Guys Is exchanging numbers with a guy while in a relationship part of cheating?

[Me080Mo]

I went to see the university that I might choose go to it next year and I met a guy there. He seemed very nice and he answered all my questions and he took me in a tour inside the campus. After we talked and laughed he asked if we can be friends and I said sure, so he gave me his number and I gave him mine because he seemed nice. Later that night I was talking to my boyfriend about my adventure when I mentioned that part he gave me a weird look without commenting on it. After few minutes he wanted to leave to get ready for work and he left without kissing me like every time. He hasn’t said anything about it until now and I can’t stop feeling guilty because of what happened.
wha should I do?

[dangerDoge]

Is it cheating? No, I don’t think so. You presumably didn’t do it for the sake of flirting or hooking up with the guy later. The intention makes the difference, plus you were transparent about it with your boyfriend.

I think the issue is that exhanging numbers is often associated with getting contact info to talk for a bit and then set up date at some point. It’s the implication. I don’t know the guy you gave the number to, but if he starts being flirty, I’d tell him that you have a boyfriend, and you’re wanting to be strictly friends. You may be thinking, “but he asked to be friends when we exchanged numbers.” Well, yes, but sometimes, people use the word friendship as a way to get the foot in the door, and then they try to set up a date afterward from it.

I’d secondly reassure your boyfriend that he is strictly a friend, and it will never become anything more. If he starts being flirty, you’ll stop him, and if he continues, you can cut him off. The number was meant only as a means for being friends. The main thing is try and be transparent about the situation. If the guy and you start talking in a way that you’d be real hesitant to share with your boyfriend, you’ve gone too far. However, it’s early to say what the guy’s intentions are. If he truly meant friendship, that’s one thing. If he meant “friendship,” that’s another.

[Me080Mo]

This means I was stupid 😞

[dangerDoge]

Well, it’s not like irreparable damage. People make mistakes like this all the time. It happens. If you communicate your position and what you were thinking at the time to your boyfriend, it should be fine. From my perspective, I don’t think you should feel too bad like you seem to be feeling, since you didn’t have any bad intentions with it.

[Me080Mo]

Thank you. I will try to fix this mistake

[dangerDoge]

No prob. Good luck 👍

[CindersFire]

Is it cheating no, however let's be honest if this guy took that much time and effort for you he isn't interested in being friends had interested in sleeping with you. Additionally your boy friend is likely dealing with some insecurity with you going off to university and is worried that your relationship isn't going to be able to withstand that sort of change. You want to make things better you need to reafirm to him that you care about him and that you would never do something that you knew would hurt him as well as tell him that you aren't going to give up on your relationship even though things are going to change.

[Anonymous]

Well it’s not cheating. But maybe it wasn’t the best judgment?

I mean I don’t really get why people just hand their numbers out to strangers.

You don’t know his intent and so far as I can tell you didn’t give this person the courtesy of explaining your relationship status.. so I question your judgement here a bit for sure.

[Me080Mo]

What should I do?

[Opinion Owner]

You trash the number and forget about it.

[Anonymous]

If your intention was purely innocent, then it is not cheating. However, guys minds do not think like that very often. They assume there was some ulterior motive. Not a lot you can do. It was not really a wise thing to do. This guy at uni might think he is on to a winner with you. I bet you did not mention your BF!

[Me080Mo]

Should I talk to my boyfriend about it again?

[Opinion Owner]

Of course! Whether or not you delete this guys number, to improve your chances, is up to you.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you for MHG!

[SarahsSummer]

How would you feel if your boyfriend exchanged numbers with another girl?

[Me080Mo]

I won’t be okay with it 😞

[SarahsSummer]

I think that you have your answer.

[truthbeknown]

You are naive if you think the other guy was only interested in being friends. He asked for your number because he is interested and you played right into his hands. It does make you look bad because you so easily gave up your number to another guy. It isn't cheating, but it directly introduces possible competition for your boyfriend.

[MatinBrumeux]

It's not cheating, but why would you want this guys number? I'm sure you wouldn't like if your boyfriend got a random girls number.
You were honest and seem to not have bad intentions so just tell your boyfriend you're not sure why you took this guys number and that you deleted it.

[Madmegalomaniac]

Reallly depends on the motive lol. "Business or pleasure" is the relevant question that comes to mind.

[AynonOMouse]

You should get rid of the number. He knows the guy's motives weren't friendship and if you try to hang out with another guy one on one it is cheating.

[arun934]

No not at all. It's just a common thing.

[Me080Mo]

Am I overthinking it?

[arun934]

Yup. Just ignore it. You haven't done a big mistake. It's just a casual talk

[UI_Vegeta01]

You shouldn't have done that

[Me080Mo]

I feel really bad now 😞

[Anonymous]

you're with a guy but you're giving out your number to other guys? lol. Nah, nothing suspicious at all. ;) This is why guys think girls always have "backup" guys. because they do. lol

[Me080Mo]

It’s not like that

[Opinion Owner]

maybe maybe not. But it is "like that" enough that guys are right to be suspicious when a girl hands out her number to other guys while in a relationship.

[JBoog2019]

Yeaaaaa

[Me080Mo]

Really?

[JBoog2019]

What do you think a guy wants with your number? lol

[Me080Mo]

He said we can be friends

[OmniscientMe]

It's the start but not cheating as such

[ShadowedSoul]

No it's not