Girl too shy to pick up the phone?

[Anonymous]

This girl likes me and I like her but I've made things bad these past weeks so I sent her a letter getting to the point that I was sorry and she had said awww, that it was really sweet, that we should meet up and decide our options etc. She's quite insecure and timid when it comes to lads, we have kissed before though.

The weekend just gone I asked if the next weekend she would want to meet up and she said 'sure yeah okay x' and I replied the day after saying something, then if Saturday is fine?

She didn't reply and it has been 3 days so I assumed she didn't get the text. Her facebook status 2 days after was that she was saying she was getting an early night because she was annoyed and stressed and that she 'hates wasting time on people'. So I decided that asking her by calling her was better to show that I'm interested..

I rang her, but she texted back.. this is how it went:

her: 'you ring?'

me: 'yeah x'

her: 'What did you need? X'

me: 'wanted to call you to ask you about something x'

her: 'Text me. I'm ill so I sound dreadful.'

her: '?'

me: 'It's just to ask you something quick anyway ;-) low on credit but thought it better to say calling you x'

her: 'Go on then, ask me ...'

I rang her again.

her: 'I'm not answering lol, just ask me over text I hate phone calls'

her: 'felton?' (my name)

I'm confused, what should I do? I would have preferred to ask her through calling but she outright refuses and she is very shy in person with me. What could it be?

[JohnnyBravo]

I totally understand how frustrating texting can be, especially when you really want to tell a girl something important. And yes, she sounds very shy. Many girls ONLY text because for them, it's a way out of their insecurities. There are 3 options you should consider: Text her and have her meet you somewhere when she's better, that way you can tell her in person. Now you said she is shy in person, and that's ok! But it's up to you to break her out her shell if you want to let her know you're very interested, show her she has no reason to be shy with you. Next option is you can just text her and say that you'll check up in a couple days and see if she feels better and comfortable enough to talk. Thirdly, if she's not up for any of that, then she's just too shy, and you should settle for having your talk online through aim or skype. It's not face to face, or over the phone, but at least you can write what you have to say in a quick fashion, because I know texting takes forever then you've gotta wait and wait for a response its a pain in the ass. And a little side note about this girl: She sounds like the type that texts and does the facebook thing A LOT. The way I can tell is #1. She's shy. #2. Writing her personal feelings on her status, "Stressed... hate wasting time on people." That's another sign of her insecurities, she uses facebook to get her emotions out instead of talking about them. So yea man I wouldn't worry too much about getting your message across via phone or in person, it doesn't seem like she would care either way. But that doesn't mean you don't in the future. That's good you'd rather say things like that in person or over the phone, it shows you're mature, confident, and a gentleman. But for now, if you're really interested in this girl, you're going to have to ease into that and slowly break her out of her shell by doing the texting thing. But tell her flat out, if you want to actually talk to her and not text don't be afraid to tell her. Because when you start going out more and getting serious, she's gotta know that the communication between the 2 of you can't revolve solely around texting. Just go with the flow, man and be patient. Make sure that when it comes to that time when you tell her you like her, it's sincere, that's all that counts!

[Handyman7]

Go ahead and text her. At least she is communicating and for whatever reason that is what she prefers.

I think it is lame to reply to a phone call with a text, but apparently it is the new thing to do these days.

Just be casual and ask her to hang out or go do something. But try to be specific as to the day, time and what you plan on doing.

[emilyzenella]

I'm like that too. Just text her for a while and when she gets more comfortable with you she'll talk on the phone with u. or try saying like No I really need to talk to you over the phone Please I promise I won't laugh at your sick voice lol