Confidence is bullshit! You guys agree?

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I hear people say that girls like confidence well i say bullshit to that! What good is confidence gonna do you when you're unattractive? I'm starting to hate that word confidence. Confidence doesn't help unless you have the damn looks for it too. And ya I'll admit I'm bitter but I'm also upset because it seems that everything that is supposed to work is bullshit hence confidence being one of them.

P. S. I'm a little envious of people in relationships right now.

Bandit74 · Accepted Answer

Saying they like confidence is pretty much the same as saying they like tall, hot guys with exceptional social skills and the potential to be really succesful because those are the guys who tend to be the most confident. Those guys are almost never insecure and even if they were, they would still be able to get girls. A girl isn't going to meet a hot guy and be like "nope you're too insecure for me to date/have sex with". They just find it cute/endearing and perceive his insecurity as humility.

Aizou · Accepted Answer

Confidence is attractive, that's how it is. It is not entirely the confidence itself, that people want, but because it signifies a man or woman, who has their life in check. Obviously confidence isn't all, but it helps. Being bitter has never helped anyone, it causes bad vipes around you, not only making other people view you as such, but also making you view other people through bitter eyes.

RJGraveyTrain · Accepted Answer

Confidence isn't bullshit, women do like that. However, you can't just be confident alone and then expect to nab yourself a model. Like it or not, you have to be realistic and have more to offer than the ability to exude confidence.

However, if you have two "ugly" guys to choose from, and one is self loathing, hateful and pissed off, and one is confident and self-content, a girl is going to go with the latter guy every time.

ouzaki · Accepted Answer

They are both successful and happy and talented and confident even though they aren't the most attractive people. They probably wouldn't be where they are now if they didn't believe in themselves.

Elarra · Accepted Answer

Confidence isn't the only ingredient to getting women, though. Just like flour isn't the only ingredient in a cake. Or maybe you aren't confident. It's possible you're just conceited. Bitter men aren't confident. They're conceited.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

With women, attraction is only partially physical. The other part is based on their perception of the kind of person who you are and confidence enters into the equation. However, if your physical appearance is grotesque, confidence will not overcome your physical defect.

Anonymous · Answer

The thing about confidence is that it is a way for you to tell everyone else that you're a catch. If someone who doesn't look like a catch says they are with their body language - that is going to make people give you a second look.

If you think you're a great catch people will want to know why. That also makes them more likely to believe in your good sides.

The real key I find is to be a little bit of an enigma whilst still easygoing. Tends to beat just straight laced confidence by miles.

Izumiblu · Answer

Confidence isn't bullshit. But confidence is also not the only factor in a persons life or ability to get a relationship... and neither is physical appearance.

SarahsSummer · Answer

Maybe you're just insecure and are deflecting. You have anger and rage at things outside of your control. Look within yourself and gain some confidence. That will make you more attractive to others.

cavmanier · Answer

Confidence is more appealing to certain girls, but overall I do agree that it's importance has been very exaggerated on here.

AleDeEurope · Answer

I've seen average men confidently pulling off girls. Confidence really is important, it's kind of lying to the girl that she's gonna fuck a top guy.

Feels · Answer

Bro the amount of ugly ass guys i have seen with good looking girls is absurd. I wouldn't even worry about it because i know for a fact you can at the very least get laid.

Maik567 · Answer

Confidence isn't "I know she likes me", confidence is "I'll be fine whether she likes me or not"

Omar5881 · Answer

Confidence is that you know your weakness accept it if you can't chabge it and fuck ppls opinion, it's not about lying to yourself ya know

Dred1614returns · Answer

You go keyboard warrior! Such amazing confidence you have.

ASEXY · Answer

Yes, I definitely agree. My confidence/personality doesn't attract girls. My looks do...

unknownpoet · Answer

no it's not bs. you fail to understand basic relationship issues and charisma and attractiveness. that's why you are envious.

iFarted · Answer

Hell no its not.  Confidence plus a tiny bit of arrogance works :P

CT_CD · Answer

It doesn't matter how confident you are if you're ugly.

menan111 · Answer

Well, it's a package. Both confidence and looks are important.

sherbearee · Answer

Its not bs and your attitude ain't helping

scooogy · Answer

Well, then why not changing your looks then?

flamephoenixvy · Answer

70 % is looks 30 % is confidence.

Anonymous · Answer

we like attractive and confident guys

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