How do I deal with my boyfriend being upset that my ex was black?

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abc3643 · Accepted Answer

That's his problem.

I say get tough and make him explain CLEARLY why he has an issue with it.
1. If it's because he's a racist, then dump his ass right there and then - you don't need douchebags like that in your life.
2. If it's because he's insecure that he won't "measure up", so to speak, well, then confront his with this hypothetical question: "How do you know my last white boyfriend wasn't bigger in the pants than you?"
3. If he hasn't had sex with you yet, then maybe he's afraid you won't be as tight as he'd hoped because of the black guy.
4. If it's something else, find out what the root cause is, but I expect its one of those three.

If it is 2 or 3, then you need to reassure him about his adequacy as a lover. While I hate lying, you might even have to lie to him (or not) telling him that he is better in bed than the black guy was.

If he can't deal with it within 3 weeks, dump him.

Matt-G · Accepted Answer

If your boyfriend didn't know your ex then his "opinion" is unfounded and baseless. I. e. he's making up reasons to be upset.. now whatever colour your ec was if he had a monster penis and left you ruined to mere mortal men then god bless, I'd also be upset 😂

Flower-petal · Accepted Answer

Ohhh I can't stand it when people are prejudice. Tell him to get over it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The truck is to downplay the size of his penis and how good the sex was.

Logorithim · Answer

That's not something that should bother him, but since it does, you have to determine how much, if at all, it's affecting the relationship, since it's unlikely someone holding that opinion is going to change it when you correctly point out that it doesn't matter.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

If it's a problem then end it... If he is that insecure about himself that he has a problem with you being with a black guy... What will be the next thing he nit picks you for... Also, did he say why he is so uncomfortable with that... Or all he offered was he was uncomfortable?

BrianDodd · Answer

He is racist that is all I can see from him right now. Tell him that you are not with him anymore and if he can not deal with someone's past then he shouldn't be with you

Nik1hil · Answer

tell him even though your Ex was black. your boyfriend has much bigger penis then your Ex

lord_chilled · Answer

Well, it seems like the problem is more dick size related rather than a race problem.

And tbh, from reading your replies, i dont think you are helping much.

If you tell him he was bigger and was better in bed, ofc he is gonna be upset.
You might as well break it up, i dont think this is gonna change

Humbledman74006 · Answer

Is he upset because he was black or because he knows he has small dick, compared to what you have had.

stu84 · Answer

😂😂 good knowledge most black guys are packing downstairs 😂 either your boyfriend's jealous n scared to follow that or he's slightly racist which is worse.

Horry · Answer

I'd seriously consider what he has a problem and ask yourself if you are comfortable being with someone who sees colour as something to get upset about

dph4997 · Answer

U dont if he has a problem with that then he needs to get over it cuz it has nothing to do with ur relationship

momoref · Answer

You tell him what happened has happened and it is not wrong to date a black guy

VirginiaBeachBum · Answer

If he can't get over it, you'll have no other option than to move on to someone else.

vittle1999 · Answer

It's more of Ur bf's problem n not urs. U can't undo Ur past.

Alistayr · Answer

Don't. If he has a problem with it, then he's shallow, and you can do much better than him.

Phaser00 · Answer

Many white men don’t want their wife to have dated black men, in the same way they wouldn’t want their daughter to marry a black guy, cause they think that women who do that are cheap and wh**es, thats the simple truth. If you’ve dated a black guy in the past, you should make sure your current boyfriend doesn’t find out, or if you dont want to take the risk you shouldn't do it. It’s that simple.

mrk-el · Answer

Maybe he's jealous. Maybe he knows something about your past relationship w/ the other guy. You see sometime things like that makes us feel like you are much better with them.

El_Prez · Answer

I don't see your relationship working out long-term. Jump ship @asker

Anonymous · Answer

Well, that just proves you're not racist, of course

pap911 · Answer

I would drop you like a hot potato and go find me a lady. I do not stick mine in a hole where another race had theirs.

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

Ask him why he's upset. If what he tells you startles you, let him know.

TheLawless1 · Answer

If he had any respect for himself he wouldn't have come anywhere near your stinking ass.

Zelea · Answer

Make him your ex boyfriend

Analinda1999 · Answer

break up. dont date racists.

MadCringey · Answer

Lmfao you guys probably shouldn't date.

cancan73 · Answer

Tell him to grow the fuck up or fuck off

Water_Bottle · Answer

You don't. His issue.

WalterRadio · Answer

Hire a pretty black escort for him.

Intraluminal · Answer

Not your problem. let him deal or fly.

Mike_Hum · Answer

he should choose better women.

cupidkisses · Answer

Why does he feel upset?

CT_CD · Answer

Break up

BleepRawrsaurus_Rex · Answer

Dump him

DeathHero · Answer

Why you just dont stay in team black?

sexymonkeybanana · Answer

Ur a whore thats why

Anonymous · Answer

Stick with your own!

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