Why do guys like having their egos stroked?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The male ego is more fragile than you would imagine.
The kind of guys you're talking about are not men to me and I don't respect those who seek validation from others and need to constantly have their ego stroked , screams insecurity to me.
Luckily I know great men in my life who couldn't give less of a shit about what others think or having people tell them 'WOWAOW You're so smart you're so muscular you're so tall you're so handsome'.
I don't do that shit either , what kind of weak people bullshit is that? Lol.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Vanity

SngBirdy · Accepted Answer

Our egos make up a big part of our confidence.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i thought you meant dick

Bananaman177 · Answer

It's a very novel experience.

Usually, the whole world is against us.

Getting any kind of positive feedback at all can be downright overwhelming. Just the slightest bit of basic kindness, just a friendly word. It means more to us because we don't usually get showered with compliments and care and concern wherever we go. Usually we're unwelcome and unwanted wherever we go, and the only thing others want of us is for us to keep our heads down and our mouths shut and only show up when we're needed to do something hard or unpleasant, and then disa-fuckin-pear as soon as we're done with it.

Most women are always getting showered with care and affection, usually for no particular reason, just because. They swim through a river of good feelings. Most men count the days and the weeks and the years in between very small moments of affection, and most of those precious moments were EARNED through intense struggle and many humiliating defeats.

That's why a man likes it when he "has his ego stoked," as you put it. We like to see how you princesses live from time to time, before we disappear back into our trenches.

Try to think better of us.

Why do guys like having their egos stroked?

BestGhaleonausa · Answer

Guys like to feel appreciated. In reality, both emotionally or genetically, men are actually more suceptible to emotional abuse. Our feelings are just more easy to hurt, or to boost. That's why a lot of guys have that "unbreakable wall of emotion" that prevents them from acting sad. When you make him feel good about himself, it gets through that wall and actually makes him feel good. It's not an empty comment from a boss or parent or teacher. It means something to them when it comes from you. That's why they like it.

spartan55 · Answer

The amount of ego stroking comment we get seriously has to be like 100 to 1 or greater. Although guys use them sincerely and too, they are most women are receiving a lot of those compliments to get them naked.
So whatever reason it seems to be the normal way now that men don't need to be complimented or reassured by their partner.
I got directly complimented probably less than 20 times in 9 years by my ex and I'm not exaggerating, then to make it worse I used to sit there and overhear her at parties telling her friends how wonderful I was and how awesome I was and how I did all these things for the boys blah blah blah... brought me down...

ak667 · Answer

I don't so much, or at least I'm wired a bit differently. I never cared for compliments very much like, "You're so smart" because that doesn't help anything unless I'm at a job interview (in which case it might be valuable because it would imply the person hiring looks favorably at me).

The one thing I do like is when girls are very flirty and touchy with me, but it's similar to the job interview situation. The reason I value that is because it implies that the girl is sexually interested in me, and that expands my options as far as dating. So it has a very tangible benefit, but is not so tied to self-esteem.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

I don't know how girls work in this area, but men like to feel that they are useful, respected and most of all, appreciated especially in relationships. If he is making a positive impact on the people he trying to help, that kind of gives us the feeling that we have purpose in life. Relationships are a great way for a man to show how happy he can make someone. When their partner dumps him solely because he can’t make her happy anymore, the feeling can make them go mental (personal experience). This is why our ego is so important to us.

TL;DR: men run on appreciation. “If you’re happy then I’m happy.”

Anonymous · Answer

Lol. Everyone likes their egos stroked. Except guys get very little attention generally, so when they do get it, it's like a starving dog.

ecfresh · Answer

Guys want to feel like the hero, the knight in shining armor. We want to feel special and want it to be the case that we saved you and you are better off with us than without. So hearing compliments and positive feedback feels good and it helps to motivate us to continue to put in effort.

Allesaca · Answer

I compliment my guy when the moment is right. Not just to make him feel better. It’s done out of pure love when he does something that seems simple to others but means the world to me. I don’t do it with a purpose to stroke his ego, it’s simply a form of communication telling him how much he’s appreciated and loved. That what he did was good and I appreciated his efforts. He tells me often that I’m good for his ego but really I think he’s just at a loss for words so that’s his go to response. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with complimenting your guy. You should always build them up. The stronger they are, the more likely they’ll have the strength to catch you when you fall. Now guys constantly fishing for compliments, that’s a whole different story. Run.

Anonymous · Answer

Same way girls do? Everyone does, stop saying like its just guys.

I've seen lots of instances where girls are much worse at wanting their egos stroked harder,
Take online dating for an example, girls literally only stay on platforms where they dont get luck in serious relationships. Why? Because the 100+ messages and hearts they get Daily.

When i went to anime conventions, girls would dress in the skimpiest way possible because of all the nerds with their expensive cameras taking pictures of her like she literally because famous for a day.

Yeah "guys and their egos! Ughh" 🙄🙄

AmyLuv · Answer

doesn't everyone? It feels good to be complimented... Its basically an reward for something you did (work out etc.)

ChaseParker · Answer

Despite what all these butt hurt dudes are saying it’s true, we really value feeling significant Id say on average more than women. I don’t know why precisely, I have theory and it’s probably biological.

Ellie-V · Answer

Because they are sensitive and are too lazy to uplift themselves. Same thing can be said for women tho.

Anonymous · Answer

Because we have absolutely no idea if you're attracted to us or not. If a guy comes up to a girl and starts a conversation, the entire reason he did that is because he's attracted to her. Otherwise he won't approach. Now that guy is talking to a girl. Not because she's attracted but because he started talking to her. So he doesn't yet know what she thinks of him. If she strokes his ego, that's a good sign.

weysally · Answer

everyone like a boost to their ego's, its a lovely feeling so not just men women as well

Anonymous · Answer

It always surprises me when I hear a women say something like this considering how insecure women tend to be and how they themselves need so much validation on a regular basis. So I guess I don't get why a woman wouldn't already understand the answer. Men may need validation in somewhat different ways than women, but we ALL need validation.

My sense is that questions like this are probably just an attempt from bitter women to take a jab at men.

jshm2 · Answer

Because it's a precursor to you stroking their dick later?  Seriously, some guys see through flatter and bullshit stroking their ego, others fall for it.

StingRayxoxo · Answer

I enjoy stroking a man’s ego but only if it genuine.

PinkMichae · Answer

Who doesn't like having someone confirm that they are doing a great job?

shephardjhon · Answer

We get FAR FAR FAR fewer compliments than women so the ones we do get feel great. Especially on our looks and especially by women we actually like.

azzntittiz · Answer

So they can end up with someone who doesn't fill their basic relationship needs after the ego stroking gets old.

BeMuse · Answer

Women are more prone to needing words of affirmation. You should understand those guys needs since you likely need the same shit.

turnmypainintopower1 · Answer

because they can't take it when they get hurt men are softys

Mexicoman101 · Answer

We don’t get it as often from the people we want it from.

Jjpayne · Answer

I'd say it's good to have confidence in your manhood but some guys take it too far

BrutallyHonest87 · Answer

Cause their dicks are small Insecure Attention whore Etc

Wolframium · Answer

Why do girls surround themselves by guys who keep complimenting their looks? Or anything, for that matter.

McKellar · Answer

I'm usually too modest to have my ego stroked. ... I was tempted to twist that part of the statement as well, but I know people can be serious & most likely go ape shit if I did. LOL

AngerSquares · Answer

Honestly I like my literal and figurative "Egos" stroked. Then again I think everyone does.

ATuairiscean · Answer

I have to say some do and some don't - I prefer to go through life unnoticed

LeoElias · Answer

No one compliments a guy ever. Picture giving a starving person food, they willingly accept it and appreciate it.

Leviathan_Charmer · Answer

Uhm.. cause it's ego? Everyone likes a compliment, right? I haven't met anyone who doesn't, anyways. Seems fairly self explanatory to me..

Pejtu · Answer

No idea i dont feel like i need that  Its male version of attention whore basically :) in my opinion

ForteExe · Answer

The same reason girls do. Girls like getting compliments and being pampered too. Guys are no different in that regard.

Therisinghero12 · Answer

Personally I don't, always awkward getting compliments like how am i suppose to respond? But why does anyone like getting their ego stroked? makes em feel good man or woman, simple as that.

WhitePanther88 · Answer

Is ego a euthamensim for penis?  Girls fond it very easy to manipulate men.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Everyone does. And the ego is not the only thing guys like to have stroked.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not a male thing, thinking that would be egotistical.

GreatnessBack · Answer

Everyone likes having their ego stroked, male or female.

MisterAnon69 · Answer

Literally everyone enjoys a compliment or ego stroking to a degree. Don't make it some big deal.

ericclayton · Answer

*Everyone* loves having their ego stroked. It's better than sex.

JSmuve · Answer

Same reason girls need likes and validating comments on social media

MLGbreezy · Answer

Aye Connor Murphy he's so funny lol and well the same could be said of women if not more so

Anonymous · Answer

I would like to subtweet a certain G@Ger whose username rhymes with Mali1991Fista

tomcat54 · Answer

Egos.. don't u like getting compliments it makes us fill good to know that u like us enough to gave us that.. I do like gaveing and receiveing compliment

Anonymous · Answer

Fear of being less respected or looked down by their peers.

Anonymous · Answer

Who lied to you? I love being humiliated and made fun of maybe even embarassed through looking good I hardly get that

lofii · Answer

the only thing i like having stroked is my big dick

Anonymous · Answer

ohh you mean that guy  lol he is an attention whore lol his videos are about girls and thats pretty much it lol  the older you get the less you care

Wifflesnoofer63 · Answer

Same reason we like having our dick stroked. It feels good.

mT2359 · Answer

Guys want attention and compliments as much as Girls. So why not!

Slim57 · Answer

Coming from a gender who literally makes a dating profile to boost their ego from random men on the internet

Zion333 · Answer

For the same reason women love men to stare at their booty yoga pant ass, even though they pretend they're not noticing.

revolt420 · Answer

It's a human thing. Girls do too. But from a strictly make perspective, it's a trait of pseudo alphas. Real alphas rarely need their affirmation.

Anonymous · Answer

Some guys are conceited. I've seen that dude on the tube. Complete doosh

Pamina · Answer

I observe this equally in men and women.

YeetMama · Answer

Because everyone does

thevampire_queen · Answer

Guys like having their penis stroked

Hannajenky · Answer

Same reason gals do to

Benedek38 · Answer

Really? Instagram anyone?

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