Would you like if your boyfriend while cuddling rubbed your belly and told you that someday he wants to put a baby inside there?

[Anonymous]

We both want kids latter and I thought it would be a romantic way to tell her I love her so much. We have been dating a year. Ladies what do you think or suggest I do instead?

[spuitkaas]

Touching my belly is already a no and put a baby inside it is creepy as fuck. I'm 20 and not thinking about kids till I'm 30. I would feel incredibly uncomfortable if my boyfriend did that.

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[samhradh_leannan]

That would be cute if we were really serious about having kids at the time. Like actually planning/trying to have kids. As far as a someday, down the road kind of thing, I’d find it a little too intense.

[Asker]

It might be

[samhradh_leannan]

For me it is. I also personally just don’t find the whole “I want to put a baby in you” thing to be romantic at all, or a turn on, or anything like that. To me it literally is just saying “I want to have kids with you” which is a big deal, and a serious topic of conversation. Not just a way to say that you love someone.

[Asker]

Hm good point though it is also a sweet way to say I want to fuck her and cum in her.

[samhradh_leannan]

That is absolutely not the same thing, lol.

I’m sure there are girls who would be fine with this, and even like it. But for me personally, it actually makes me feel quite uncomfortable. It’s taking way too casual of an attitude towards having kids, combined with making me feel pressured to get pregnant or be super okay with pregnancy. The “put a baby in you” thing comes across as possessive/marking territory, plus it diminishes the seriousness of what it means to actually get pregnant- it’s a big sacrifice and actually pretty scary. To hear a guy say “I want to put a baby in you” makes me feel like the actual experience of pregnancy is being disregarded and my opinion on the matter is not being considered. I do want kids someday but I’m also terrified of pregnancy. I want my guy to sympathize with that and take the issue seriously. This comment would, for me, not achieve that result.

[Asker]

OK well thanks for sharing. Any suggestions on better things I could say to her?

[samhradh_leannan]

It really just depends so much on the individual girl. The safest bet is to just say how you feel. If you are trying to express that you love her, just say that you love her. But you know her better than I do- your particular girl might be totally fine with this comment. I’d suggest getting a feel for the situation for yourself. As strongly as I feel about this, I can still only speak to my own personal opinion.

[Elliegirl]

It’s kinda cute. I wouldn’t mind if my boyfriend did that, but we agreed not to have any babies until we get married.

[Asker]

Lol well that is what someday is for. Not now but someday.

[Elliegirl]

True. Once someday gets here, I’m hoping he’ll put a baby in me three or four times. I’ve got a feeling he’s going to propose soon, and I can’t wait to start a family with him. I want to be a mommy sooo much!

[Asker]

I'm hoping that your right. Though he will probably put 5 babies in you girl. :)

[Elliegirl]

I’m perfectly ok with that.

[Juxtapose]

I'd only date men who looked like women but if I was dating a guy like that then I'd just laugh and dare him to try to put a baby in me LOL!

[helpmate82]

I love it, it's super hot. But only say it when you mean it

[Asker]

Of course I will mean it when or if I tell my love that.

[nevermoregirl7]

It kind of depends on the woman. Some women are just ready to have kids faster than others. You would know better than me whether or not your girlfriend is ok with that.

[Anonymous]

I'd love it. It's so romantic and nice. If she really wants kids with you and you sure she loves you, I don't see a reason she won't like it.

[Asker]

I hope she will

[Cuteusernamehere]

Say it if you really mean it but be prepared for her to actually believe it too. You may bring your relationship to another level your not prepared for 😉

[Asker]

In what way do you mean that?

[Cuteusernamehere]

If you say "I want to make babies with you" and she believes you, you can take a not so serious relationship to a much more serious level.

[Asker]

Ok so how does that change things?

[Cuteusernamehere]

Is your relationship a serious one? Are you actually thinking of marriage and children with her? If so then it shouldn't change anything except making her aware that's the way your thinking.
If it's not that serious to you then you might make her start thinking about marriage and children with you. If that's not something you actually want it may make things more difficult for you.

[Asker]

It is more we are thinking about it but not yet talking or planning about it.

[SarahsSummer]

Umm, no. Don’t do that. Save it for when/if you ask her to marry you. If you want her to know you love her, just tell her you love her. put a baby in there while rubbing her belly equals creepy.

[Asker]

IN what way does it seem creepy?

[Kaylyne]

My husband must have done something like this some nine months ago, for now I'm due to give birth sometime this week.

[Sweetiepie01]

Girl congrats!🙌🏽

[Kaylyne]

@Sweetiepie01 Thank you so much.

[Sweetiepie01]

Of course hun ❤️

[Asker]

Hurray Cograts

[LLils]

It is lovely but make sure you are on the same page as it might get awkward if not. I personally would love it 😊

[Asker]

We chatted about it recently so I'm pretty sure we are on the same page about it.

[fauchelevent]

Like out of nowhere? Sounds a little creepy :P I dunno, if my boyfriend said that to me, I'd probably start laughing.

[Anonymous]

No, I would personally hate that. I would probably break up with him right then and there. I don't want children, and I don't like being treated as an incubator.

[Claire2017]

You need to emphasize the 'someday' or she may take it a bit too literally

[Anonymous]

Of course, but only if it's really meant and in the right context, i. e. not rush anything.

[Asker]

What do you mean by if it is really meant? Hopefully she will get someday as in the future.

[Anonymous]

That sounds a bit creepy, but I'd find it cheesy and aww at it.

[lollipop431]

Yes, if you're in a long-term relationship.

[bytes]

At my age maybe, not so much at your age

[sicosico]

I find it sexy

[Sweetiepie01]

Omg that would make me blush and melt 😍

[BleepRawrsaurus_Rex]

Lmfao that’s creepy

[Asker]

Why is it creepy? If we work out we are going to have children together.

[BleepRawrsaurus_Rex]

At this age it’s too soon to tell