Why do men get angry that you dont want to just hookup with them?

[Anonymous]

I know I can't blame everyone else and that maybe there's something wrong with me, but I'm not a man so I am not sure how they perceive women or 'pick' them for it. I heard that men think that some girls are wife material and some are to mess around with.

Well, I was kind to this guy, seen as outgoing and attractive. I was 19 at the time and I remember he invited me to hang out with his friends when school started back. We all did, and now that I think of it one of his friends used code for they would 'f' me. So we hung out, he never took me to somewhere one on one and i would visit him at the dorms if I was seeing a friend. he tried 4 times to get me to stay over and looked sad or pissed when I left. We made out once and he asked for me to 'suck his dick' and I said no I didn't do that.

Id never had sex or anything. But I have dark skin and I'm 'exotic' or what men wouldn't associate with kind I guess and curvy, and I know because of racism men make out girls to be that way, I hate it. I haven't had a boyfriend, I'm 20 now and after the guy never would hang out with me and still didn't talk to me, treated me worse, and so i told him not to talk to me anymore, it turned out somewhere in the middle he got a girlfriend but she likes him even though he tries to check me out in front of her to make her jealouse. He is upset that I dont want to talk to him and I askedhim to stop speaking to me, not even say hi to me. He still tries to tell me hi a year later and looks upset at me.

I felt bad after everything and gave a guy a bj, and then the next day he asked me too again. And i told him i was tired and maybe another time and i think we moved to fast, and what he was up to and then he asked if i had a friend? and seemed upset at me even though i told him that was my second time doing that?

I will not give a bj again, this is the second time I have done it and men have been disrespectful and mean and Im not sure why Im being treated like this. Im damned either way

[krash2002]

To be honest, it sounds like you're hanging around the wrong type of guys. I myself even through college rarely heard things from my guy friends. Mainly due to me hanging out with male friends that were more into education, athletics, and student organizational groups than trying to "pick up girls".

When you say "men", I think you mean boyish @ssholes. These guys aren't men, but are boys in an adults body. Which after some time, can be easily seen as a generalization for all men. Since there are quite a few @ssholes in this world. My advice, respect yourself, and don't give into a guy so quickly. I've seen a few instances of where a girl would hang out with a guy, and give in on the 2nd-5th date. Then he would leave, or just try to use her. This continued, and only stopped once the girl realized that she needed to date men that respected her.

Just an easy tip, but if a guy asks for a blowjob, wants to bring you home, or attempts to have you "stay the night". Then he isn't worth it, and I would just move on. Look for the guys who open the car door, pay for dinner, bring you flowers, and overall. Just want to get to know you for you, and not get to know your body.

[Bandit74]

They assume you've hooked up before and are jealous of the guys who you did hookup. They also feel insulted if they belive the girl wanted to hook up with other guys but doesn't want to hook up with them too.

[Anonymous]

I don't know man, who cares, those guys are faggots anyway.

[Asker]

I dont think you should say faggot, because its offensive to some people but I get what your saying, thanks they are mean jerks

[Opinion Owner]

They can be offended if they like, the sun will still come up tomorrow. You shouldn't let it get to you, some women can be horrible to guys over some stuff as well, they can choose to react badly and let it get to them, or they can dismiss the girl as a bitch and look for a nicer one. I suggest you dismiss these guys you've bumped into and wait around for a nicer one.

[Darkone1]

If you hate it, then don't do it. Simple.

[Asker]

I know and I shouldn't have but its just weird that there's a ongoing resentment I get from men because I don't, and they dislike me for wanting more. Im not sure if its like an entitlement thing or what

[Darkone1]

OH, Wow one 3 centuries later there is no fucking dating, then in 18th century women get rights which state that THEY are princess and you have to do their BIDDING and now here are the women of 21st century asking men to marry them when they have every reason to say No, I can told you why
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YOur ancestor (gender) created rules which state that marraige is SHIT now you want a honest relationship So sorry girl
Men are bidders and bidders only serve when you have what they want.

[Asker]

well you just assumed all of that, and it had nothing to do with what i said or think. You should talk to people without forcing your opinions them, because I have no idea where all of that came from

[Darkone1]

Soory, if you feel that way, but growing up in US and watching my own friends and family doing stupid stuff is frustrating, I mean the whole mess need to change.