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I don't think you need to know in advance whether someone's into you or not. Granted , it helps a lot having the skill to discern when the liklihood is high. A couple of people here gave good advice but I'd like to focus on something else.
Due to social changes, the way we approach each other is different now. In the past, you could be a shy girl and someone would still approach, keep trying to get a reaction from you and poke for interest repeatedly. Not as much today. Now shy girls get passed by pretty much the same way shy guys always have been. Sure, guys may come up to the shy girl and say a few words, but if she doesn't take over the conversation very soon, makes a "counter approach" as it were, they'll disengage rather than risk sticking around where they might not be wanted.
So, the solution is to adopt another view of approaching and making moves. Now people seem to prefer an equal "back and forth", and it doesn't matter who says "Hi" first, or drops the first compliment, or first touches a shoulder. (that may come down to who's turn it is)
With a very introverted guy though, you might have to make 3 moves before he makes 1. Make a few slight moves and see if he'll make one in turn, as he still should!
With gradual moves you don't need to out yourself completely. "Let's go get ice cream!" doesn't spell "marry me" after all.
It's every shy person's responsibility to at least step somewhat out of their comfort zone. Neither of you should be stuck doing all the work.
As a shy guy, I can tell you that if I walk past you and I actively say something to you, then I'm probably attracted to you. I'll also make an active effort to help you even I don't think you really need it. If I'm not interested in a girl, then I only speak when spoken to. So, I would suggest you try and pay attention to whether he actively says hello to you and tries to help you, but not other women. Note... After a while, I may conclude that it's never going to happen and revert to a "don't speak unless spoken to" state. So, if you've known him for a while you might have to really think back.
I'll also probably add you on Facebook and message you. Mich easier to someone you like through text/messenger.
You could also just try sitting down with him and having a short conversation. If he seems really confused, and mildly nervous, but doesn't really try to cut it short, he may be into you.
That’s so cute! And so me lol 😆
I’ve been with him for 4 months and he said I love you yesterday 😊 I didn’t know he felt that way. I did but hadn’t said it because I’m shy and didn’t know if he felt the same. He texts me a lot. Says good things. Sees me at least once a week. We both have busy schedules. It’s what they say and how they act towards you. But it’s hard to tell. I can’t make moves and I don’t think he can either. We’ve only cuddled and kissed
The second link is the answer to your question, the first is a url. I am an introvert too and I can say that everything in this video is true to me and has better helped understand myself and other introverts.
Eye contact is one of the major signs. Smiling too. It can get a bit frustrating cause they won't make a move, you have to do it. And don't be shy, try to get them out of their shell when it's just you two or a couple friends.
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I was the shy guy when I was younger. Basically if I talked to you, or kept sneaking glances at you, that meant I liked you. Everyone is different, so who really knows. (as a kid, I was an asshole to girls I liked because I didn't know how to show that I liked them)
Best bet is to try and strike up a conversation, or ask them out to do something. (don't say do you want to go out. Come up with something that you would do naturally and see if they want to join you. Asking a shy person on a date with the knowledge it's a date would have scared me off because I wouldn't have known how to deal with it. )
I'm a shy guy and I can help you with this, firstly I watch the girl then look away fast I'm so amazed at how amazing she is, and to try to force myself to try to get her attention I turn anonymous because when your anonymous you can't get rejected so I send flowers or letters anonymously, but others will just run and hide from the girl they like it depends on the guy but all I have to say is if the shy guy likes you you can see it, he'll look intimidated and you'll see it all over his face.
Lot's of ways, they might seem to look forward to making conversation with you but have no idea what to do once they're there and end up making retarded small talk or ending it quickly. They will crack a smile in your direction every once in a while or blush. A good way to tell is to get close to them and kind of surprise them, see their reaction.
Don’t mix introverts with shy people. Introverts like to have their time alone while at the same time being social. Shy guys don’t show confidence and most likely have insecurities. How do I know this? I used to be a quiet guy that avoided women until I worked on my purpose and gain confidence to speak to women that I like.
You ask or make a move. You just don't know with shy poeple till you ask. Flirting just makes things worse I found.
I'm a shy extrovert who is into shy girls so I'm always in the dark and hinting does not work. I have to kill a friendship and ask.
Well if he is a shy guy.. he try to be always around you if you are in a class or at work.. and he can't look into your eye if he is having feelings for you.. but he will be peeking at you when are not seeing him.. try to talk to him.. iam sure he will be shy at first.. but he will become much more comfortable with you in no time..
It's really hard to know, I think the best way to figure it out is just to look them in the eyes and if they seems really embarrassed or turn their look away then they are interested in you
If ur into introverts then u have to make the first move I'm a introvert myself and it's hard to bring myself to talk to someone new just talk to them for a little until they get comfortable being around you
they'll likely talk less when you're around. I have a friend who is an introvert and whenever his crush is around he shuts down and doesn't talk.
Every shy person has something that makes them bloom. Try sending a text or really showing initiative and you'll soon find out. You only need 5 seconds of confidence to change your life :)
but what if she also gets super nervous around you. can u still have feelings for her amd then how do u act
Shy guys flirt like girls; I'm working my way out of that category myself.
Shy guys often become "nice guys" by doing nice things and trying to be kind, but make no mistake, they're manipulative when you dig deeper..
Casually mentioned things that you like or are into and wait and see if they gift you or join into your interests. Be patient, you gotta get past their comfort zone of solitude.
Easy,
They don't, you have to be the one to take the intelligence and push for situations that make them speak their mind
It's hard to tell, because a shy guy would act nervous with every girl, even if he doesn't like them (sentimentally speaking).
And I know it very well, 'cause I'm quite shy myself
If you notice the microsecond look in your eye and then a quick look away it might mean you just found a shy guy who likes you
A good hint is whether or not he goes out of his way to spend time with you
Probably if he stares at your eyes for a while and if you turn and look at him back he's face turns red or he get nervous or if he get kinda nervous when he's around you but trys to be extra nice but yet still look cool
They look a lot. They could get more confidence if they saw you looking at them. Just stare the same way they do and look away when they notice, but not too quickly so its obvious you were looking at them.
When they keep staring and everytime you watch they turn away and that keeps happening lol, been there.
Im not too shy but i think i can help... A guy normally will try to be around you more, or just communicate with you as much as possible...
There ain't really à way to know maybe his eyes what's for sure is that you have to take the lead
you wouldn't be able to tell because shy people are too scared anyways
Sweat purfusly, muddle their words although an awkward boner is usually a dealbreaker.
but we can't just look down at their dick... they will notice
but is that a turn on?
I dont know probably not, id assume itd be extremely awkward. I usually sweat purfusly and muddle my words the latters never happen to me.
if she gets nervous is tht a turn off or is it kinda cute to you
To me its cute not sure about other men though.
I usually look at her but I would be in a blank space. It's when they said that he likes you.
I personally am always trying to spend time with my "crush"(so to say) even though I am a shy person, but I'm not the bravest, so I try to hint at it when we talk and show my emotions indirectly through body language and my tone of voice.
I dont. Im to weary of being accused of sexual assult for just saying hello
They look at you frequently and trying to be close to you
Put your hand on his crotch and if it gets hard there you go.
😂😂😂😂😂... they never show in common... all they do is keep glancing and hope they have a girl...😁... I used to do this...😂😂😂😂😂
Introverts are hard to read. Just look for subtle things. Always looking at you, nervousness around you, extra effort on your behalf by him.
They never really come out and say it do they?
Am shy af, so I can't even show anything without trying to regret it or make me rethink my life
Stare. A guy won't get the girl without action. Shy guys just stare and never get anywhere unless it's by acting out of accident.
You wait for him to get on line and ask cause it's easier when we're not looking you straight in the eyes
How often does he text/message you? Introverts are more open via text
Usually introvert likes to look at you, specially the face. But eye contact is embarrassing, so, careful with the observation
If the guy trying to spend time with you ask you about your day and do stuff for you he's more than likely into you. Test the water by trying to hold his hand sometime that will be a good sign
Well as an introvert, look for extra shyness and difficulty finding words. But if he decides to take an extra step to get closer, that's definitely the ticket.
They stick around a lot, make the smallest excuse to be close to you in some way.
Looking at you often for 1 second each time is a sure sign he likes you
Start making moves, if he ain't catching he ain't wanting,
You can never tell with introverts. It's almost impossible. You just have to risk it.
They seem awkward or they might be weird. Around you and only you.
Yes if they look away fast
there's this nice girl that i know likes me and always tries to get my attention then smiles at me when she does. Sad to say im not interested in her and im a shy guy
how do you act back to her even though you don't have feelings for her
@creampiesugar Cold
Kind of agree with lucifer0005. I do those things lol
so hard. if you can know try to help me. girls have to give us signs
Just ask him out if he is interested he will say yes
Sometimes theyll make an effort to talk to you. You may not notice but they'll try
You can just see if your both interested in the same things and see if the guy wants to join as friends and see what happens
Well it depends on the boy tbh if he's just being nice then he wants to stay friend but if he's looking at u or flirting a lot then want to be more
It's difficult because most girls are attracted to the loudest guy in the room. We pretty much get ignored.
You will know in time.. but for the moment you have to enjoy your confidence
You think they aren't asking exactly the same question?
If they chat u then yes since writing is possible for shy guys
They will try to open up themselves and try to be confident on whatever they say
I am an introvert. Jk. I am an ambivert and just make the move.
They don't, they cry in silence !
They just pull out their penis and let it do the talk...😉
Lol... they even shy to do that lol
@rita_rittta oh...
They are that shy?🤔
Lol i don't know... im just kidding
No 😃😃😃 all my friends are an attractive and sexy guys
Lol lol... noooooo i didn't mean thaaaat
They dont cause they are shy. Like a mommys boy.
Just because people are shy doesn't mean their a mommas boy...
they're*
Yes itdoes. Think about it only girls are shy
Lol guys come on now think about. All you have to do is ask why
Well someone didn't eat their cereal in the morning. you're being all sarcastic and grumpy. Kind of ironic. And yes maybe i dont understand the male mind all too well or maybe i understand it so much so that it scares all males. Lol. But if you ask why are you shy? The answer will most likely be fear of rejection. There is a whole theory in pstchology that explai ns how it relates to the mother. But hey what do i know right? Im just an educated female that lacks male perception. Lol. But i would love to hear ypur analysis as to why
Fear of rejection could be it, smartass. But not necessarily. For example, in my case it was about having been sexually molested when I was 11. So being wanted for my body was an utterly repulsive thing and the smallest whiff of it caused terror in me.
But hey, you're the psychological genius who knows all men and thinks men can't be shy ;)
Shyness is another word for intimidation. Which is a fear of a person having power over you. If you have rejection wounds, that power is a power to trigger them. But rejection wounds are not the only wounds that exist, smartass.
Thank you for saying that. Oh people read now a days. It makes me so happy. Lol. Intimidation. Ok so it takes too long for me to explain on here how it relates to the mother but i woul like to know why are you intimidated by a female
*your* Men and women can both be shy. I don't know how stupid you have to be to think that "only women can be shy." Your logic is really flawed.
That ain't nice bro. But im super smart and funny. I dont care what ypu say. Im awesome and youd be lucky to be my awesome friend
Nor does it make a guy a "mommas boy"
Thats not what i said. I never said only women are shy
Yes it does
Doubt I'd be lucky to be that. Lol
And no, it doesn't always relate to the mother. Much as it often does, realities are much, much more complex than that. But yes, it does relate to traumas. Maternal rejection traumas, often. But other ones too.
Read Pope and his poem "A little learning is a dangerous thing". It applies to you right now.
Hahahaha. What league is this lol?
See now we are on the same page bro. Not everythungcan be explaine d wiha gag response. In n eed an essay to do that. And i dont have enough time to write one now.
Oh you are so intelligent. It tests my thoughts. Thabk you for that. Damn bro. You are awesome. Have an awesome day hust for being awesome.
Loooool boy ypu wish you were me 10 years ago.
Ok bro. I am happy being me cause there is no one else like me and im happy you are happy being you cause rhere is no one else like you in the world too
Of course you like me. Im awesome just like you. Whats not to like? High five right back.
I'm pretty shy around girls that I like but I honestly dont like my mom
And I'm only shy around those girls^ but other girls I have no problem having conversations with
Lol its ok you can be a pussy bitch if you want to because you are human and you need to be real. I think thats very honest and understandable and to me its more manly than any man who hides his feelings cause thats when the problems actually start because no matter how much you try to push them down. There will come a time where they will resurface when you least expect it.
@dandiecandie
So all guys who had a good relationship with their mother are shy? Wouldn't they be more likely to not be shy as they have been under to satisfy their mother's wishes and maintain a good loving relationship?
No thats not what i mean.
We're intimidated when we have an emotional wound/trauma, meaning something happened and we didn't/couldn't feel/release the emotions but bottled them. So making us feel the same emotion as what's bottled up causes a crazy strong emotional reaction as the new emotions triggers the old to also surface. Which we try to avoid because this is crazy uncomfortable. Hence the fear, which is actually a protection against being re-traumatised, and exists until the original emotionsl wound is healed by emotionally connecting to it and releasing the bottled emotion there.
I. e. it works like every other emotional over-reaction in the history of humanity. What's so strange about this?
And what do mommy's boys have to do with it? You can have a lovely mum but get years of rejection from women you date because you are a dwarf/disabled etc. That can cause a massive rejection wound too.
Doesn't connect to mommy's boy. The rejection wound can equally come from the dad especially if he's the primary care giver.
Not strange at all. Why is this strange? I didn't say it was strange. I agree with you. Its what i refused to type cause i am at work and it takes too long. Loool. But i agree with you
Bruh this is a little excessive I dont agree with her (the one who started this) but damn just leave it alone let her think that
Well i could be completepy wrong but at least i started something right. Lol. And that was the real purpose here. Obviously not only girls are shy. I would have to be from another dimension to actually believe that. I was just bored at work so i thought lets throw a stone and hide the hand. In other words give people something to talk about. Does it look familiar in our society today? Hmmm.
No not a troll. No im not pitiful. Whats pitiful is the question being asked. If questions like these are being asked they are begging to be challenged. I do have better things to do, like im at work right now persay. But gag just becomes addicting lol. I was trying to prove a point. That point was the answer to the question. That point was if you are shy face your problems first and then you will be ready to face the girl you like. Its pretty deep my analogy here. And we all proved this answer together right. Now whoever asked this question got the best of both worlds entertainment and actual good advice.
a lot of guys are shy? my best friend is an introvert and he’s extremely shy. wdym only girls can be shy?
@AnyoneWhoCares
There is no real way to get over shyness other than to accept that you care about how someone you like thinks about you.
Hahahaha
Not true at all @ anyone who cares
@dandiecandie
Why not?
Because shyness comes from fear and traumas of the past which have created a negative perception that comes up when you are faced with similar situations. This means you dont feel as if you are a new born baby that is perfect in every way. You feel as you have been damanged in some way. Thus making you lack confidence and due to this similar feeling of rejection from a previous situation that you have trained in your brains muscle memory cause it had a great impact on you the first time it happened, now it comes up when you are faced with typical situations. This is why shyness is caused and to fix this you must look into your past and deprogram that feeling that was previously created.
This means shyness is fixable
Perfectly right. I personally meditated for hours a day for the best part of a decade. That brings up and out all sorts of past shit. Shyness and intimidation and lots of other fears melt away after that as the old traumas come to the surface and are released. So I'm living testament that it is fixable, I have experiential knowledge of that.
See i knew we were alike. And pretty awesome
Im pretty awesome aren't i?
Im hilarious. No im not fishing for a complement bro. Im just amazed that we figured this out. And that im not the only one
I've figured out a bit more than this tbh. Not trying to brag, that's just a bit five years ago. But yeah, amazing to figure it out and I basically don't meet many people who have. People who with therapy understand the wounds are there, there's a good number. But who can release them? Always felt alone.
I figured out more too. Its self love to medicine to all fears.
Bro i dont need a complement or validation from you. I called it before you did. And i dont think you're being nice. Infact what you say its offensive as hell. And the opposite of my point. But i dont care what you say because who are you to judge me? And im not a know it all because i feel stupid im just curious about everything that i like. That doesn't mean i know it all. That just means i happened to stumble upon a subject that like you have experienced in my life. So dont judge too quickly because i dont know you and you dont know me. Dont confuse me with yourself. Projecting onto others is a narcissistic approach to someone you see as a threat. This is what you're doing. I think you need to do a lot more meditation to mend that. And thats just friendly adviced based on your reaction towards me. I am all i need dont need you or anyones validation for that matter. I may be innocent but im no sheep so dont be too quick to judge cause you're 35 and im 26. I paid my dues buddy
And yes it is simple its the system people can't see it. Awareness doesn't happen for all
I agree with everything you wrote on your shyness essay.
But you still haven't explained why you are relate Mommy boy's as a reason of them being shy?
You are just jealous your brother was momma's favorite and you have prejudice towards other momma's boys. Let go of the hate girl!
Loool i already explained it up there just read on bro and my brother is not my moms favorite loool but even if he was i would be happy. No jealousy there. You are foolish to think i would be jealous og my brother. Thats my blood. Hell i feel like his mom. He is everything for me. We both had a tough childhood so i would love it if this was the case. And im glad you agree with everythung i said cause im right. Im not saying to sound cocky but its common sense.
You didn't explain nothing, you think you something?
You disrespected mommy's boys. We ain't no games like toys.
I'm representing all momma's boys worldwide. You got to answer for the attacks on our pride. We coming heavy, momma behind me with the chopper and her aim steady.
Hahahahahahaha. Mommys boy put on some pants first loool. Make sure you take your glass of milk before bed. And everybody is something. Me you all the mamas boys and girls and everyone. Ok. So have a great night you mommys little boy and sweet dreams.
I am wearing pants tonight cuz I being a mommys boy.
Ok good boy. Sleep well.
Woof Woof
Lol you dog. you're not bad at all. You have pictures of guns going up and down on every angle but you couldnt hurt a fly even if you tried. You have a soft heart inside you. Thats the best quality to show off. Keep your gun in your pants because it will not make you any friends.
Damn is this still going on? Damn just kiss already
Guns are dangerous things! I wouldn't want to hurt a fly unless u say so!
Lol why if i say so? Who am i to tell you what to do lol? I ain't your mama looool.
I know you aren't mama, cuz I'd kiss you differently than how I'd kiss my mother.
Lol boy you wish you could kiss me. Sorry im waiting for my husband to do that whereever he is lol. Or if he exists. Who knows? So under these conditions you can't kiss me at all even if the opportunity was given.
I am your husband. =)
Nope you're not
Dandie :) Much as your reaction is warranted on what I said, let me be honest with ya. I kinda think you're pretty cool, so I intentionally threw out something less than nice to see if you'd trigger. Fully healed, or me not hitting a nerve doesn't trigger. You did, just a little. Get what I'm saying?
Which is not to say that's a problem. Hey, who's perfect? But I wasn't being me there, I'm actually really friendly. What was a test to see what stage in the process you actually are at :) Sorry to do that, but asking you of course I'll only hear what you say. Testing it I see the truth. :) Sending you a warm hug, annoying you is not my intention. Understanding where you are in your process is :) Forgive me please, I mean no harm :)
you're testing me without my permission? yes i know im supposed to respond and not react and a clear mind allows that and not reacting through anger and thats no excuse in my part. I was fully healed and i lost my way for a while so now im getting better and i know how to get there but it doesn't happen over night. Thank you for being concerned and trying to figure it out in terms of my process. But your approach was terrible. You can just ask me and be upfront about it. This is online i dont see your face and expressions at all. I can't semse your intentions. I hate games and i could tell you were playing one cause it was a slight insult after insult sometimes with a hahaha attached at the end as if i was blind and couldnt tell. Yes you are older and probably know more than me. There is no doubt because of our age gap but never ever underestimate a person based on age and looks. I am pretty special for my age i know that but i have also been through a lot.
Geeze this shit is still going on? Just stop already @dandiecandie
Blowing up my notifications and shit making me think it's something important but, no it's just you being an annoying, smart ass, know it all running your mouth for days about shit that doesn't matter.
Plus you're at work... its frowned upon to be on your phone at most places of employment
Lol im my own boss. I can be on 3 phones at once if i wanted to. Hehehe. But im sorry i will stop my speeches. I dont want to bother you with notifications. Sorryyy
I don't underestimate you at all. Quite the contrary :) I'm rather very impressed. Yes, I've been testing all conversation, guilty as charged. The judgment of it as terrible however is all you :) And no, of course I can't ask! Any dumbass can fake it if warned ;) I was just tesing what buttons you react to and I had an intuition what they were so gave you exactly that, literally whatever I thought it was that would trigger you. That's done, I'll be me from now on :) You're not fully healed, nor were you ever. (I'm not either.) You're going through something now that's triggering something old. You've made incredible progress but keep a beginner's mind, it's crucial. Never lose that. I don't need to tell somebody at your stage the capacity of the mind to self deceive. And if you want to send me a PM and continue this between us, do that. Everybody else thinks we're nutters anyway so might as well.
Don't be so easily offended by what my wife says, you are all mommys boys!
Lol you are married lol? Since when.
We got married last night when we got drunk and ended up in Las Vegas.
Hahahaha you wish. I dont drink. Thats impossible.
You can't leave me babe! I'm pregnant.
Ahahahahaha
So now im the male.
You have 3 phones? Stop selling drugs!
Okay, let me clear this up once and for all @dandiecandie , my dad's a mummy's boy well was, (she's no longer alive, may she rest in peace) ... and he is not introverted, he's extroverted, not shy at all lol so what you said there, doesn't make any sense, not starting anything just wanted to say that. And guys did you really have to dislike her opinion lmao.
Nina i love that name girl its cute. And i agree with you. It was a joke cause i was so appauled that someone would ask such a question. So i thought it deserved a retarded answer. The question itswlf is not valid because if you really like a girl for real it doesn't matter who you are or what you are. You will find your own personal way to approach her and let her know how you feel. The truth is there is no one method but there is a specific method for every different person because we are all different and unique.
Ok nina think of it this way. If he chosing between you and his comfortable shy zone. That means he is not willing to sacrifise even taking a step to just say hi for you. Is that really a guy you want to call the one. I sure as hell wouldn't because for me to call someone the one he needs to bleed the same way i bleed because love is not measured by the akwardness or a glance or stare. It is measured through actions and actions speak louder than words. This is why this excuse is not even considerably good.
Nina lets push these men to step out of their comfort zone. Lets show them the meaning of a real man.
I'm never out of my comfort zone, want a dick pic?
Girl for now if you're really 18 you dont need a man. You need to make yourself the number 1 priority and take care of your gorgeous self. And im not looking for a man either. Im so busy with work i dont have time for man. In other words im not ready but your heart will open up when the right guy comes along. Dont let one asshole prevent you from true love and happiness. But dont give it out like Halloween candy either. Only to the one who you will marry and he has to be worth it. He has to be the guy who bleeds with you. Not some random stare or glance your way better than that.
Until then its time to work on yourself.
Graceful charm stop being so rude. And no one cares about you know what. If its not food we aren't interested lol. Right nina? Red beans and rice never miss us lol. Cause we live to eat not eat to live.
My apologies. Also rice with refried beans are really good together. Add some cheese and it makes it a really good snack.
Mother of God , so many messages since then :o wow
Lol dont start again lol. Im a genious hehehehe
Are you fucking kidding me? This shit is still going on -_- Get a life people
Let's keep it rolling :P
Get a life people... fuckkk
I mean, people could be doing a bunch of stuff and still be able to take a minute to post something :p
By being awkward as fuck
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