My boyfriend and I had a really bad argument yesterday and honestly both of us were at fault and did things that we shouldn’t have. I was severely upset and had an anxiety attack during our conversation which made me shut down and only made things worse. When we’ve argued before he’s thrown me on the bed or pinned me down. But that’s usually to calm me down because we’re arguing and then I have a anxiety or panic attack. But last night when he pinned me down, I said something about not being good enough and he slapped me in the face. It wasn’t hard, I don’t have any marks nor does it hurt and he obviously held back. But, if I’m being honest, he’s slapped me in the bedroom before for kink reasons but he’s never actually slapped me to slap me for non-intamate reasons. So I do think it was a mistake, and he didn’t actually mean it. The main problem is that he takes my depression and anxiety personally, that if he can’t make me happy then he doesn’t deserve to live. And I’ve told him to go to therapy about it, and also I see a psychiatrist and a psychologist to help with my depression and anxiety. But I’m on too low of a dose so that’s why I haven’t been handling it to the best that I could. Also, he has depression and anxiety and used to be medicated but stopped, so I honestly feel like I shouldn’t break up with him and he just needs to start seeing someone again. But I’m conflicted because he’s honestly the nicest person in the world but he just needs to sort out past issues, current issues, and personal issues in therapy again. Also, once I’m on a higher dosage of medication which I’m scheduled to see my psychiatrist and psychologist next week then I’ll be able to manage my depression and anxiety with techniques so it won’t be an issue for myself or for him. What do you think?
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It’s not okay.
You should definitely speak, but I wouldn’t be surprised if this is just the start given he suffers the same issues he should understand you rather than abuse you.
Speak to your specialists.2