Do most guys really prefer very feminine girls?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve finally reached the age where older adults have a lot to say about my appearance and how to “attract a man” and such. And apparently, I need to start dressing more in feminine ways, such as wearing dresses, skirts, or form fitting clothes to show off the figure. I’ve always been more of a neutral girl , so I mostly dress in big t shirts, loose boy friend jeans, sneakers and for makeup; I stick to sunscreen, do my eyebrows, put on lip tint or lip oil and call it a day. I just thought remarks like “men like feminine, glamorous women” interesting because even in my current state of dress, guys have found me cute/attractive. But also what I’ve been concerned about is, a lot of guys in their teens ask me out, not people in their twenties. So is it true that men (20s and up) prefer more of a dressy, girlie type of look?

[Constatine]

Yes we do ( sorry i have to say this or she kills me )

Dressing up very feminine can help to attract boys but please take this from an older man. That is just looks. If you act differently ( wear different things, speak different than you normally do ) it will come out in the end and they loose interest in you if they are " look based " men.

Just dress up in a way you like.

clean jeans, militairy boots and a white tank top attracts also men ( if you like guys who like though girls )

A barbie outfit will attract a lot of " KENS "

" darn i forgot what my point of writing was "

example..

I met my lady when she was covered in things i can't even not pronounce. I looked at her with an expresion on my face .. ( i think it was... what the hell? ) . She looked at me... she looked at her self and started to smile.

That smile... it must have been magical... it made me melt...

we are togetter since. that is now about 5 years ago. We even talked about the " I do " words.

Oh yeah my point : Just be your self... just be nice to the person you like , activate your " magic " smile... and i know there will be a man falling for you... looks are not everything... it is the whole package

[Asker]

🥹🥹 thank you for the sweet reply and it seems like you have a lovely marriage

[Constatine]

Oh 🤭 we are not married... yet 😀 and your welcome...

[CatVader]

Highly depends..
if you wanna go for attract by looks then you would need to dress up for the taste of your target..

lot of men would jump anything though. specially when young.

some will be far more attracted to your personality and values and won't give a crabcake about your clothes.

so really boils down to what general type of man do you want? what is fitting for you? are you fitting for him?

just a few thoughts.

[Asker]

Wow,. Thank you for such a thought provoking comment 🥹🥹 I will def be thinking these over.

[alice55]

Depend on the country I guess in mine they don't like it cause they're possessive / jealous and only want women to wear pants / jeans (and no legging or covered by a long shirt and cardigan) showing no cleavage. For shoes they prefer trendy sneakers.

[Sonorous]

I'd agree with that. Most guys prefer feminine girls. So, of course we like when a girl dresses in a way that accentuates her femininity.

However, it seems that the people trying to critique your style, in my opinion, don't fully understand what it takes to attract a man. For instance, Taylor Hill could wear a suit, talk like Elizabeth Holmes, & have the demeanor of a 55 year old man for the rest of her life & I'd still be attracted to her. Because she's attractive to me!

https://ibb.co/xhcF8hG

There are many factors involved in femininity. Even ones that go past the female dimorphic facial traits that I mentioned above. A good example is the singer Aurora. Her voice & demeanor balances out her more average looks for me. So even if she dressed "tomboyish" or "manly," I'd still be attracted to her femininity:

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/9W4WXm1le2o

So yeah, those people have a very limited & robotic view of femininity. Which stifles creativity & originality. And I would hate to be around them.

[Asker]

Well they are mostly older South Korean people in their 70s, so they have a traditional view of how a lady should be like. And tbf, they were absolutely gorgeous physically when they were around my age. But I get what you’re saying about how a feminine personality and characteristic plays a big part too, not just feminine outer appearance.

[Sonorous]

I mean I'd still hate to be around em 💀

[MementoMori777]

How you dress doesn't necessarily say how feminine you are, you clearly dress for comfort from what you are saying here, it doesn't make you any less of a woman because you do so and it's not like it matters, it pushes you more in a good direction because the men you end up attracting will be men that consider the idea that you don't dress to impress as attractive, normally women that dress for comfort are more secure and have a chill spirit and that's actually a underrated attraction to lots of men.

[Asker]

Your reply is so comforting 🥹🥹

[MementoMori777]

I'm glad, best day to you Lola

[Asker]

Same to you 💕💕

[Constatine]

Amen to that brother 👍 spoken like a very adult man. 🥹

[MementoMori777]

Thanks bro 💯🙏🏽

[pierre7i]

No @Lolahah , don't change the way you are, the way you like to dress !

A best female friend/sometimes sexual partner of mine is tomboyish in both the way she looks (short hair, little/no make up) and dresses, albeit she looks really attractive and her feminine traits are especially obvious and delightfully sexual, especially unclothed

Stay the way you are and like to be

[Asker]

🥹🥹🥹 🥲 literally shed a tear when reading this

[DummyThiccFeraligatr]

Eh, I prefer tomboys. *shrugs*

Clothing and fashion do very little for me. As long as she's healthy and in good shape, I'd rather her wear sneakers, shorts / loose jeans, and a t-shirt. Doing her hair is nice, but otherwise I prefer a low-maintenance look. Don't like make-up.

[Asker]

🥰😍

[DummyThiccFeraligatr]

Are you in a country where tomboys aren't really considered desirable? It blew my mind to learn that Spanish doesn't even have a word for the concept. :-/ They just say "a little bit feminine woman" (una poca feminina).

[DummyThiccFeraligatr]

*mujer poca feminina

[Asker]

Well I’m Korean American so I’m in the US but I hear a lot of advice that a lot of 1st gen Korean American ladies in their 60/70s tell me. and they tell me feminine form fitting clothes is the way to go. What’s ironic tho is that from what I observed in Korea over the past summer was that the girls there do not wear any type of revealing or tight clothes that accentuate any part of their bodies. Most seem to wear gender neutral clothing too. A lot of people have been commenting that men prefer feminine women but maybe that is not the case in Korea? So I am def very confused rn haha but my main concern is ; anywhere I go, I mostly attract high school guys which is very awkward for me. Like it was happening in Korea and it happens in the US.,. 🥲it’s very awkward for me and maybe that’s why I’m thinking I should start switching up my style

[Asker]

Sorry for the long paragraph 🫣

[DummyThiccFeraligatr]

No prob.

Yeah, I don't know what's going on in South Korea (lowest birth rates in the world), but it seems similar to Japan where young people almost don't *want* to date or be in relationships. That could make sense as to why women there don't want to wear "girly" clothing? 🤔 Do you look considerably younger than your age? That could be why high school boys like you. I have a baby face, so I know the feeling, though my premature grey hair has curtailed that problem quite a bit. lol.

I wouldn't worry about it too much, though.

[Asker]

Oh if that’s you in your profile pic, I thought you dyed your hair 😄 your hair looks cool and really completes your look

[DummyThiccFeraligatr]

Common assumption. I started greying at 17. lol. People tell me to stop dying whenever I ask for fashion pointers. I'm like, "But that *is* my hair...🥹" haha.

[Asker]

Well it looks great 👍 you already look fashionable in my opinion 😄

[DummyThiccFeraligatr]

Thanks. I tried with 2 modeling agencies, but they didn't want me. Gutted my confidence. lol.

[Asker]

Well you have nothing to worry about., ! You do have more of a baby face (which honestly is a blessing) and I think modeling agencies seem to want more of a chiseled hallowed cheek bone type of look. But I think you age slowly so you will probably have more of that look after some years and then maybe you can try again with modeling. 😁

[DummyThiccFeraligatr]

It's alright. lol. You kind of have to sell your soul to the agency if you want to get ahead. I like a quiet, rural life, so that line of work probably wouldn't work for me.

Voice acting would be fun, though.

[Asker]

I’ve always wanted to do voice acting for animated movies 🥹 seems like it will be so magical to be part of a dreamworks/Pixar/studio Ghibli movie. Or getting to play for the musical sound track for orchestra/band 😭😭

[ProbablyClueless]

Based solely on what I and the other men in my life have generally gone for; feminine seems to be the way to go.

[Asker]

🎀🎀💝

[inhua]

it's biologically ingrained in men to want feminine women

[Asker]

Makes sense

[Surely]

If you are pleased with the way you are dressing for everyday wear. So be it! When you are happy with yourself. Then you will project sexual vibes. Which I would definitely notice.

[Asker]

☀️🥹🙏😊

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's true. You've been attracting teenage boys because you've been dressing like a teenage girl. Men are naturally attracted to femininity, and that goes for both appearance and character. Most women today lack feminine character, which is dissapointing.

[Asker]

Well tbh the reason why I started dressing in loose clothing that hides my form was that I didn’t like being stared at in a sexual manner by various men when I was a teenager. Now, people don’t stare at my body but rather at my face if they find me pretty/cute and I find it more preferable.

[Opinion Owner]

Hey, whatever works for you.

[Anonymous]

I like to know she's a woman. But that's about as feminine as she NEEDS to be. And no amount of acting feminine will make up for a s***ty personality.

[Asker]

😄😄

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Dress in a normal looking way that women dress.

You don't have to fit anyone else expections.

[Asker]

💕💕

[serious]

Yes most men prefer feminine girls/women only.

[shortster]

Personally I prefer more feminine women

[Asker]

I see