Usually it’s not sudden. Usually I’m very interested but perceive that things are going well just slowly. So when all of a sudden she starts pulling away I freak out. What did I do wrong how do I fix this. I hate this panicked feeling of trying so hard to win the affection of another. No matter how much I date it still feels new to me. My mother never needed this kind of constant validation. I just existed and she loved me and I loved her back. But dating is different. It doesn’t just happen and it’s not like someone trained me on how to make a woman feel appreciated. I’m constantly having to figure that out on my own. And everything else seems to work like do the work get the prize and coast on the happiness. But not girls. Nope. Fuck me for not already being the perfect man. Fuck me for not being aware of the level of attention I should be giving her at all times. Fuck me for getting to comfortable I forgot I need to constantly be doing something more than just enjoying someone’s company in order to not feel alone.
(This isn’t really me and how I think and speak. It’s just an illistration of what it feels like to be a guy in this situation.)
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The saying you want what you can't get/have. You know the expensive stuff that's out of your reach. When a woman becomes "unavailable" we chase her. Its like having some old item at home and then someone takes it and put it in a museum. You realize the true vale.
This is a question I'm kinda asking to myself right now too. Guys always say they appreciate it when a girl expresses interest but I think they still like a chase. Guys always fuck around with the girls that express interest in them right away but they are more attracted to the girls that keep them guessing. That was a mistake I made before--so lesson learned.
Cause they knew you are there and care for him and he doesn't have to work for you anymore, cause you won't go away anyways and now you stopped and they want this affection/attention back and either when they get it back they go back to being assholes or the minority really realizes what they have lost
They want what they can’t have. Even if you give them another chance they’ll do it again. If he’s not interested in the first place don’t set yourself up to get hurt. It’s his loss.
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Haha I don't know! xD Maybe some guys take a girl for granted until they realize that she's drifting away, and then they realize they need to try to "reel her back in." Personally, I'm the opposite: I give a girl more attention and affection if I think she might be interested. If she gets all cold and distant on me, I feel like she never cared about me much to begin with, so I become distant with her too. xD
I guess most men love it when the girl plays "hard to get" :D
Could also be he didn't want to screw up but was a little clumsy in how to approach you :-(
My feeling says: give it a chance by telling him he "almost" screwed up. But of course it's your choice :DMaybe the guy was trying to downplay his interest so that he doesn't seem desperate. When he realizes that the approach isn't working, he may make his feelings more obvious. Although, it may be too late at that point, as you stated.
@Blonde401 No idea! I can make quirky mentions to bands, TV's, movies, poets etc but essentially when it comes to relationships I still have no idea. if you want an introverted opinion regarding extroverted actions though, then I'd uncertainly suggest that certain people prefer the chase to the reward... me personally, I false start at the beginners line lol
I'm turkish and there is a turkish saying about this. Its English translation is like that "the one who runs away is chased"
First they take you for granted coz they assume you are in their pocket, like "this one is under control, she's not getting anywhere".
But once you leave, they realise that they have missed an opportunity so they start running after it !!We often take things for granted and we don't realize what we got till its gone. Does that make sense?
Because we like to feel the sensation of been the man, the one who attracts lady's, so depending on the amount of ego a guy have he might try to do the impossible to get back that attention he once obtain from the girl he's attracted to, or maybe just move on.
I never even show interest. That's how insecure I am. Sometimes when I look at women and I make eye contact with them, they quickly look away. Im used to that lol
We realise what we've previously taken for granted cannot be relied on to still be around when we are inattentive and uncaring.
I don't know why "SOME" men and I don't know why "SOME" women do that, maybe because they found out that the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
That sounds like men in denial about losing your interest. A lot of men have issues with rejection and may enter a state of denial rather than think it is a possibility.
they like it easy.. when you walk away.. they have to work for it.
Because they are fools.
Auuuuuuum. Thats not it.
Men get interested when she is not chasing him. And she had attitude.
Example
Nice girl: " i disagree with what yiu said."
Girl with 0 fucks given: " you're fuckin moron, bye.
Shit like 0 fucks given lady triggers mental foreplay to weak or vulnerable men. Desprate. It like a scene where as the girl needs a spanking after an argument. Fk gets guys horny if thdy are not careful.
All depends on his mindset.I think because most of them like challenges. By the way, not only men do that, a lot of women do the same thing.
OMG YASS. Why? this is the meanest thing!
Depends on who you think is blowing their chances... women most of the time are Not open to being direct
We sometimes don't want something until or unless we can't have it or lost it. Others is so no one else can have it
because as soon as you stop paying attention to them than they notice you
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