When a guy says "I need time to clear my head" does it mean he's found someone else?

[angelbear077]

Yes

No

[gusgus636]

It means, you fucked up somehow. And he just needs some time away from you to either forgive you, or to get over you and move on.

I would say the best thing you can do is say you are honestly sorry, and then just leave him alone. If you try to hard to get back with him you will just push him away.

Let him know, that you know you fucked up. And promise to never do it again. Then if you want to stick around for his decision then do, otherwise move on if you don't like the ball being in his court like that.

[angelbear077]

He got mad at me and said he lost interest because of what my dad thought of him. He told me that his grandfather fought hard and went against his family to win his grandmum. So I thought okay I need to try harder. So I did. I talked to my own dad and my dad said well, it's your life and I don't want to interfere. I then talked to this guy and told him what my dad said and he just seemed really annoyed and angry at me. He was like "f*** hell I don't wanna have this conversation." And when I asked him if he was still interested because I didn't want to feel like I was being played. He said he wasn't interested, but still tells me to take care and smile etc.

[angelbear077]

Oh and he said "I'll def see you again."

[gusgus636]

Eh, sounds like he might have been using this as an excuse. Your dad told you he wouldn't get in your business anymore, and he doesn't like that? Isn't that what he wanted by you "fighting" for him. If he wants your dad to like him, then that's up to him.

I don't know. I wouldn't like it if my gf's dad didn't like me, but ultimately I wouldn't give a fuck if I really liked the girl... Why didn't you dad like him? Has he said nasty things about him in the past?

I have honestly never had that problem, every girl I have dated, their parents have loved me. Makes me wonder what's up with this guy that your dad doesn't like him so much?

[angelbear077]

My dad told me he is playing me. He said Im a guy I know this. But it's up to you. I just don't want to see you get hurt.

[angelbear077]

I feel like I've fought and put up a battle to get my dad to reconsider. Because this guy told me his grandpas story, I asked him well, isn't that what you wanted me to do? It was so hard because I really like this guy so much and for him to give me confusing messages like "the interest is not there anymore" or "keep smiling, you always had the sweetest smile" or "Ill see you again", makes me frustrated and confused. But now he's saying "I wish I had thicker skin" "You've been braver than me. I just got other things to mind etc"

[gusgus636]

Sounds like your dad is right. He can probably just tell that your interest in this guy, is more than this guy's interest in you. And yeah, he's a guy, and we can pick up on stuff like that.

I don't know the specifics, but I'm willing to bet this guy has been an asshole to you in some way in the past, and you have probably looked past it because you like him so much. Your dad doesn't care about this guy at all, so he can see him for what he truly is.

But at the same time. It is up to you to find that out yourself. He should know that telling a girl not to date a guy, will only result in the opposite. He has made that guy taboo, the bad guy, and the girl will fall hard.

Anyway, this guy is a turd. I would never break up with a girl I liked because of her father. I just wouldn't go around him, or I would try and change his mind. I would show him that I care about his daughter a lot. Sounds like this guys was playing you.

The only way you will get his interest now is to ignore him.

[angelbear077]

Thank you so much! Yea when I think about the bad stuff, he has said bad things about people in public and these are people he doesn't even know!! He even rated my older brother as a 7/10 and gets jealous about other people's success. He even compares himself to others and always says "I feel so much better about myself now." Hey thank you so much again. Sorry it was long. But yea I'm def tired of these games so I'm going to back off and not give damn any more. I got too much to live for lol. You have a good week!!

[Meesterlijk]

When a guy says "I need time to clear my head", he usually means "I need time to clear my head" so the best thing to do is to actually give him some time to clear his head. It could be any reason, but don't try to find hidden meanings and mistrust him for your own assumptions. Try to back off, assure him that you're there if he wants to talk about anything and don't overthink the situation.

[damiansgirl2016]

Sometimes yes and sometimes no. He actually does need space. Honey just give him the space and then if he actually cared about you he will come back.

[Tha_Girl]

No he possibly has a busy schedule or doesn't want to rush or is trying to snap back into reality

[Anonymous]

No, he likely just needs to think about the situation and where to go from here.

[angelbear077]

Thank you so much for your input.

[genuinlysensitive]

It means that he is overwhelmed and needs some time alone to think things out. It might mean that he is mad at you for some reason. It is very unlikely he has found another woman though.

Did you two have a fight recently?

[angelbear077]

Well he got mad and upset at me because my father didn't like him. He said he began to lose interest in me :( just because of what one person thinks. Then when I met up with him he told me a story about his grandfather overcoming obstacles and not caring what his family thinks to win his grandma, and how he eventually married her. I then thought to myself, okay I need to try harder. So I talked to dad and my dad said well it's your life and I'm not going to interfere. Do what makes you happy. Once my dad said that I told the guy and he's like wawww thats huge. But when I talked to him on the phone and I was leaving the next day to go away for two weeks he said "f*** I don't wanna have this conversation. I need to clear my mind first b4 I can say stuff." I was just like whoa... what did I do wrong. I asked if he was still interested and he said no. But then he said "I'll def see you again." Its so confusing.

[genuinlysensitive]

He thinks you are leaving because you are losing interest in him. If you really like this guy you need to tell him you don't gaf what your dad thinks, YOU love him, and if your dad can't see it its his problem. Assure him this trip has nothing to do with you not loving him, if it with your dad please consider cancelling it because in his mind you are choosing your dad over him by going on a trip with him. If you can't cancel tell him why, and you are not doing this because of your dad and would cancel if at all possible and you are so pissed at your dad right now. THAT is most likely why he is freaking out. Remember that story about his grandpa overcoming obsticles to win his grandma? That is what he is trying to do here.

Do you live with your dad? If so, and if you are worried about him tomorrow, go over to his place, tell him, you understand that he needed space, but you are so pissed at your dad right now that you couldn't stand it anymore and just had to get out of the house

[genuinlysensitive]

and you really need someone to talk to. Then tell him about how you feel about him your dad, and the trip, and keep in mind what he is really trying to do. Overcome your family not liking him and (yes eventually) marry you.

[Punkin45]

I'm going to disagree and say that family can make your life really really miserable. You get to choose who you date but you don't get to choose your family. Having been raised by a racist bigot, I would never ever subject anyone I care about to the behavior that my father would have given him if he was the wrong race, for example.

My ex couldn't stand my dad so much that he refused to go to their house. Now they lived 8 hours away so he was able to avoid my dad completely. However I'm saying that this is a big issue and if you're still living at home, in particular, you might want to think twice about subjecting the person you care about to your father's behavior.

[BertMacklinFBI]

it means you fucked up, and he may possibly have a few things to reconsider.

[angelbear077]

He got upset because my father didn't like him. He then told me a story about how his grandad fought hard and went against his family to marry his grandmum. So I thought okay maybe I need to try harder. So I talked to my dad and dad said he didn't want to interfere with my life and it was my choice. I told this guy and he now says "Im not interested. I need to clear my head." :(

[BertMacklinFBI]

he's probably just disappointed. give him some time to recollect his thoughts.

[angelbear077]

Oh and thank you for your honesty. Much appreciated.

[Blueeyes81]

If I say that it just means I need time to process.

[angelbear077]

Thank you for your input.

[Anonymous]

Just give him some space... It might mean that, and it might not, but either way you aren't going to fix anything by crowding up on him

[angelbear077]

Thank you so much. Yea I'm away for two weeks in another country so I'm giving him his space.

[aficionado]

Not sure if he has found someone else, but it is certainly a sign of him losing interest in the girl.

[serious]

No, not necessarily, he just needs his time alone so that he can be clear about things.

[LaFemmeFatale]

It means he needs his own space to make decision.

[Soshy]

It means he wants space. Give him space

[brandog0]

no but maybe he's realized he's better on his own

[Abc123xyz098]

Probably not.

[angelbear077]

Thank you for your comment!

[Anonymous]

No, but you should move on, immediatly.