Sorry but I think your relationship sounds extremely toxic and unhealthy. Slapping you is never ok. Neither is throwing you onto or pinning you to the bed, even if you claim he's "usually" doing it to "calm you down". The both of you seem to not be in a good enough mental state where you're capable of having a long-term relationship. I'm not saying that people who are mentally ill in some way aren't allowed to be in a relationship. I suffer from anxiety myself and I've been depressed in the past. But when your mental illnesses are affecting your relationship to the point where you're making really impulsive and destructive decisions, such as slapping your partner or behaving irrationally, it's not healthy anymore. It's not good for him or you.
My personal opinion is that you should break up, and that the both of you should work on your issues separately. Clearly they're seeping into the relationship and making it harder for the both of you.
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Its one thing to be slapped during intercourse (if thats what your into) but there is absolutely no excuse to slap you outside of the act. That is an implicit rule that all men should know. Because it hapens in the sheets doesn't mean it is fine to happen in the streets
It’s not okay.
You should definitely speak, but I wouldn’t be surprised if this is just the start given he suffers the same issues he should understand you rather than abuse you.
Speak to your specialists.
It sounds like the two of you aren't right for each other, honestly. If you both have problems with depression and anxiety and emotions, you could end up in a dark spiral. These are things you have to talk to each other about, and talk to your doctor about. He has to know your concerns and feelings, and your doctor has to know if you are still experiencing problems. If this isn't something the two of you can confront honestly and openly, you will only end up hurting each other, emotionally or physically, in the end.
He messed up. He's watching you lose control and freak out in front of him - I'm sure he was just trying to do what he thought was best to snap you back to reality. It's not something to break up with him over. Just tell him if you can't get a grip on yourself to make sure he doesn't take it to far. What you guys need is communication
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First of all, make it clear that this isn't fine at all.
You seem to have a very honest relationship.
I didn't think I'd say that just by looking at the title, but maybe you could give him a second chance if you make it clear that he won't have a third one.Think! Assess the situation thoroughly. Make your decision based on factors that we can't determine but you can
He's unstable
Either get him help or leave him
Your depression and anxiety should NEVER be all about himTL;DR the whole thing but read enough to say this, there is no good excuse for violence. Reading the rest wouldn't change my point of view! He needs to go...
My dad did that to his girlfriend, and it still hurts my heart. I told him that if he does it again, I'm calling the police. You should too. If you let it happen, it will get worse.
I don't think it is my place to decide if you stay or not but I would really consider and think about everything
No lol.. I don't care what someone's excuses if they are not defending themselves or somebody else they have no fucking right to resort to violence.
Fuck that guy.If he slaps you in the bedroom for sexual reasons and you like it, that is fine. He should never hit you outside of that context though. Maybe you need to explain the difference to him because it’s not ok.
in my opinion need a meditation break for both, if you can't help each other atm then it may get worse and go against psycho treatments
Nope. Striking, or even aggressively putting your hands on a woman is ridiculous. Get out now. If you stay, you're opening yourself up to an escalation
If this was a nice guy... she'd have left him already...
If things have gotten physical like you said, it's time to leave.
A once in a while mistake can be pardoned.
If it's recurring, do NOT stay with him.I don’t think it’s a good idea to stay with him... at least take some space!
No you have to leave him. You answered the question in the post- Both you and him need to sort out your own issues. Take a break. Also the fact that he pinned you/slapped you is enough to leave
Well, i dont think you are in a healthy relationship. I think that you won't be in a good relationship until you dont take care of yourselves first.
I thought girls wanted guys to act like that though? Isn't that alpha behavior?
Not only no but fuck no
No , You should to leave him
No. if he did it once he is going to do it again.
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