How do I deal with my boyfriend being upset that my ex was black?

[Anonymous]

[abc3643]

That's his problem.

I say get tough and make him explain CLEARLY why he has an issue with it.
1. If it's because he's a racist, then dump his ass right there and then - you don't need douchebags like that in your life.
2. If it's because he's insecure that he won't "measure up", so to speak, well, then confront his with this hypothetical question: "How do you know my last white boyfriend wasn't bigger in the pants than you?"
3. If he hasn't had sex with you yet, then maybe he's afraid you won't be as tight as he'd hoped because of the black guy.
4. If it's something else, find out what the root cause is, but I expect its one of those three.

If it is 2 or 3, then you need to reassure him about his adequacy as a lover. While I hate lying, you might even have to lie to him (or not) telling him that he is better in bed than the black guy was.

If he can't deal with it within 3 weeks, dump him.

[Matt-G]

If your boyfriend didn't know your ex then his "opinion" is unfounded and baseless. I. e. he's making up reasons to be upset.. now whatever colour your ec was if he had a monster penis and left you ruined to mere mortal men then god bless, I'd also be upset 😂

[Asker]

That's not how the vagina works

[Matt-G]

It was a just a lol hun x

[Flower-petal]

Ohhh I can't stand it when people are prejudice. Tell him to get over it.

[Logorithim]

That's not something that should bother him, but since it does, you have to determine how much, if at all, it's affecting the relationship, since it's unlikely someone holding that opinion is going to change it when you correctly point out that it doesn't matter.

[motownplayer2000]

If it's a problem then end it... If he is that insecure about himself that he has a problem with you being with a black guy... What will be the next thing he nit picks you for... Also, did he say why he is so uncomfortable with that... Or all he offered was he was uncomfortable?

[BrianDodd]

He is racist that is all I can see from him right now. Tell him that you are not with him anymore and if he can not deal with someone's past then he shouldn't be with you

[Nik1hil]

tell him even though your Ex was black. your boyfriend has much bigger penis then your Ex

[Asker]

Why would a lie. This isn't 1950 and most women have been with bigger guys than those they end up marrying. Guys need to get over penis size

[Nik1hil]

then you can watch him staying upset, or you can use this like, "my Ex was big , but the guy literally had no precision or motion, the guy exhausting and pounder, it never felt sweet like it does with you, which i absolutely love"

[Asker]

Maybe but my ex has a completely justified reputation as being amazing in bed.

[Nik1hil]

that is exactly the reason why he is upset.. he feels he is not good enough for you..

[lord_chilled]

Well, it seems like the problem is more dick size related rather than a race problem.

And tbh, from reading your replies, i dont think you are helping much.

If you tell him he was bigger and was better in bed, ofc he is gonna be upset.
You might as well break it up, i dont think this is gonna change

[Humbledman74006]

Is he upset because he was black or because he knows he has small dick, compared to what you have had.

[Asker]

Yeah. That's about the height of it.

[Humbledman74006]

He may never get passed that, ask him if he wants to watch what it's like

[lord_chilled]

Again with the cuckery. Is this what this site is all about?

[stu84]

😂😂 good knowledge most black guys are packing downstairs 😂 either your boyfriend's jealous n scared to follow that or he's slightly racist which is worse.

[Horry]

I'd seriously consider what he has a problem and ask yourself if you are comfortable being with someone who sees colour as something to get upset about

[dph4997]

U dont if he has a problem with that then he needs to get over it cuz it has nothing to do with ur relationship

[momoref]

You tell him what happened has happened and it is not wrong to date a black guy

[VirginiaBeachBum]

If he can't get over it, you'll have no other option than to move on to someone else.

[vittle1999]

It's more of Ur bf's problem n not urs. U can't undo Ur past.

[Alistayr]

Don't. If he has a problem with it, then he's shallow, and you can do much better than him.

[mrk-el]

Maybe he's jealous. Maybe he knows something about your past relationship w/ the other guy. You see sometime things like that makes us feel like you are much better with them.

[El_Prez]

I don't see your relationship working out long-term. Jump ship @asker

[Anonymous]

Well, that just proves you're not racist, of course

[Asker]

I'm not sure I could be with a guy who shares

[Opinion Owner]

Who shares?

[Asker]

Shares me...

[Opinion Owner]

What about sharing you

[pap911]

I would drop you like a hot potato and go find me a lady. I do not stick mine in a hole where another race had theirs.

[abc3643]

You must be giddy! January is coming soon and that is White Sale Month. You should be able to get some new sheets and robes and hoods. Contact Aryan Outfitters...
www.motherjones.com/.../

[Asker]

@abc3643 lol

[Anon-ymous1]

Ask him why he's upset. If what he tells you startles you, let him know.

[TheLawless1]

If he had any respect for himself he wouldn't have come anywhere near your stinking ass.

[Horry]

If you had brain you'd be dangerous

[TheLawless1]

It's always you effeminate Limey pussies who throw bullshit at my posts. You must love getting overrun by Arabs.

[Horry]

I'd love to enter in to a battle of wits with you sir, but Im afraid you're unarmed.

[TheLawless1]

Either make a valid point or get the fuck off my thread.

[Intraluminal]

@Horry
LOL 😂

[Zelea]

Make him your ex boyfriend