Listen..I really don't want to be a bitch, your pretty, but I doubt the reason guys aren't asking you out be cause your "to good for them" the prettiest girls at my school always have hundreds of boyfriends...Why? Because they're pretty and every guy asks them out. I'm pretty sure it's your self-asteem isue that's getting away, sorry, but I doubt the reason is you being to beautiful for everyone else.
Don't worry, you look great! But a major reason that some guys might not be going after you is that they're afraid of you rejecting them. That doesn't mean that you should necessarily ask a guy yourself, but you should consider trying to make things just a little easier for him.
Well, maybe you're not encouraging guys enough. Sometimes guys need a little nudge... OK maybe a big nudge. Show them that you are interested in dating. And if you meet a guy who you really like then encourage him and, let him know how you feel.There's nothing to lose, you could even ask him out. It's about time girls start taking control, waiting for the guys to act is really oldschool. But just remember you don't need a boy at your side to look good or whatever. You're georgous and obviously have a great personality don't change yourself just so boys will like you because in the end it won't be worth it.
I'll be honest here...your looks can be the reason guys are not approaching u. Not because you're not good look'n, but because you ARE good look'n. Strange but true.
Here's a hint for all girls: the best "relationship-quality" guys are the ones that are not all silky-smooth when they're talking to you. If he seems nervous, anxious or intimidated...that's a good thing. :)
Girl you look really pretty! If I looked half as pretty as you, I'd be stunning :) (totally not lezbo) You look a lot like Angelina Jolie. The problem isn't your looks obviously, I know everyone has said this but it probably is the self confidence thing.
And girl..don't worry, pretty much everybody was ugly in middle school lol the awkward stage! Don't worry about that. If I were you, I'd keep smiling, you never know who is falling in love with that smile!
Also, make sure your body language is open too, don't fold your arms a lot because that makes people think you don't want to be bugged.
Your attractive but your not my type. As for your personality its great. Do you wear shirts of your favorite bands on a regular basis? If not, you should. That could help some guys know what to say to start a conversation with and ask you out. Try not hanging around your friends so much in public because that's intimidating.
Wow your beautiful babe in this case its because the guys are too shy to approach to you and also you look like if you would have a boyfriend already. If I saw you in a party or somewhere I would at least try to talk to you even if your taken or not :D
just give the guy hints to come and talk to you like smile to him and do signs to come toward you to talk.
I can't see your body on that picture. You said you were skinny, or still are, that does have something to do with attraction. I'm sure you know men prefer voluptuous girls, or something below that fullness some where. I'm surprise none of the guys mention that here...well, I haven't read every single post here. However, you do have a pretty face, but guys usually want more than that. On top of the "best answer" mention here, that's part of he reason in my opinion you don't get asked out.
You already mentioned the root of your problem in your question: your insecurity and lack of self-confidence. Those are the worst. Everything anyone sees is always going to be different and unique depending on perspective. The way you see others (and yourself) is colored by your feelings.
i would become tan and draw atttention to yourself ! recently I started going in tanning beds, bought pink clip in hair streaks (they look real), wear cute clothes, talll boots, and I have definitly got more attention! so just spice up your look... :) I think you are cute btw--dont feel bad 17 is sstill young for relasionships
You have pretty like icy eyes. I think your self-confidence issues could be your problem or that guys are just intimidated by you. I usually don't get approached by guys either, they just stare from a distance. I think its because I may look snobby or intimidating or something but I'm really not, I'm just shy. It sounds like we are kinda in the same situation. I'm sure there is a guy out there that is right for you, just the way you are :)
You should try flirting with guys from new schools.. That way they won't have that prexisting first impression of you from middle school. Since you say you liek music how about you go to some concerts you enjoy in the area, you will see plenty of guys with similar tastes in music so probablly similar styles, etc... I always meet guys at stuff liek that they usually will approach you but sometimes depending on crowd you ahve to be the outgoing on and start talking to them, be flirty and then exchange numbers:) take it from there.
well you're extremely beautiful, that's for sure. just wait for the right guy. the only thing that would stop me from approaching you is that those gorgeous big blue eyes would make me extremely nervous and shy and it'd be hard for me to keep eye contact or say anything to you.. but I'm just a shy guy haha.
i just looked down and Brando summed it up much better than I did... well I hope this helps anyway :)
hey the guys are right you shouldn't feel bad I think you really attractive why if you lived by me I think I would ask you out on a date for dinner cheer up some ones got there eye on you your just not opening your eyes enough to see it yet but you will in time.
same thing has happened to me. I've actually had this conversation with a lot of people. general consensus is that I'm "hot" but look intimidating. the guys I'm talking to know was scared to come up and talked to me because he figured someone that looked like me had to be taken. he was wrong haha. I don't know why I look intimidating. I don't think ill ever know. I've opted for trying to smile more and laugh to look more approachable. it seems to be working. confidence is key :)
Oh my! If I hadn't read your story I would've thought you're a very popular and strongly admired girl! You're amazing! I love your eyes and smile, your hair is nice... It's probably something in your confidence, behaviour, or attitude towards yourself and the opposite sex.
You're very pretty, especially your eyes. I'd say it's more intimidation than anything, or the assumption you aren't single. I've dated some gorgeous girls, but I'd never have dreamed of walking over and asking them out.
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Listen..I really don't want to be a bitch, your pretty, but I doubt the reason guys aren't asking you out be cause your "to good for them" the prettiest girls at my school always have hundreds of boyfriends...Why? Because they're pretty and every guy asks them out. I'm pretty sure it's your self-asteem isue that's getting away, sorry, but I doubt the reason is you being to beautiful for everyone else.
Don't worry, you look great! But a major reason that some guys might not be going after you is that they're afraid of you rejecting them. That doesn't mean that you should necessarily ask a guy yourself, but you should consider trying to make things just a little easier for him.
Well, maybe you're not encouraging guys enough. Sometimes guys need a little nudge... OK maybe a big nudge. Show them that you are interested in dating. And if you meet a guy who you really like then encourage him and, let him know how you feel.There's nothing to lose, you could even ask him out. It's about time girls start taking control, waiting for the guys to act is really oldschool. But just remember you don't need a boy at your side to look good or whatever. You're georgous and obviously have a great personality don't change yourself just so boys will like you because in the end it won't be worth it.
I'll be honest here...your looks can be the reason guys are not approaching u. Not because you're not good look'n, but because you ARE good look'n. Strange but true.
Here's a hint for all girls: the best "relationship-quality" guys are the ones that are not all silky-smooth when they're talking to you. If he seems nervous, anxious or intimidated...that's a good thing. :)
Girl you look really pretty! If I looked half as pretty as you, I'd be stunning :) (totally not lezbo) You look a lot like Angelina Jolie. The problem isn't your looks obviously, I know everyone has said this but it probably is the self confidence thing.
And girl..don't worry, pretty much everybody was ugly in middle school lol the awkward stage! Don't worry about that. If I were you, I'd keep smiling, you never know who is falling in love with that smile!
Also, make sure your body language is open too, don't fold your arms a lot because that makes people think you don't want to be bugged.
Your attractive but your not my type. As for your personality its great. Do you wear shirts of your favorite bands on a regular basis? If not, you should. That could help some guys know what to say to start a conversation with and ask you out. Try not hanging around your friends so much in public because that's intimidating.
Wow your beautiful babe in this case its because the guys are too shy to approach to you and also you look like if you would have a boyfriend already. If I saw you in a party or somewhere I would at least try to talk to you even if your taken or not :D
just give the guy hints to come and talk to you like smile to him and do signs to come toward you to talk.
I can't see your body on that picture. You said you were skinny, or still are, that does have something to do with attraction. I'm sure you know men prefer voluptuous girls, or something below that fullness some where. I'm surprise none of the guys mention that here...well, I haven't read every single post here. However, you do have a pretty face, but guys usually want more than that. On top of the "best answer" mention here, that's part of he reason in my opinion you don't get asked out.
You already mentioned the root of your problem in your question: your insecurity and lack of self-confidence. Those are the worst. Everything anyone sees is always going to be different and unique depending on perspective. The way you see others (and yourself) is colored by your feelings.
i would become tan and draw atttention to yourself ! recently I started going in tanning beds, bought pink clip in hair streaks (they look real), wear cute clothes, talll boots, and I have definitly got more attention! so just spice up your look... :) I think you are cute btw--dont feel bad 17 is sstill young for relasionships
You have pretty like icy eyes. I think your self-confidence issues could be your problem or that guys are just intimidated by you. I usually don't get approached by guys either, they just stare from a distance. I think its because I may look snobby or intimidating or something but I'm really not, I'm just shy. It sounds like we are kinda in the same situation. I'm sure there is a guy out there that is right for you, just the way you are :)
a guy who wouldn't approach you is either gay or blind...
you are hot and beautiful..
there are a lot of guys out there wishing to be with someone like you .. (even I)
cheer up..
if you were in my school I might also avoid you ... because you're too hot that when I get closer I'll get butterflies ...
just be more social.. a lot of good people out there don't be shy and don't force your self no talk just take it easy...
You should try flirting with guys from new schools.. That way they won't have that prexisting first impression of you from middle school. Since you say you liek music how about you go to some concerts you enjoy in the area, you will see plenty of guys with similar tastes in music so probablly similar styles, etc... I always meet guys at stuff liek that they usually will approach you but sometimes depending on crowd you ahve to be the outgoing on and start talking to them, be flirty and then exchange numbers:) take it from there.
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guys love out going girls !
even if your loud around your friends, it doesn't matter cause guys don't see tht
they want to see your fun side
dont take it over the top, but be loud, out going, and a party to be with
and if your already attractive then everything will work itself out !
well you're extremely beautiful, that's for sure. just wait for the right guy. the only thing that would stop me from approaching you is that those gorgeous big blue eyes would make me extremely nervous and shy and it'd be hard for me to keep eye contact or say anything to you.. but I'm just a shy guy haha.
i just looked down and Brando summed it up much better than I did... well I hope this helps anyway :)
hey the guys are right you shouldn't feel bad I think you really attractive why if you lived by me I think I would ask you out on a date for dinner cheer up some ones got there eye on you your just not opening your eyes enough to see it yet but you will in time.
same thing has happened to me. I've actually had this conversation with a lot of people. general consensus is that I'm "hot" but look intimidating. the guys I'm talking to know was scared to come up and talked to me because he figured someone that looked like me had to be taken. he was wrong haha. I don't know why I look intimidating. I don't think ill ever know. I've opted for trying to smile more and laugh to look more approachable. it seems to be working. confidence is key :)
Oh my! If I hadn't read your story I would've thought you're a very popular and strongly admired girl! You're amazing! I love your eyes and smile, your hair is nice... It's probably something in your confidence, behaviour, or attitude towards yourself and the opposite sex.
You're very pretty, especially your eyes. I'd say it's more intimidation than anything, or the assumption you aren't single. I've dated some gorgeous girls, but I'd never have dreamed of walking over and asking them out.
You didn't approach girls that you have dated? Did they approach you?
Yep everyone I've dated has approached me first, I have terrible confidence issues. I know why, but it's something I've never gotten over.
Excuse me miss, what's your name?
Can you come, hang with me?
Possibly, can I take you out, tonight