Was I sexually assaulted? I need informative advice? And why do guys breath a lot when a girl is leaning on them? Help?

[Shabar]

I went over to a friends house. And I ended up staying the night, it was a social gathering for about 5 people. So we started watching a movie. Everyone fell asleep but us. I ended up leaning my head on this guys shoulder bc I thought he was cute and he didn't mind, bc its just his arm haha. Then his hand reached for mine and we started holding hands. I was fine with that, I was comfortable with him, bc I liked him and I thought he was attractive. He started to breath a lot lol. I was breathing normal. Why did he start breathing so much lol? Not to mention I just met this guy all in one night. But I got tired. I was like "Im tired" he said go to sleep. It was direct too it seemed like. But I asked him like 2 other stupid questions so it wouldn't be so awkward I guess to ease the tense for him or something like for an example "how are you not tired" and stuff like that bc it was like 1:30am. I ended up getting sleepy so I sorta fell asleep I wasn't in a deep sleep. He stopped holding my hand and he covered his hand with mine I felt that we weren't interlocking anymore. He just had his entire hand over mine. Like Why would u put ur entire hand on mine? I wanted to stay interlocking why do guys do that? But then I felt his hand go to my inner thigh like literally my inner like near my private like it felt like he was on the crease between my thigh and private. Like I don't know. It was a weird feeling, I know you have nerve endings there. I think in the moment it scared me bc I sorta just met this guy. But I can't stop touching where he touched me which is my inner thigh sometimes now. He's in the military lol he was really cute. Im 20, and I think he was 21. But is this normal? I mean I was sleeping I just felt everything bc I wasn't in a DEEP sleep. If it is assault does he know it is? But thanks y'all for reading this and for ur informative advice! And please answer all my questions with question marks in the paragraph

Yes it was assult

No it was not

[brookeelizabeth96]

A guy that you just met should not be touching your inner thigh (or anywhere) without consent. However, it could have been a mindless thing as he was watching tv or something. It might not have been an intentional, sexual thing. Ask him about it and see what he says. If you felt assaulted then you probably were. If it wasn't that big of a deal and you were flirting with him and showing interest, and he didn't go farther than your leg, then it probably wasn't assault.

[jesshkah]

I wouldn't say it was because he technically didn't DO anything, he just put his hand on top of your thigh, but it wasn't forceful and it didn't go past anything. But by all definitions of the word someone could argue that you didn't officially give consent so it is. Why are you asking?

[LittleMissCuriousity]

That was assault, because you were asleep and not consenting. You should speak to the police and you might consider counseling.

[Anonymous]

You were touching each other, leaning on him, resting hands together, but not in an explicitly sexual way. I would say if he'd grabbed your breasts or vagina while you were sleeping, that would have technically been a form of assault, (though as assaults go, pretty minor) and more then that, a little creepy (if you had a history of sexual intimacy I wouldn't say so). But he stayed (just, lol) on the line of non-sexual touching.

He didn't do anything wrong.

[MrAssHat]

um in the US Army that would be assault due to her being asleep and unable to give consent.. if he had actually touched her "private" area they would call it rape.. As he is in the military im 100% sure he knows this as they hae briefings on these things all the damn time... But its up to you to decide what it was.. was it a welcomed touched or do you feel like you are emotionally fucked from it?

[Shabar]

I feel that it was sorta unwelcomed I don't know

[Anonymous]

Well if he touched you without your consent, then yeah, but you didn't stop him, or you didn't try to, you seemed to like it, so for me, no, he didn't assault you

[Shabar]

I don't know if I liked it or not. But I was sleeping. I didn't wanna make it awkward and move his hand away. Bc he prob thought I was deep sleeping

[Opinion Owner]

Well if you didn't like it you should have moved it, but still it wasn't right for him to touch you in your sleep

[jaxxten]

If you were sleeping, you wouldn't have noticed. If you weren't sleeping, you let him continue, thus agreed with it. I'm sorry, but next time, speak out. He made a pass at you, and you didn't refuse.

[Thisperson98]

That was not assault in my book, if you didn't like being touched there, you should have told him.

[Shabar]

I was sleeping

[Thisperson98]

Then that is weird. I can see that as assault then.

[Anonymous]

Hmm well he was very close to your privates but he didn't touch it directly. It's borderline

[dudeman]

not assault.

[Shabar]

someone touching u while alseep isn't assult

[dudeman]

not like that its not.

[Anonymous]

Yes it was assult