My height has never really bothered me. Although it's an obvious disadvantage it has never hindered me when it comes to dating and finding women who were interested in me mainly because thoughts about height never enter my head and it never knocked my confidence.
However I can see why it would bother some guys. I mean you're asking why short guys are so insecure while mocking them at the same time. That's what most people do.
No matter what a short guy does he's always going to be mocked and looked down on (literally, lol) by many people. In fact there have been times where I'd say for example that height doesn't matter and I'd tell guys not to be so insecure about their height, mention my own experiences, and then someone else would come and make some kind of negative comment.
Even if the short guy tries not to be insecure others will try to knock him back down and make him feel insecure, then they'll ask why he's so insecure and call him stupid.
The "short man syndrome" or "Napoleon complex" is another thing people mention all the time. For me, lifting weights and training martial arts is something that other people have used to accuse me of having this. Yet why did I begin to do these things? Because as a short kid at school, and my school was pretty rough, I was seen as an easy target for bullies so I had to learn how to defend myself. So it's kind of a lose-lose situation if you give a shit about what other people think of you. It's kind of like they'll criticise you no matter what.
The only solution really is to try to not give a shit about what those people think. But if anything to me it's those people who are the idiots, and that's why I'm able to ignore them.
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First off, there are several short men who don't really care about their height; It's not black and white.
With that out of the way, i think it's the same reason many groups of people are insecure such as fat people.
Growing up really fat, other kids would occasionally make these seemingly small remarks about my weight or they would just straight up call me fat. I can remember several of these instances vividly and they kinda shaped how I viewed the world, and that was that people don't like fat people, meaning people just don't like me.
I'm willing to bet many short people went through the same thing in their own way and they probably felt like shit for being short, like people just naturally like them less.
There's also the issue of the 'ideal male image' that's spread around seeminly everywhere, with height being one of the main components.
Really it all comes down to:
This person wants to fit in, but this aspect of them keeps them from fitting in.
Ironic considering how much we preach about standing out while we're growing upâ»
Because women bitch about how they love tall men all the time online and on real life. My brother is short guy and his girl friend talked about how she loves tall men only not like my brother ( in front his face). I wanted to punch the shit out of her cause sheâs an ugly fuck and shouldnât be having any standard but i kept my coolness. Next thing my brother going to the gym and want to take these harmful shit to build muscles to compensate for his height. So i blame all the girls for being disrespectful and height shame shouldnât be ok cause thereâs no way you can change it. Also i blame men for hurting women who r fat, yes fat can be changed but thatâs not an excuse to make a fat person life miserable. We can all shut up about our preference and date in silence who we like, without hurting anyoneâs feelings
It's like asking "Why are women with small breasts insecure?" It's because of what the opposite gender has said. I've seen a lot of girls saying that guys need to be this tall, and things like that. I think it's those comments that make "short men" insecure... I don't even know what a definition of "short" is? To me, physical height is not everything. The height of the mind matters.
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We arenât insecure, we simply canât stand heightists who have overinflated egos and like to go around acting like the world should kneel before them just because they are above the average height.
Ironically itâs usually tall folks (not all) who are insecure. They usually go around constantly having to brag about how âtoughâ and âcompetentâ they supposedly are. And when they are out performed by a shorter person in any field, they start throwing tantrums, making excuses and throwing all sorts of ad hominems instead of just being humble.
News flash if a person has to constantly remind people of how tough and competent he or she is, then that person is probably lacking in both of those areas and is also most likely projecting a superiority complex.Probably because the internet pushes this bullshit that men under 6' has no chance in dating, better jobs, etc. and some of these men actually believe this bullshit and are tricked into believing that they've been done wrong by society.
I believe it's due to what society has created around what an "ideal man" should be like. When most people picture a couple, they usually picture a man, usually about 6' or taller, with a female, usually about a few inches shorter. What you don't picture is a couple being essentially the same height.
People tend to say that "height doesn't matter", but will then go on to say how they love tall men and such. It's hard to find a female when you've been raised watching movies and shows with the man being this tall, 6'4 guy who just looks like a sex symbol, only to finally hit puberty and realize you're only a few inches taller than before you hit it.Looking at this chat, it seems the Asker has touched a nerve on short guys 😂
They are probably insecure because women have stated a "you must be this tall to ride" clause. They feel inferior and feel like they have less of a chance than the average guy.
I've seen a short guy pick up women pretty easily to be honest... if your personality is on point, and you create enough attraction, any preconceived ideas women have about the ideal man seem to crumble.I don't blame them, being a manlet (5'10 and under) is one of the worst things that can happen to a man; I even consider it a physical disability. And it dries pussy quicker than a motherf*cker.
Thankfully I was blessed and grew to be 6'3 (man-more) and women love me.I mean I think thereâs some insecure men but not all? Just like thereâs some insecure tall men but not all.
Personally Iâm not insecure about anything particular. I tend to overthink a lot though and that holds me back. But once Iâm outside of my own mind I soar.Because the general consensus is men are taller than women, and the most popular opinion is "I want to date a man that's taller than me"
And
"I want to date a woman who's shorter than me."
And the general feeling is that men need to be powerful and women need to be protected n such
It's just toxic masculinity at play, really sucksBecause of the expectation that guys need to be tall.. If that's a lot of what you hear of course it'll strike insecurity into you.. But there are a lot of short guys who gain security by workin out, honing they personality, or bein successful.. Stuff like that..
I'm 6'2 but my short friends get much more action then me because girls think they cute and I'm too much to handle so I don't know. I think its6more of a preference thing. And I think they have self esteem issues because it's harder to do their job as a man in terms of helping
For the same reason flat women are insecure...
the majority of the opposite sex judge them on it.
Flat women think ALL men want big tits, short men think ALL women want tall men.
This is based on the basic social truth that the majority of women will find taller men more attractive and the majority of men will find bigger tits more attractive.Men under 6 foot creep me out they remind me of little goblins or imps.
There's not a girl on this planet who doesn't want a 6'2 -6'5 man they are so manly and hot and can protect us.Because we derive our self worth from being protectors and providers. and being short puts you at a disadvantage as a protector. Women translate it to tall men are sexy so by def you must be unsexy particularly if they blow you off. So in short its insecurities. Focus on being a provider and the securities will vanish. Money solves a lot
Short or long it doesn't matter for me.
FOR ME There are more important things to care about.Maybe because you can't change your height no matter how hard you try + tall is a standard a lot of women have so you instantly have a reduced dating pool for getting short genetics.
I'm tall, 6ft 1 and I find this horrible.
If you are overweight at least you can change it. There is nothing you can do to change your height.Because women chastise men for being short. Like how dare a short man exist in women's eyes.
Those same women then piss and moan that men dare have physical preferences too.
Just going to sit back and wait for the pink downvotes to tell me I'm rightBecause along with being short in stature, they are also short in the shorts, as in they got no dick.
Tell that to Jason Bourne. It's a flawed deduction, people who are not confident enough are insecure but comparing with the height statistics isn't supported.
Because theyâre sick of seeing the many shallow women who write on their dating app bios, âAnyone under 6-foot need not applyâ 😒😒😒
Because short mem are at a disadvantage. In a lot of ways. Especially physically especially I would hate to be short personally because I worry as Bout sdcc hort people getting hurt
Whats with the short guy questions recently lmao did some just now watch the bagel guy video or something lmao
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