What does it mean when a guy confides in you?

[Anonymous]

We don't even know each other that well only for 5 months and we've met each other only 4-5 times during this time. We've had lunch together once and he was a total gentleman and very chivalrous towards me. He even insisted on walking with me and paying for my food.

Today we were chatting about school stuff and he suddenly asks me if he can ask me something personal. So he was saying that he wants to cut off a 5 year old female friend from his life whom he doesn't like talking to anymore. He wanted my advice as to whether he'll end up regretting it or he should just go ahead and do it.

I'm surprised how he's suddenly gotten so comfortable with me? 😅 He always seems shy and awkward in person.

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When he had lunch he asked me some personal questions like about my siblings, religion, likes and dislikes for e. g. what I like to eat etc.

[Omaewamo]

Ooof. Tough one. In this case, it's easy go see why you'd be unsure. Moat people think we're attempting a relationship at this point. Not true, not not false either.
Most guys want to be with a best friend. I have a heirarchy of the different levels 2 people can have. First you're Acquaintences, then friends. Then you start dating. Next is best friends. (Some skip right to best friends) most people don't realize it, but dating is essentially the same as hanging out, regardless of what stipulations or limita you put on it. If you are getting to know someone, and enjoy spending time with them, it's essentially a date. The only thing that makes it different is if it's romantic or not.
Anyway, after that is when you are a couple. Then marriage of course, or life partners.

Most friends don't talk about that stuff, but if you do, that means you are close friends, and can even be considered best friends.

But in the end, the onyl thing that matters is your own thoughts and opinions. Don't think much of it AT ALL. Go with the flow. Help him out. Talk and get closer. Offer advice when you can. See what happens. THAT'S THE EXCITING PART OF LIFE! No matter how much you or I analyze it, we can't predict the outcome. It's best to enjoy the smooth flow, and go with the tide. See what happens, learn to improvise. Don't put labels on it, and don't overanalyze your relationships. See where life takes you, snd if you like where it's going, and like the type of person he is, then go with it! Good luck#

[RSav4013]

I think it's obvious that he's interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with you. He's trying to find out more about you and show that he's capable of being chivalrous.

[Asker]

How is it obvious? 😅

[MNM230]

I'm pretty sure he feels comfortable enough around you to ask you such a question. He probably feels close to you, and being chilvarious might be a sign that he likes you, especially if he was shy and awkward before!

[BrittBratt2416]

It means just that, he' s comfortable with you enough to share personal things in his life.

[Asker]

Yeah but we're not old friends, we've barely met and don't know each other at all. It's like he's suddenly gotten comfortable with me which is weird.

[Resevoir315]

It's possible that there's some romance behind it, and it's possible there's not. Regardless, be happy. When a guy confides in you, that means you're special to him in some way and he trusts you.

Especially if he's normally shy and awkward. There must be something about you that makes him feel more relaxed

[Carl-DPK-2018]

I'm a shy man. It takes a lot for me to open up to someone, you have to know me very well for me to do such a thing. But once you have me at that level of friendship then the trust I have in you is paramount. And I will only ever tell that person My personal things and problems etc.

Some poeple believe that a man should be tough, masculine and independent etc. But when a man opens up to a woman it shows another side. A side that shows trust, security and a sense of not feeling so judged on who he is as a person. Plus he may like you if he confides in you. That also a tell tail lol.

[Neph216]

It means he's interested in you and wants to see how you react to this situation. He probably hopes it bring you guys closer faster, bad rookie mistake. He asked what you liked because he hopes he can take you out somewhere to eat and chat. I doubt he's in a relationship whatsoever.

[EvilLittleDevil]

He trust you enough to ask your advice and he thinks you may be able to give him helpful advice. as far as 'personal' questions in your update, those seem to be fairly normal questions to me when getting to know someone

[penguin1965]

He is confiding in you as a means of dating you. I think he simply likes you. That doesn't mean he is dishonest though. It's just his way of responding. I'm pretty sure I'm right but can't be sure. He is showing interest in you.

[Makeuphoarder]

A 5 year old? You mean a 5 year old relationship? Friendship? What it is? .. I think he's interested in you.

[Hypnos0929]

He could like you, or just trust you. For me I won't tell people most things about myself unless they ask. I've only known 2 women who I would confide my deepest feelings in and I cared for both a great deal. I can't speak for other guys though.

[smartguy49]

If a guy's awkward (more than usual) he is probably around the person he likes. And if he's telling you something personal he might either just want you to do something for him or he likes you. It all depends on the person.

[Asker]

Want you to do something for him? 😅

[Asker]

Ok you tell me why would you behave this way with a girl?

[smartguy49]

I wouldn't, and I don't know the guy so I can't say that is out of the question, but that something might not be that. It could be something else like a friend or some random thing. For all Im anle to guarantee he just might someone to talk to whether he feels alone or just wanted to talk to someone new. I'm sorry I'm not able to help more, but I can't promise a specific thing being true if I don't know the answer. I mean that sincerely not in a sarcastic way.

[luisJ]

Well, to be honest in my personal opinion, is that he is either starting to like you and wants to get to know you, and at the same time he wants you to feel comfortable with him too the maybe the feeling becomes mutual

[SGL69]

He could be used to you and maybe has feelings for you.

[Asker]

Did you read the details? We barely know each other

[SGL69]

I did read the details. However there are guys who'll fall for someone they barely know. I say that because I'm one of those guys.

[Steve-ram]

Maybe he likes the way you're thinking! And maybe be is trying to get your trusts or trying to get laid with you! Yep

[TsubasaCorrupted]

He's either lying to you or he trusts you.

[Asker]

Why would he lie?

[TsubasaCorrupted]

Any number of reasons. Make you believe a back story, manipulation etc. I've seen it happen.

[Insomniac92]

Means you have earned his trust and you re special to him.

[LordSnuggles]

Just trusts you. That's what friends do.

[Asker]

Yeah but like I said we're not even proper friends

[Asker]

i don't think meeting each other 4-5 times would make you trust them so much

[LordSnuggles]

It happens. Sometimes you just feel like you can trust someone.

[RIVERTAY888]

it means we more than like you and trust you

[ThatEmoSlut]

Oooooo he liiikes youuuuuuu

[neurolove]

He trusts you.

[Alexa_smitt_]

He trusts you and wants you to trust him too

[Sabretooth]

he really trusts you

[Asker]

Yeah but we barely know each other 😅

[Sabretooth]

maybe he likes you.

[Asker]

You think so? I mean yeah if we had been old friends I would understand why he'd act like this but this doesn't make any sense 😅

[Sabretooth]

guys don't easily confide in people

[Sabretooth]

deep attraction can form out of the blue-really-a bond forms from very little time... it happened to me. i had strong insight

[Asker]

Well why would you do something like this with a girl?

[Sabretooth]

he really likes you

[wgaca]

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