If your girlfriend got backstage passes to meet her celebrity crush, would you let her go?

[Anonymous]

If you girlfriend has always had the biggest crush on a musician and she had pictures of him all over her room and her phone and she finally got backstage tickets to meet him. Would you let her go?

Yes - I wouldn't want her to miss the opportunity of a lifetime

No - If she respected our relationship she wouldn't go

I don't care - All I know is that I'm breaking up with her if she goes

[Thor696]

You said "girlfriend" ... not "wife".

There's a difference.

So if it's my girlfriend... I say... "Sure go, I'd rather you not sleep with the dude but if you feel you have to - don't tell me or anyone else about it and you better damn sure use protection so I don't catch anything."

Because I don't "own" a girlfriend and I think losing a girlfriend that I love to a rock star is pretty low risk. Likely he won't even remember my girlfriend's name the next day - if he bothered to get it in the first place.

"Wife" is a bit different thing though.

Although - I have been married for 30 years and if my wife told me she was going to a party and if it was okay for her to sleep with George Clooney I'd say...

"Knock yourself out, just use protection cuz I don't want to catch any "Clooney Cooties."

No way Clooney can make love to my wife as good as I do. Thirty years I've been with that woman - I know everything about her and she knows everything about me. Women are particular... and I know everything that makes her feel good and everything that doesn't. I learned it all through 30 years of trial and error and getting slapped up side the head by her when I did something she didn't like. Clooney has what... 30 minutes to learn what I learned in 30 years of being with woman? No way... I'll crush his ass in that contest!!! LOL

But this a luxury that my wife and I have because we've spent so much time together we are like one person. You couldn't separate us with a nuclear weapon.

"Can I sleep with George Clooney, just once, babe?"

"Yeah, sure... go for it... I might ask you for details later!"

LOL

[farscryer0]

Yes, but then it isn't my choice on whether she goes or not. Likewise, it isn't my choice on what she does when she goes to meet said celebrity. I'd like to think that my trust isn't misplace with a girl that I'm dating.

But if she does something screwed up that she knows she shouldn't be doing, if she breaks my trust and I learn about it, then we're done, full stop.

I do not care if she is my girlfriend or wife. A break in trust for something so shallow is a sign that I don't need to invest anymore time and effort into keeping a relationship with this woman.

Its all a matter of trust.

[becca123]

It's not as though these guys don't meet hundreds of girls, back stage, every concert. It's what they do to keep themselves relevant. The celebrity won't be looking to hook up with your girlfriend, and you should trust her enough to let her have her wish.

[DivaMonae]

It doesn't really matter I don't need his permission to go and he can't stop me regardless unless he has a kinfe to my throat or a gun to my head.

I don't need his okay he's not my parent's there's no way I'd be missing this.

[ginnyweasley]

my celebrity crush is jensen ackles and he adores his wife, danneel. if i got tickets to meet him, i would ask for a picture and tell him how much i love Supernatural

[Frost_Byt3]

Letting your attraction towards someone develop to the point of it being a "crush" is already cheating in and of itself, regardless of whether its a celebrity, classmate, co worker, or some random person off the street--at least in my book.

She can go meet him if she wants, but when she gets back i probably won't be there because she had this "crush" to begin with.

[CapricornSwagL]

Have you ever dated before? You dont have to answer but I am very curious. Your answer stood out

[Frost_Byt3]

@CapricornSwagL Yes, i have. My answer may sound immature, but for all those girls who disagree with me, I'm sure they would feel the same way i do if they found out i had a crush on somebody else.

My main point is that there is a huge difference between recognizing someone as being attractive, but then going separate ways and forgetting all about that person later; and actually letting that attraction develop into feelings for them, remembering that person and thinking about them constantly. Those types of feelings should be reserved for your partner, and your partner ONLY.

It may take a lot of self control, but it IS possible to prevent yourself from developing a crush on someone, and anyone who says otherwise is simpky delusional. If you distance yourself from the person you are attracted to, and forget about them, then feelings will never develop. The only time you develop a crush on someone is when you LET your feelings get to that point. Which is why i consider LETTING a

[Frost_Byt3]

Crush develop on someone is again cheating in and of itself.

[CapricornSwagL]

No no no lol I didn't think your answer was immature. I didn't even allow myself to think about that or judge your answer. My next question was, did you watch porn while being in you relationship (s)?

[CapricornSwagL]

*your*

[Frost_Byt3]

I did in my first relationship until my girlfriend told me that it bothered her. Then since i actually gave a rat's ass about her feelings (which most people don't these days) i stopped watching it. I only watched in the beginning of our relationship because i didn't even know it bothered women. But once i found that out, i stopped watching porn entirely, so i wouldn't be tempted to watch it again in any future relationships.

[Frost_Byt3]

@CapricornSwagL

[CapricornSwagL]

Wow. That's interesting af lol. What made me ask you that question was the fact that a guy admitted to "Letting your attraction towards someone develop to the point of it being a "crush" is already cheating". Most guys will never admit that , for me to ask that question to. Dang lol. Anyways though, thanks for answering. You sound like an awesome boyfriend by the way

[Frost_Byt3]

@CapricornSwagL no problem. And thanks :)

[adamski24]

Why would I stop her from her dreams of meeting her true love.
I couldn't stop her anyway she is a adult she can do what she likes I may have a opinion on it and tell her how I felt about it but if she's a loved one I will always support them in life even if I think it's wrong and hopefully be there for her if it went wrong for her.
you never know I may be lucky to have the 2nd pass if I liked them too.

[Anonymous]

I assume she's cheating on me already, what difference does it make if she fucks her celebrity crush? Between 10 - 30% of women lie to their SO that the baby is theirs, so I just assume she's gene shopping.

As long as I never marry her or act like a father to her kids, we're good.

[Sara413]

Well aren't you pleasant...

[TheSpartan]

He is right, though; roughly 1 in 6 children are not the offspring of their supposed fathers.

[madhatters4]

i trust my wife so yes i wouldn't say no to her meeting the person. I'd trust that she wouldn't be unfaithful... and if she was then i'd probably consider divorce

[CHARismatic110]

Lmao let me go huh? Trust me, if I got back stages passes to see Nick Jonas, nothing short of death would be stopping me from going!

[aficionado]

Only highly immature guys would stop her from meeting that celebrity.

[TheSpartan]

True, but girls who have crushes on musicians and the such are just as immature--or worse. They aren't dating material, anyways.

[BelleGirl21]

Sure, it's not like she would actually cheat. Either you trust her or not.

[Anonymous]

yea just let her go.. most all girls have the ability to go out and get any guy they want to fuck anyway,, lets be honest most all guys will just about fuck any girl that's willing to give it up.. So just let her go and be happy better than the resentment she will give you if you say you don't want her to go.. If she wants to cheat on you then just drop her and on to the next & hopefully the next will be more loyal..

[Agrojag]

Yeah but she'd better not have a problem if I ever get the chance to meet Emilia Clarke.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Yeah , she wants to meet her celebrity backstage I'd let her go and meet them

[mikemx55]

I'm not sure I'm getting all the answers here. Is "backstage pass" some code for sex? I mean if they are just passes they probably aren't exclusive to her, and there will be others, why are some people so focused on sex and protection and whatever?

[SomeoneImportant]

Why would I say no lol? Even if I did, she should just go without telling me.

[Prettygurl12]

What is this "let" nonsense? He doesn't own you. He can't tell you what to do. If he doesn't like it then tell him to suck it and go anyway.

[Maik567]

It means to give permission. You know in healthy relationships people actually care about how their partner feels about things like that.

[brain5000]

Remind me never to marry you.

[Sara413]

@Maik567 in healthy relationships partners don't feel like they own the other and don't need to give permission to do something. Obviously good partners care what the other one thinks, but that's not the same as requiring permission. Adults don't need permission to do what they want to do.

[Maik567]

@Sara413 I never said anything about owning the other person, or that you can't do something without the permission. Im saying that in a healthy relationship you should care enough to ask for their permission anyway when doing something you are not sure the other person wouldn't like.

[slatyb]

If your boyfriend is doing this to you, you need a new boyfriend. He is way too insecure and controlling, and it will get worse, not better. You should go meet your crush and DTMFA

[verticallyinsecure]

yeah, why not, in fact, u mentioned "passes", i would ask for one myself lol, it would be amazing to meet a famous musician live

[Anonymous]

She's just meeting a celebrity, it's not like she's cheating on me. Not a big deal.

[fauchelevent]

The boyfriend says it's not a matter of letting me, he doesn't own me and can't control what I do, so he doesn't give a shit.

[brain5000]

If she really wants to, then a guy has to let her, otherwise she'll blame him. I wouldn't be excited about it but I would not try to stop her. Is this a real dilemma?

[Dtegesd123]

yes unless her celebrity crush was some playboy like Howard Stern lol

[CountVronsky]

Sure, but if he fucks her and I find out, it's over.