conversation going..

[LightsOff]

Why don't you ask him why he doesn't text you during the day?

His conversations seem harmless even though they're late at night, and that's the most important thing. If he wanted to string you along, the conversations would have already become way more flirty and sexual.

He's probably just busy with other things up until that point. Where does he work? People who work at restaurants or bars usually don't get off until later in the evening or at night depending on their shifts.

[Yeahno12]

Thanks for your answer. The thing is, he doesn't work because he just got out of Uni, so I'm not sure if that's the case or not.

[LightsOff]

Then just ask him. Say something like "hey, what's up with you always texting me so late? Are you a night owl in disguise?" Or something like that.

[Anonymous]

Sorry never been there

[Anonymous]

A booty call is a booty call no matter what time of day it is.

This guy's just texting you at weird hours, he's not trying to get you to come suck his dick at 2am.

If you want him to text you at normal hours, don't respond to him late at night. Text him back in the morning and tell him you were sleeping.

[Yeahno12]

I don't- I usually respond in the evening or in the day. But he still texts at night.

[Kingd353]

personally i call women at night rather then texting them at night and the reason is night time is when i'm most free... plus it's just nice talking to a girl while i lay in bed since it's the closest thing to laying with a women i'll ever do lol

[Applefan1]

Maybe he is very busy and by the time he gets everything he needs to for the day it is that late. I would say that is when he gets time for his phone.

[Yeahno12]

I hope that's the case.. Thanks

[Applefan1]

No problem, you are welcome.

[Anonymous]

I text at night too usually people are busy in the day. Plus if a guy texts a girl at night she'll likely be thinking about him while trying to go to sleep that way he'll be on her mind longer. There are too many distractions during the day work and school for example.

[Anonymous]

Eh. It seems that the night is a breeding ground for loneliness and masturbating in most men. Why not think about/text a cute girl? He's obviously attracted to you. Try not to overthink it.

[Yeahno12]

Yeah but I can't help think he might be stringing me along or something.

[Opinion Owner]

I would imagine that you are right then. Gut feelings like that are right more often than not it seems.

[Yeahno12]

It's odd though. Whenever I stop texting him back he'll shoot me another text to keep the conversation going, so he obviously makes an effort to talk to me; I just don't know if he's doing that because he actually likes me or because he wants to have some sort of female to talk to.

[Saydou]

Who knows may be he was just busy and had the time to text you only at that time.

[Yeahno12]

Good point.. But I know, me personally, I tend to take my phone everywhere with me during the day even if I am 'busy'.

[Saydou]

Cool, but everyone may not be as cool as you, example there is some people who have their phones everywhere but when they are working they focus only on that

[coolbreeze2]

probably only time he has his own space, like away from parents or something