Why are some overweight women are mean to In shape women?

[littlemissamber]

Why do women the overweight have to be rude and say catty things in shape women. And I mean woman that lean and Muscular .Why are you eatting mad at me because I'm deciding to work out & make the right eatting Choices. I'm not gonna feel bad for you when we go shopping and you can't find a dress that fits or when you say something rude to someone so they come back with a comment about your weight. You choice to be that way.(Unless it's a Health disease) A few of my friends will see me with my protein shakes,my prepared meals, and when we go out I don't get sh*tty food and they always have something to say. "Why do you eat so healthy" "what's up with those shakes" "I really need to workout" Bitch SHUT UP! At least with guys if they're overweight they either do something about or shut it. Because they know Nobody wants to hear them whine about your weight. I know it's hard, to start Exercising and not eatting fast food, and stop drinking soda. I promise you your mind will quit 1000 times before your body will, But feel the fear and do it anyway.

[Anonymous]

Another one?! Wow...

I don't think it's right to bash anyone. It's not right to bash fit people OR fat people. It's unnecessary, uncalled for, and frankly - NONE OF PEOPLE'S BUSINESS. People should stop preaching and let people live their own lives. "That person isn't what *I* think (s)he should be, so they're worthy of hatred!" Blah blah, it's such drivel.

I've never made fun of anyone for their weight, never bashed people for the way they looked, etc. I was always the one being bashed. This "fat acceptance" that people mention on GAG is a fantasy, and quite laughable actually. Ask fat people if they feel accepted by society, I bet you'll get no more than one yes out of 100 people. Look how they're portrayed in the media, or on TV and in movies. Fat people are almost always the butt of every joke. And "Haha, that's hilarious to think s(he) could actually get that guy/girl!" Stuff like that, constantly. Constantly. And some people say, "Well, if you don't want to hear it, just lose the weight!" People should have to change the way they look to be treated respectfully? That's just stupid.

I used to be very fat. Daily, I'd hear things like, "You fat disgusting pig" or "You're a lazy slob" or "Go have a heart attack" or "Who would ever love a fat whale like you?" I wasn't even regarded as a human being. Not to mention men always thinking we c*ck-block them, so sometimes they try setting us up with someone "drunk enough to bang a fatty". Yes, it happens all the time. Humiliations galore. After living that, your heart really hardens. You develop a chip on your shoulder and you become emotional and irrational regarding weight issues/topics.

Skinny/fit people may get bashed by fat women, but fat people get bashed by EVERYONE. What your friends were saying wasn't even bad. Saying they needed to work out, what's wrong with saying that? Getting mad at your FRIENDS for them saying they need to work out seems harsh, and weird.

Some fat people feel uncomfortable around fit people because it points out their inadequacies, and they're jealous, I'm sure. And it's not right. Bashing isn't good, I agree. Completely. It's all hateful and stupid and should never happen. But... I don't think there was anything wrong with what your friends were saying. Try REALLY getting bashed (like most fat people get bashed), there's a big difference. So while you don't feel sorry for them, I don't feel sorry for you. You're beautiful and fit and you work to be that. Be proud and don't let fat people bother you so much :-)

[Opinion Owner]

And if they're your friends, and they say, "I need to work out," why not suggest exercises or ask them to work out with you, instead of telling them to shut up? Maybe they were thinking you could be good inspiration, maybe they'd like to be encouraged, maybe that was a chance to help them. Losing weight takes A LOT of mental and physical work, having a support system is very important :-)

[littlemissamber]

How can you get not get fed up with girls who you try to help because they ASKED for your help, then they don't deliver on they're part. and I take one of my friends to the gym. And when we get there you don't pay Attetion to anything me or my dad is Instructing(he is the head trainer), they ask me "hey don't let me drink any soda or stop me if you see with any fast food" and I try but I'm not a fan of being cussed out. I'm just tried of trying to help. So I'm gonna help anymore and I'm going

[littlemissamber]

And I'm not going to listen to you whine either.

[littlemissamber]

And what do you mean "another one"?

[Opinion Owner]

I wasn't whining, haha!

"Another one" was referring to the many questions posted lately by thin beautiful women complaining about how they think they're treated badly for being thin and beautiful.

[littlemissamber]

-Face palm- I didn't mean YOU! I'm talking in 2nd person. The"and I'm not going to listen to you whine either" was connected to the other paragraph I used up all my characters

[Opinion Owner]

Haha! Oh okay, my mistake.

No worries :-)

[fancykat1]

I understand were you are coming from. I eat healthy and my friends look at me like I'm crazy for wanting to eat a salad. But they are happy and surprised when I eat a greasy pizza. I remember when I was overweight at one point. Instead of looking at fit and healthy women, I wouldn't get jealous, I looked at them as role models and now I'm healthy and exercise as much as I can. I used to eat fast food a lot but now I almost vomit eating anything from Burger King.

The reason they are mean to you is because they are jealous of your effort to stay fit and healthy. They know they are unhealthy but they don't have the willpower to do so or they think they don't have the willpower. It's really not as hard as they think it is. There is plenty of healthy foods that is just as delicious as that Big Mac.

[fancykat1]

Thank you for BA :)

[Prof_Don]

Those "friends" of yours suck because they wanted you to not be fit...why do you feel that they acted that way?

[Prof_Don]

If these "in shape women" have an elitist attitude due to being in shape, then these guys are simply responding to the vibes these "in shape women" give off to the masses.

Or it could be that the negative interactions are more memorable than the neutral or positive interactions.

I have met very nice and friendly women in good shape and I have met judgmental bitchy in shape women...I don't stereotype that way.

[martyfellow]

People are depressed and tied to jobs and family that don't allow them time to take care of themselves as they should. We should't blame them for being jealous of people who have that extra leisure time.l

But they really should try not to pass remarks to women who have made the effort to govern their diets and workout routines. . That doesn't help them any, and will make the in-shape women feel bad. Sometimes!

[SpoiledJeano]

Girls get jealous. They complain because they want it but not bad enough. I work out but I can't be on a diet due to constant running and I need as many carbs as I can.

My friends do the same when they see me with muscle milk or they ask why I haven't drank soda is 8 years. I say "you only get one body, and I refuse to mess mine up"

[Prof_Don]

You're awesome, spoiled girl. :)

[SpoiledJeano]

;)

[lauramor]

I think that I get were you are coming from, I had a friend that was overweight and she would give me mean looks if I looked really skinny in some clothes or if people commented on that. I spent many hours listening to her whine and then eat a big bag of fries on her own. I would have felt bad if she was actually doing something to lose weight but she ate everything she wanted in big portions.

[MissAM]

I think the main reasons are jealousy and/or insecurity. There is no need to put anyone down but girls do it ALL the time to each other.

If girls get this way around me for whatever reason I just walk away (don't have time for that) or ignore them. Much better things to do than deal with petty comments and rude behavior.

[Anonymous]

Why are some in shape women mean to us? Why do they tease and bully bigger girls in high school and then continue the snotty attitudes out of high school? You really don't want anyone to go there. At least not me.

You seem to have issues though. I couldn't care less what you eat or where you shop. But your attitude and character will speak volumes to me and inform my decision on the way I treat you. That goes for anyone.

[Opinion Owner]

So wait, I didn't read any mean comments. where are the mean things we big bad fat girls are saying to you? or you're just mad because people say they want to workout? lol ooookay then...

[littlemissamber]

My friends won't say any thing rude to me. They know if they did I would give them a rent about how I try to help when ask and you don't take my advice. They whine but when it comes to other people weather it's at the mall, the movies, the flea market. They wanna say some sh*t about people they don't even know. Talking about people's gap in their thighs and calling girls skinny bitches or callin people Anorexic that aren't. Theirs a Girl named hope that told this girl namesd Kharlybia she can't

[littlemissamber]

She can't go to the gym because she so skinny and she might brake a bone. She made Kharlybia cry, Hope doesn't know that Kharlybia has Sickle cell and that's why she's so thin.

[Opinion Owner]

Right, well just as I could make a very wide set of generalizations based on some people I've known who happened to be thin, you're only making generalizations based on what you know. I'm not like that. I mean, if I'm concerned about someones health I may just ask if theyre eating enough, or I joke around and call some of my skinny friends "skinny bitch" (the ones who are okay with it and find that kind of thing funny) but I don't really care enough about strangers to criticize people that way.

[Opinion Owner]

So if your friends make comments like that around you, maybe that says more about your judgment and skill in choosing friends who may or may not be suitable for you, than it does about how fat women are specifically to "in shape" women. Because some of every type of person are mean to people or make comments for a variety of reasons. Pretending as if thin women or "in shape" women are experiencing some huge cruelty from fat women, seems to distort the truth imo.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

They feel insecure around girls with nice bodies. It's hard to keep in shape and even harder to lose it so they get angry and resentful. Everyone wants to look hot but not everyone wants to do the work it takes to look that way

[Prof_Don]

Last sentence is dead on...words are cheap; actions speak louder than words!

[aMuse]

Why do you think you deserve respect just because you're in shape? Your little rant here isn't exactly heart warming and inviting. Maybe they just don't like you...

[littlemissamber]

I'm not asking for respect. Respect was no where in that summary.

[aMuse]

OK... You give off the impression of being mean yourself... You get what you give...

[littlemissamber]

I have reason to be mean to friends, I wouldn't want to be mean to them. But I'm gonna be your shoulder to cry on because your overweight. They ask me to help them, and I take one of my friends to the gym. And when we get there you don't pay Attetion to anything me or my dad is Instructing(he is the head trainer), they ask me "hey don't let me drink any soda or stop me if you see with any fast food" and I try but I'm not a fan of being cussed out. I'm just tried of trying to help.

[aMuse]

Well you picked them as your friends for some reason... Was it just so you could be mean to them and feel good about yourself because they are fatter then you? Do they bring anything to the table as a friend? They must put up with your crap to stick around, why are you unwilling to do the same?

[Snohomishprincess]

It's because they got all big fat and unhappy. Thus, they take it out on you, jealousy.

[dommage]

jealousy and idiocy, unless they are working out and their bodies don't cooperate.

[RealDeal]

It's easier to hate someone else then yourself

[littlemissamber]

And what does that have to with anything on this question?

[RealDeal]

It's easier for them to hate you because you're skinny, then it is for them to blame themselves for not making healthier lifestyle choices. I wasn't trying offend you...

[tzdc21]

Jealousy. They're jealous

[humanbeing]

jealousy