Why is he so protective of me?

[Anonymous]

Why are guys protective of their girl friends?

I was wondering why guys are so protective of their friends that are girls? One of my guy friends tends to be very protective of me. When it starts to get a little dark outside, sometimes he will walk me home so that I feel safe. If I get freaked out by walking out at night " It's OK, because your with me", and he'll make it seem like when I'm with him, I wouldn't get hurt or get hit by a car because he would either push me out of the way before I get hit, or stop me from going in front of a moving car if I was out of it, or something by putting his arm out in front of me as a barrier between me and the car. Then, he'll make sure not to bring me anywhere with people he knows I would feel uncomfortable around. For instance, there was a drunk couple stood near me and he told me to stand near him. 

One time he grilled me about my abusive ex-boyfriend for two hours and kept asking intimate questions about our relationship. He kept asking me 'do you still text him?' And 'was there anybody else you've been with' 

So why is it that he's so protective of me?

[Nmalinova]

Be careful please! :-) I know every woman loves to be cared for and be protected, which is fine, but some questions he asks are not reallyyy ok like how many guys you've been with... why would he want to know that? There is no protectiveness about that but a controlling element... the same goes with: stay close to me, or stand here etc etc etc... it's all good if he wants to show you he cares, but make sure he doesn't gain control over what you do or what you think you have to say in order for him not to become jealous etc etc etc... been in a similar relationship with someone and you do really get blindsighted by their 'devotion' and 'care' towards you, until you realise you can't do anything by yourself anymore without the guy bumming in! :-) all great and good just be careful of these overprotective traits :-)

[GAGSUCKS333]

''why would he want to know thatt''

its not bad to get to know a girls history in fact, I want to know just what kind of girl im dealing with before I get into a relationship. How are her relationship with her parents, how many partners etc..

[Nmalinova]

@GAGSUCKS333 but why are partners important? After all you don't want to live with the girl's past. In any case as long as both don't have STD's all is well. At the end of the day the past is the past and if both love each other it's all that matters. Judging on partners whether a person should be worth the time is just immature in my opinion.

[GAGSUCKS333]

its not immature. For example, if this girl I am about to get in a relationship had an abusive partner that makes EVERYTHING different. THis means she may have some emotional issues to work on, or even at worst case scenario, mental illness. everyone is not up for that, and people like to know what they are getting into before they jump aboard. I take a relationship seriously, and im not going to date someone If I dont know what state they are in and the seriousness of it. you dont have to ''live in the past'' to get to know someones past. Even jobs do it, they ask you for your history, what you do on your free time, do you have a criminal record etc. are you somehow saying, that we should ignore this when we do something as serious as a relationship. I have the possibility of spending my entire life with this person, I think I have the right to know who this person is

[Nmalinova]

@GAGSUCKS333 Of course, don't get me wrong, it is nice to know if someone comes with emotional burden or not, but I am pretty sure before you get into a relationship you will find this out in any case by the person's character... and even then, so what if it was emotionally difficult for some people, does this have to mean they don't deserve a chance to get into a loving relationship and to work on themselves? :)
If someone doesn't want to deal with something, that means to me that the person is not emotionally available enough or too selfish not to spend some time to help people out, I am sorry but that is my view on this and I know you may disagree which is fine too :) I'm just saying that the girl should not move into something too quickly just because she feels 'protected' even though some of the behaviour shows some sort of control of the person...

[GAGSUCKS333]

''you will find this out in any case by the person's character''

there are actually a lot of people who put up a front because they try and make it seem like they are more than they really are then in a few months, you realize the person for who they really are So I take everything at face value with people I just meet.

''does this have to mean they don't deserve a chance to get into a loving relationship and to work on themselves''

everyone deserves a shot, but some people are just not up to it and honestly, I wouldn't blame them for saying no. I have no problem with it, because I have nothing but time to invest in, but others dont have that luxury. other people have lives with problems too.

''girl should not move into something too quickly''

I agree, but people jump into relationships quick which makes this a problem. besides a girl going through a rough past, I would also want to know if that person had a history of cheating, or open relationships. That also changes every..

[GAGSUCKS333]

thing. Im sure if you were dating a guy you would want to know if that person has history of cheating on multiple partners, its kind of a warning of what you are getting into.

[Nikki267]

It sounds to me that he has a little crush on you - do you like him?

[Dim1213]

The last part sounds like he likes you but for the first part. He was being a good freind. I'm pretty protective of my female freind, usually be cause they are so naive. We don't live in the best place yet they foolishly feel safe all the time. I'm thankful that nothing has happened but their freind and my exfreind has lead us to very bad parts of town and none of them had anything to protect themselves with. After that I bought a tazer just in case but still. I worry that they might get hurt sometimes.

[MrOracle]

I'm very protective of my girlfriends. I try not to step on their toes if they are fighting their own battles about something, but I take physical safety VERY seriously.

How would you not be protective of someone you have feelings for? If she got hurt and I could have prevented it, I'd feel terrible!

[dannymexico90]

Cause that's an instinct. We are protectors and you are baby makers. The same reason 10 guys appear out of nowhere when a women's car breaks down. It's not that they all want to fucker her, it's just something men are doing without realizing it

[DontStepOnTheCat]

well male friends in general are protective of each other. in college my buddy got in a fight at a bar and the six of us stood up to make sure the other guys group doesn't jump in. its just the way men are. were are the keepers of the light and the guardians in the light.

[jdw17596]

As a guy, I believe that our most basic instinct is to protect people we care about. But we do that differently when it comes to guys vs girls. I think that guys are protective of their girl friends because its simply human nature.

[Prof_Don]

Many men are wired to be that protective force around the fairer sex, whether it be a lover, family member, friend, or even a woman we don't even know.

That protective trait flares out around any woman and child said guy is around.

[amoo126090]

It is in our primal beings to be protective of a woman we love as a lover or friend. It is kind of a way of showing we care.

[JohnDoe3000]

He either likes you or sees you as a little sister.

[VeritasLuxMea98]

We are naturally protective of women, as they are far more vulnerable. Protectiveness = Love

[Anonymous]

He likes you or at least cares a lot about you, most of the guys are protecting things they like, it's natural :-)

[Dme500]

because he cares. he does seem more like boyfriend protective though. are you sure he's not into you?

[GAGSUCKS333]

answer the question yourself its right in your face butt head

[Anonymous]

He wants you to be safe and happy 😊😊and have you asked this question before?

[GmG01]

Because he loves you and you are his queen on a pedestal! 😄

[Browneye57]

It's a complete mystery, isn't it? LOL

[Anonymous]

Jealous controling , doesn't wanna lose what he has.

[starbucksjr69]

He likes you end of story

[John583]

Seems like he genuinely cares for you.

[Anonymous]

He likes you , even a child could see that

[Anonymous]

he likes you.