We are all adults! I'm very upfront when talking to guys about what I want. And although I say I am looking for friends with benefits not ONS and I only wanna do it with one guy not lots, they agree and we can text and build up before meeting. I am under no illusion that even though guys say all the right things it can still end up a ONS.
Either cos upon meeting the attraction wasn't there or the sex not good or maybe the intention on their end was always gonna be a ONS..
But what I don't get is afterwards... why not just be honest? One guy I was talking to for about 6 weeks on and off. To be honest I thought we totally friendzoned. But then we did meet and the sex was terrible. When he got home he texted "how was it?" And I put it nicely.. I said that I enjoyed hanging out with him but I didn't feel we vibed sexually. He said he agreed. We have stayed as text friends. That was like 8 weeks ago now. And we don't much text anymore. But it was all very civil. Now, this other guy, we was texted and got on well for a week. Then over Christmas I kinda lost interest. New Year we reconnected, texted a lot and long texts. I was quite impressed with his emotional intelligence. We were going to go on a date, do things properly... but two days ago we ended up just meeting and getting straight to fucking. Next day.. nothing. I texted in the morning to check in how he felt. He waited until after work to say "it was fun". I get maybe the chase is over or maybe he wasn't into me in person etc. But whats so hard just to say that? Come on! I'm a big grown up girl!
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