Do guys prefer feminist girls over non feminist girls?

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Or otherwise? Why?

Exterminatore · Accepted Answer

No. I do not like feminists. You will hear many, many times that feminism is about nothing more than equality between men and women. I think this is an absolute lie. It doesn't matter to me if they're first, second or third wave feminists, I do not see feminism as being about equality. I see it as only being about special privileges for women at the expense of men and about women seeking to dominate and subigate men via influencing law makers, laws, and the courts. I will not date nor have friendships or even associate with anyone identifying themselves as a feminist. Prior to feminisms advent men and women were already equal. I believe everyone of both sexes were created in God's image and that neither sex is better than the other. I believe both sexes have a different role to play. In a marriage I believe the husbands role as established in the Bible, is to provide for his family, protect his family from anything ranging from physical harm to any form of harm one can imagine. According to the Bible, the husband is to be the head of the household and the spiritual leader of the house as well. The husband is to love and cherish his wife without exception. In a sense, although he is the leader he is also ther servent of the entire family. He is charged with the overall care of the entire family. I believe the role of the wife is to be the help mate and the bearer of children as established in Genesis 2:18. The role of the wife cannot be underestimated in its importance aside from the role of being child bearers. I do believe she is to submit to her husband. The term help mate or in the KJV version of the Bible help meet is a term that implies in the original Hebrew a power unto her husband. In short she enables her husband to do his duties to the family well and without her sticking to her role the husband will have great difficulty in preformining his duties well. God clearly created Eve because Adam needed help, not because he had it all figured out and under control. Now we jump to feminism and it's claims about being pro equality and we find women in mass not willing to submit to their husbands. They precieve them not being the head of the family and having equal authority makes them not equal. Not so. Although I submit to my boss at work, he is no better or worth more than I. Genesis 3:16 stated women would desire the man's role in marriage. So I will not date feminists as the purpose of dating is to see if 2 people are compatible for marriage. TBC.

Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

Feminists are not attractive to real men. Period. The guys are all about equal say, and the original intent of feminism - voting rights, equal pay, all the things that put them on par in society. But men and women are simply not the same, they are not equal in all things, and in a relationship more tradictional roles are much more satisfying.
Let men be men and women be women and everybody is a LOT happier. The last thing a guy wants is for his women to compete with him on everything. Not only no, but hell no.
We want women to be successful in their own right, but not at the expense of her man. If everything else is more important than her man then he is not going to be satisfying to her.
So no, women have been sold a bill of goods on this third wave feminism and it ain't working out so well for them.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

look, if a woman wants basic rights, she's a feminist immediately. HOWEVER a crazy bitch who wears a vagina costume and complains about Trump saying pussy, then holding a walk while screaming the word pussy, are just idiots claiming to be feminists. there's a difference and I'm sure no man wants to date a woman in a vagina costume

bang678 · Accepted Answer

I think my boyfriend enjoys having a feminist girlfriend, or so he says. I pay for myself, i dont expect him to act traditionally, I dont expect him to do all the driving. Instead of asking him to do things for me (like l when i need help with my car) i ask him to show me how so that I'm not relying on him all the time.

snowangle · Accepted Answer

Many guys are afraid of the word "feminism" because of what some extremists have done. Don't worry, the smart men are not.

You're young; be smart and strong and learn everything you can about the world as you get older. And don't change (or hide) your beliefs just to get a boyfriend.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

God no. Why would I preffer a woman who hates women and despises men? That doesn't make any sense. Feminist have not only blamed men for everything (while conviently ignoring all the benefits women have in society that men do not (like empathy for there issues)) while claiming all women are so weak and worthless that they are prepetual victims incappable of being held accountable for their own actions. They have literally stated that sex is ALWAYS rape because women do not have the mental capacity to consent, that is an actual feminist quote (andrea dworkin if memory serves). They hate women and hate men even more. The national organization for women (NOW) actively advocated for women to get full custody, they actually pushed for laws to be bias in favor of women to take away custody of children from fathers to give to women, not even equal custody but primary (or better) custody to women always, that is what they have advocated (completley ignoring there claims of fighting for equality (can't be fighting for equality if your actively creating inequality)) and doing so at the expense of the children (who fair far better with a mother and father then they do with just a mother). Its feminist who have created this idea that women are always victims so much so in fact that a court ruling (hermsmann vs seyer) states that irregardless of how a woman gets pregnant she is entitled to child support (in this case it was a 12 year old boy raped by his babysitter) it has been up held in every state. Feminist have claimed men oppressed women ignoring that again, women had more rights then men did and never went through any of the thigns feminist claim they did or if they did completely ignored the context (for instance women could always work it was only married women who couldn't and that was because of coveture which meant the man was legally responsible for her well being so he had to take care of her, not because it was some kind of prison for her as she was fully able to decide whether or not she would marry (and many women did decide not to)). So no, I despise feminism, anything that is founded upon hate, selfishness, and bigotry/sexism is not something I would want in a partner. Then add in the fact that feminist expect men to do everything while contributing nothing to the relationship (he should pay for the dates, he should act chivalrous but she "doesn't exist just to make a man happy") I would rather be single then date some one that repulsive.

spoonman2014 · Answer

I have met some nice sensitive ones, i'm a sucker for tattoos, dreadlocks and strange colored hair lol. But the only thing that bothers me about feminism. Side track here, I learned in my terrorism and counter terrorism class that all organizations are made up of the elite pulling the strings, the vocal minority on the ground doing all the work they you have silent majority who passively support it. Like in most companies you probably have more man power and resources going to people you never see vs the cashiers who pull in all the money.

Well with extreme feminism (the vocal minority) and their campaign for equal rights they are destroying the fabric of masculinity. Then most girls (the silent majority) complain that they can't find anyone worthy of dating and the guys they can or should date they treat them like their grandpa. I'd say for a good solid year after I got out the military I was a good person and a few times a week I was nice enough to aid some girls and guys in my life.
And I wasn't doing it for ulterior motives but i'd hear the girls complain that men today suck and finding a decent man is like searching for a unicorn. Who am I mowing your lawn for 20 bucks? Your grandpa? Your brother? The straw that finally broke the camels back and made me into a shut-in was when a girlfriend of 6 months dumped me, then complained to me she couldn't find anyone nice after she dated a deadbeat mooch, a burnt out former addict and an 18 year old...
And sadly, even the girls who are not burning their bras and marching topless down the street. I think it is happening now, you girls are seeing the fruits of your napalm infused campaign and you are seeing the beginning of a generation of men who don't wanna be men because you went ghengis khan on masculinity and see thing like manual labor, sports, serving in uniform and trade jobs as terrible. Then you will want the things you despised about men, and I won't say every guy you're friends with is boyfriend material but I bet at least one or two are. You girls will cling to that 5% of decent men left like you are the red cross waiting for disaster relief.
This is all coming from a guy that is pretty liberal, pro choice, in favor of equal pay and taking rape allegations seriously, as RDJ's character in tropic thunder said "never go full retard"

Scooby225 · Answer

Current version of feminism is find equality between the genders. By fighting against manspreading, manplaining, violence against women caused by men, cases in which men rape women, having women feel safe at night without the dangers of being attacked by men. Uplifting single mothers and children in fatherless homes. Changing laws that benefit men. Changing standard physical tests in military that come easy to men due to natural physical capabilities and making them more simple and thus more accessable to women. Changing roles of the boys scouts, boys club etc. Because its sexist not to include women. Creating clubs and organizations just for women so that they can have a safe space without worrying about societal pressure placed on them by men. etc. But i must remind you in no way is modern feminism against men when fight for equality between men and women. Men are privileged while woman are opressed here in western society. Only way to make things equal is to give women the rights they deserve in order to balance out this patriarchal, misogynistic society that men have created.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

If by feminist you simply mean that you want equality between the sexes (even though it's mostly achieved already in the West) then no problem there. But if you're the type of feminist who takes issue with trivial things like manspreading, the wage gap myth and etc then yeah there may be problems.

Bandit74 · Answer

I prefer non-feminists. Feminists are obnoxiously condescending and seem to purposely look for things to be offended by.

Anpu23 · Answer

I wouldn't date a feminist. Why, because of the underlying culture in the feminist world. A constant narrative of victimhood and an unbeatable boogeyman in the form of the patriarchy. Meanwhile everything evil in the world is male "MANspreading", "MANturupting", "toxic MASCULINITY" etc etc yet they're not sexist or anything.

Further the idea of male only space is abhorrent, and sexist, yet women need safe spaces. I could go on, but it's not a life I would like to live. Being raised by a feminist was bad enough, I can't imagine dating one.

Pyrofox · Answer

Personally non feminist as I'm the type of guys who is too keen on feminists as too many use the title for their perverted ways. Its really unfortunate that the term "feminism" has become so diluted. To the point guys question the movement itself.

Thus I'd rather stick to independent women who do not feel the need to flaunt that they are female. And that there is an issue, rather they actually do something rather than come on social media and rant. Such as Anita the gamer gate woman.

The world and especially the internet is a pretty dark place and if you come looking for blood. Expect to have people retaliate just as terribly.

HorrorFan · Answer

I'd prefer a woman that, at least here in the US, realizes that life is what you make of it. One that doesn't perpetually act like a victim of oppression.

One that doesn't constantly create a false dichotomy. That either someone is a feminist or someone is a misogynist.

One that doesn't seem like she was shat out of a tumblr blog with a gender studies degree in her hand, ready to buzzkill every social interaction she can weasel her way into.

One that understands that equality is equality. Not a flawed sense of justice with the continued expectancy of any and all perks that women are used to receiving.

Wwwyzzerdd · Answer

If she's a feminist, then she's probably a raging cunt who will believe anything because it sounds good. She probably also doesn't know how to research otherwise she would see how damaging feminism has become and how her other feminist have ALWAYS belittled men to advance their socioeconomic cause. Men are told they are rapists, pigs, dogs, worthless, should all be killed, male concentrations camps, and even have their dicks cut off by feminists but men should be totally accepting of feminism because its all inclusive. Feminism isn't inclusive, its EXCLUSIVE. TO MEN. Women are being hypocritical because the same exclusive behaviors they say men are employing have been employed by feminism yet its worse since they are actually preaching hatred against men.

Exmorted · Answer

I will absolutely never be with a feminist.

The only guys who prefer feminist girls, are guys who are incapable of getting anything else, because all you have to do to please (some) feminists, is to be subordinate and self-flaggelating.
You just apologize for existing and then they'll see you as a noteworthy human being.

But any reasonable person would stay at least 9 miles away from any person who says "hi, I believe that the male gender and you as an extension of that is responsible for what I view as total societal corruption and moralistic evil, wanna date?"

theharlequin · Answer

It greatly depends upon what you mean by 'feminist.' If you mean a woman from the Middle East who opposes having acid thrown in her face for showing a strand of hair, then yes, I'd date her. If you mean a woman who gets her panties in a wad when she walks down the street topless and a guy looks at her tits, then no, I wouldn't have anything to do with her.

Anonymous · Answer

Anybody who believes in equality need not adopt a gendered prefix for their "ism."

To me, a girl identifying as a "feminist" is perhaps the biggest turnoff. However, a girl identifying as an "egalitarian" is very attractive. No, they are not one and the same.

PlacentaSalad · Answer

A feminist who is for equality but cannot even list just one male related issue while she has everything she is apparently subjected to by society memorized? I wouldn't date that type of feminist. I also wouldn't date a feminist who has to point out that she is a feminist and tries to make her feminism relevant to everything. I cannot think of a single scenario where even mentioning that you're a feminist to me would be necessary, so right there I'd know to just walk away. I also wouldn't date a feminist who believes there is a wage gap and a rape culture in the west. I can't tolerate that much ignorance.

Just don't admit to being a feminist if you want a boyfriend.

BlueCoyote · Answer

I actually don't care so much. On the one hand, I do like to lead a bit in a relationship. On the other hand, I am definitely more attracted towards women who are confident, outspoken, ambitious and know what they want in life. For example I want my girlfriend to have a good education, get a good job and keep working part-time once we have children. I wouldn't like a girl who just wants to stay home playing 1950s housewife for the rest of her life. I love strong women because I love challenges in life.
So, while I don't care what her particular views are, I do believe that a feminist girl fits better to me. Not just in regards to relationship-related values but also world view in general. For example a feminist girl is more likely to be non-religious, politically left, adventurous about sex, open-minded, tolerant etc..

CheckPlease · Answer

I prefer a nonfeminist girl over a feminist any time. A feminist woman is always trying to change guys. Which won't work because we are just this way. Feminists want to make us more like girls socially. Keep it all in and just talk about our feelings. God forbid you tell a feminist that she is pretty.
A nonfeminist will accept you for just being a guy. When you say something that a guy would. She dismisses it cause she knows your mind works that way. Instead of getting all bent out of shape.
Like in this question, spot the feminist. Yeah girls like her are not fun to be around.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2324624-why-can-t-i-just-talk-like-a-guy-without-getting-the-stink-eye-from

willwhitez · Answer

He'll no why would I want a woman who thinks my very being is privileged and I'm wrong for following my role as a man. Evolution made me but to feminist I will never be what they want. So he'll no take that sjw my tampons are too expensive shit elsewhere

dizmuhjam · Answer

I don't have a problem with normal feminists that aren't insane.

Those crazy chicks that are talking just a bunch of crap that doesn't make sense at all, like the ones you see on television however, you can sell to slavery... lol kinda harsh but fuck those chicks.

grkmanga · Answer

Non feminist... feminist seem like they have a chip on their shoulder and need to prove something. I don't mind being equal but when they want to be superior... time for them to take a chill pill. Besides typically feminists are feminists on their terms so when something they can't do comes up, all of the sudden their non feminism comes out lol. "Oh can you take out the garbage... too heavy for me ". Ah go fuck yourself... your a feminist... do it yourself haha

RadicalPeaches · Answer

Feminists are honestly the worst and I'm glad to see majority of the guys on here are smart and would not date one

Anonymous · Answer

Like most men, I support gender equality 100% but I do NOT support the gynocentric feminist definition of "equality".

Considering what feminism has become, any woman who is willing to overlook all the absolute shit that feminism does today just to say she supports gender equality is a cunt who is not ever going to even get so much as a smile from me or any other self-respecting man who has half a brain.

HyperCynic · Answer

Femenists are fine, Femenazis on the other hand can jump off a bridge. If they are willing to discuss and tolerate intelligent reasoning Id be attracted to them. If they randomly throw out opinions and judge you for disagreeing with them based on sound reasoning I would be repulsed.

FakeName123 · Answer

I rather chop my own balls off than datin a feminist.

Not only are a lot of feminists nutcases, in the best cause they are just people wallowing in victimhood and naive about the reality of things (else they wouldn't believe in the cause of feminism in the west nor be oblivious to the rotten core it has).

Additionally I do not believe in equality to begin with - nor do I think it is in any way doable or feasible.

meatballs21 · Answer

Equality yes. "Feminism" no.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm never going to date a feminist knowingly. They are not oppressed and have no time listening to her complain about that and/or invalidate anything I may say. They are not for equality and haven't been for quite some time. It's really sad to see the millions of underlings parroting the same lies and half truths because they've been told so. Some of these guys will grow out of that.
And if she uses "intersectional" I can't be held accountable for what I might do, so it's best we don't mix.

Now, if they were in other parts of the world that may actually need old school feminism...

cth96190 · Answer

Hell no! Feminism is a deal breaker. As Milo said, Feminism is cancer.

Neodampiel · Answer

ugh what guy in there right mind would want a girl that's a man hater, femnazis are just twatsore women who hate men.

tickledpuppy · Answer

I think that men who are truly secure in their own sexuality, and have good self-esteem and some higher education, would prefer a woman who has feminist ideas because she represents much more to him than a collection of body parts. If he sees her as an equal (which is what feminism is all about), he won't be intimidated by her outspoken nature.

BellePepper · Answer

Honey feminism means people who think women should have equal rights. If a guy doesn't want you to be equal to him how can he value you or your relationship? Be you and look out for you.

max_spy · Answer

I prefer non feminist girls because they see men and women as equal

Anonymous · Answer

Bah hahahah NO. Feminist are cancer. Guys want a female who has enough intelligence to see through bullshit and lies, and who doesn't play victim.

Dating a feminist would be the dumbest thing a guy could do.

Cruciatusdeatheater · Answer

A girl who stands for gender equality, sure. Feminism has become too much of an obscure term that I don't accept it anymore. It's become a word where women can hide behind and use it as a scapegoat to ensure their insecurities don't get the best of them. Or even if they want support on something that isn't even related to feminism, they use feminism as their backdrop. I hate that. That's just me. If you think otherwise about my view on it, then so be it. I don't mind.

DarklordOdin · Answer

I would prefer if they weren't a feminist. I would admire them more if they focused on evolving themselves instead of throwing away all potential for a mere namesake. Plus, egalitarianism is objectively better than feminism, but that goes without saying.

Belgie · Answer

Obviously not. Feminists are crazy.

I'd much rather data a girl who isn't a hate filled crazy bitch, and actually believes in equality AND is clever enough to know what feminists are really like and smart enough not to associate with them.

Savatar · Answer

Feminist girls in where I am from seems to think I should bow down and fucking pay double taxes for being a white guy. So I will stamp out any feminism out of a serious partner

JustADude20026 · Answer

No. Hate feminists. What if I were to become a masculinist? Equal rights means equal meaning right? For the opposite sex. Explain that to me

pervertedjester · Answer

I'd rather have a Woman who can listen to both sides of an argument before making up her own mind about "The Great Gender Blame Game."

AleDeEurope · Answer

Non-feminist. I like my women attractive and mature, not whiny little kids.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm a woman and I don't like feminist. I'll never date a feminist man. I want a real man.

Anonymous · Answer

non feminist girls simply because there will less talking other issues with which we can enjoy each other's time.

ADFSDF1996 · Answer

Nope, not me. Guys like myself prefer moderate (neither left or right but in the between) or more conservative women. However, there are some guys that don't care if they are feminist or not, they'll date the woman either way.

RedThread · Answer

I think women who are feminists would more likely be into the kind of relationship dynamic I'd prefer.

Anonymous · Answer

They may or may not. What matters most though, is that the woman likes herself. Letting yourself be held down and held back can make a person very miserable.

Anti-feminist men are a drag to be around. And they are horrible in bed. Bad fathers. Crummy husbands. Who needs that?

MrDude99 · Answer

I love a strong, independent woman who believe in equality. I think not only is it inspiring for them to be a feminist, fighting for equality but also sexy.

Though not the extreme, crazy feminists... they're too insane and give feminism a bad name

James78 · Answer

Non feminist. There's enough trouble in relationships already. The last thing a guy needs is a woman with a chip on her shoulder from the start.

cheapshotbob · Answer

i love them because they free willed and express there opinions on guys which is what i want. dont get me wrong i love a cute girl that makes you smile and all but they have to be exactly like this if they want me to be
interested in them.

Iraqveteran666 · Answer

Non feminist girls. Because I want a wife to meet my needs not a woman who wants a husband bound by traditional gender stereotypes while she is bound by none.

Anonymous · Answer

Feminists should not have anything to do with me as a male it should make you better and not make me worse.

It's hard to stand up and be = with all the social expectations then it is to kick the social expectation in the nuts till we fight back.

So basically what im saying stand up for what you believe in without stepping on anyone else which it is exceptional hard to do

YHL6965 · Answer

I hate feminism because most of them are not fighting for what they are pretending to be. I like "feminists" like Emma Watson, people who are actually fighting for equality/equity. But I don't prefer them over non-feminists for sure.

XuR_CXV_115 · Answer

No, the word "feminist" has been desecrated
They fought for equality, today's feminist want a softened version of what they have now and more benefits, they don't want to experience what a man does socially and economically, but greater than what a man does. They're essentially taking away what previous generations fought so hard for, this shit pisses me off, a woman today shouldn't be able to call herself feminist. They're shitheads.

Anonymous · Answer

No, they want non-feminist women, because they're easier to control. A feminist wouldn't take their bullshit.

vampireelf · Answer

I can't even imagine to be with a non feminist girl. It is just logical to be feminist, every lifing being should seek equality with others. Not being feminist just means that you are fine with the status of women in society? I would really have some arguments with a non feminist girl ;)

godfatherfan · Answer

NEVER... Why would any guy want some man hating, feminazi? Feminism is such a horribly nasty word. I stay far away from any woman that says she is one.

guyinalton · Answer

Well there's the femanazis but I highly doubt that I would be dating one of them because most of them are lesbians. I have no issues with equal pay and all that jazz but equality means equal, not just when it works out best for you.

Maik567 · Answer

Nah, them being feminists just shows they care about one sex over the other and I want nothing to do with that.

Robin48 · Answer

I prefer non-Feminists females. My wife is not a feminist. We as a couple do not have friends who are feminists or liberals. Our children do not hang around other kids which their parents or the kids are feminists or liberals.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

No, they're annoying.  But I meet this one who I think might maybe into me and I kinda want to date her because I think it would be fun. I'm like, totally not a feminist haha.

dewaldt · Answer

As long as they stay rational. Feminist often make arguments and become over emotional. This could lead to arguments

davesmix · Answer

I don't mind a strong woman, i even promote it and it is attractive. but the is a difference between being a feminist (a strong woman) and being a radical (make everything about feminism) those girls r crazy have you seen the videos on youtube!

normalice · Answer

no preference. as long as she's into me and doesn't expect me to get too involved in things I'm not interested in, or expect me to not get involved with things I want to be involved in, we'll be fine.

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