I'm the worst girlfriend ever, right?

[Anonymous]

Okay, so my boyfriend and I are long distance, and we plan to be together for a very very long time. Well, there was this whole thing of me not missing out and things and such.

Well tonight, I went on a date. My boyfriend knew, and I had mentioned to the guy that I had a boyfriend. Well it was suppose to be sorta of a friend date . .kinda. And the boy is big in church and really sweet. Well we was in his car then stopped on a back road , at first we were talking then, he kept making comments about kissing me and I was trying to not let it happen but then he just did it, and gah was he an intense kisser. then he was like you should join me and I was like what? and he was like sit over here with me, and I sort of just ignored him and he kept pulling me over and then before I knew it I was in his lap and he was moving his hands up my back toward my bra, and he asked if I wanted to stop but I didn't really know what I say so I let him keep going then he was figuring me. That's all we did and afterwards he asked to make sure I didn't do anything I didn't want to or if I would stop him before he did; I just lied. gah I feel like such an awful girlfriend. Boy wants to see me again, and he was a really sweet guy during the date so I just don't know :( ugh. Just make some kind of comment of your thoughts please.

[LizNeedsHelp]

I think you have to evaluate your long distance relationship. Is anyone planning on moving to the other? If not are you just stuck holding on to something that will always be out of reach?
If you guys have plans of him or you moving to the other then I'd say stay loyal and no more dates it's just unnecessary temptation.
But if you don't see when that will happen you might miss out on something great with the church guy waiting for nothing but a struggle..
I don't know if my thoughts help but there ya go. It must be impossible to deal with I wish you the best. And do me a favor.. put ur happiness first always

[senio]

I suggest you evaluate how much your long distance boyfriend means to you, if you really love him then waiting until you see him shouldn't be considered as "missing out". also if you're feeling guilty about what happened the easy thing to do is not let it happen again, even if this means not going on another date with that guy, or hang out in public places at day time, this will help keep anything that may later come back to haunt you from happening. I don't think your a awful girlfriend but I do think you've made a mistake.

[Asker]

My boyfriend really does mean a lot to me, I love him. We've been together for over a year, and we really each other that much at all, we've really been more of an emotional couple. It's just been really hard not having him here, and gahhh I'm just confused about everything.

[OneDropGrindsFine]

Your a badgirlfriend. You can't date when your in a committed relationship. You had every opportunity to stop this church guys advances. If this church guy is so sweet and you like him and want to see him again, the least you can do is brake up with your long distance boyfriend for his sake.

[Asker]

I think I may have been too surprised to stop him lol, I bet if you knew this guy (well besides the fact that he's a guy haha) you'd be surprised too! I know I did something bad, and I was debating telling my boyfriend, but my boyfriend was asking if we held hands and I said yeah kinda as a joke and he got p*ssed off! So I can't imagine really telling him.

[chorboys]

long distance relationships don't work because people need to have sexual release and girls, especially it seems, need to have some kind of emotional connection woth someone close, not over the phone.