What happens is that a guy will flirt with the girl he wants and when that girl shows no interest he starts flirting with the friend. When the second girl asks the guy “aren’t you interested in my friend?” The guy will say that he wanted her all along. Since women are notorious for doing this - the friend believes it and takes him home. This happens ALL of the time. Every guy that’s ever been interested in me and I’ve rejected them will end up with another girl from my group. Also, I’ve been hit on by a man that’s been flirting with my friend all night. So it’s happened both ways to me. My close friend and I know the game so we play it well.
Having said that - No- guys don’t do that. If they want YOU they will go for you immediately. If they don’t - know you’re their second choice and if you’re okay with that then go for it. There’s nothing wrong with second place.
I'd say people do this who have low self-esteem, or to give themselves some kind of vicarious thrill to see their partner suffer. It's mean. If you have to resort to such tactics, you need to work on yourself before you get into a relationship. It's not right.
What a weird strategy. I think it's counter-productive. Why flirt with someone I have no interest in? I'd be too worried that the girl I like would get the wrong idea and focus on someone else, or lose interest (if she had any). That's how I would react if a girl I liked flirted with other guys to make me jealous.
Nope, the male who does this doesn't think but feels like a woman. he's there to be passive aggressive and manipulate for what he wants like a woman. Then gone once he gets it like a woman, shallow, materialistic and narcissist. A real man doesn't approach women today, for plenty reasons.
Men always take the simple, direct, straightforward, linear path.
Women always take the indirect path, and that's why they almost NEVER actually get what they want. It's really hard to hit the target if you're not even aiming for it.
Not to the extent women do this to men. Smart guys do know that giving one girl too much attention is a huge turn off. We may talk to other girls to show we have options and won’t hinge our entire future on your decision.
But men don’t “test” women the same way women test men. Nowhere near the same extent at all.
If im sure she's into me but playing hard to get its a nice reminder for her that other gals find me attractive too. So maybe she should hammer while the iron is hot. Thats in general. In a relationship maybe every now and then just to remind her how lucky she is but nothing mean or serious. Its something to talk about a couple of times too, tease her abit and give her a chance to claim her guy, maybe even with a little ferocity. 😉
Yeah. not really. that's just as fucked up like negging. Doesn't really need to do that anyway since little to many female's shows non verbal cues of interest/attraction around me most of the times un less I on purpose put some mindframe that makes me invisible to be left alone.
NO! Who tf does that? Where’s your logic in that? I like pizza so i’m going to go eat a salad? 🤦♂️ Who would logically think I like this girl so in order to get her ill pretend I like her friends? Maybe he’s going to do what most people do when they like someone and flort directly with the person they like? I like pizza im hoing to est pizza now.
No. If I like a girl I try to find any excuse to strike a few conversations until I can tell what she likes and then try to set up a way to invite her to an activity that she likes while trying to make it seem like an original idea.
This reminds me of another question that I've heard. "How long should I wait after a date to text her/him?" As if you have to play strategic psych games with people. Gaaah! Attracting a partner isn't like playing poker.
Girls tend to go after guys who are attractive and good with women. So it seems like they are doing this, but in reality thats just how they interact with women. Its often not malicious although it can be
I don't do that, and if you could scientifically prove to me that doing so would actually help my chances literally 100% of the time, I'd still not do it. I don't respect the idea whatsoever.
No. But i seem flirty to girls when i’m not interested in them. I joke around with the a lot and it comes across as flirting even though i’m really not interested in them or meaning to flirt
No never. If I like her I only flirt with her. I don’t think it’s nice to try and make her jealous. Besides I want her attention and not another girls.
You should never do this kind of shit. If you like a girl just say that to her face that you like her dont play mind games It might adversely affect your relationship progress later on.
I'm sure there are a few dudes out their that try it. But I don't think know anyone who would do that. Intentionally making someone jealous is not only manipulative but I feel it's very likely to backfire.
I have done this in aims of getting closer in a polyamoric way since she was allredy in a relationship, it mostly resulted in me flirting a lot and losing grade average
Not at all compliment x 100 make them feel safe an secure in your presence. Because I never bragged or said unthoughtful things. I. More than most men was recipient to greater girl girl me action. True story.
No... That's rude an shallow.. Now if your trying to get her attention an not overdoing things it could be healthy but when I know what u want why play games
I don't deliberately go out to make a girl jealous but i don't play games either if other girls are willing to treat me like a person and respect who i am they get my attention.
No, generally I flirt with just about everyone I talk to. Trying to make someone jealous is kind of childish in my eyes, I prefer a more straight forward approach.
Well Ikr , just a thought , I'll I'll get into some company and work my way up and get paid like hell, then girls will throw themselves at me for the money I have.
Ya , it's just I haven't seen any girl who says hey what's up or are you single? Or any move on me. I tried to but never got the yes or no. Everytime it was like you are so nice or bring me in a guilt that i asked her out. Or just plain old you will find someone better then me. 😅😅 I have heard like all the reason in the book😅😅😅😂.
i know, i guess it can be pretty shit, and girls are bitchy and i've always got along with guys better, and if the world was that simple then everyone would be happy. i'm no expert but i look at the world like a test. What i mean by that is that if something bad happens to you, or you're spiraling downhill then it's how you handle it, and i'm religious so if i don't have anything/anyone to turn to or things are going wrong, at least i have god to turn to and i think that mindset really helps me, especially when i'm in a dark place anyways. I think joining a club (not a strip club!!) is a great way to socialize and find some hobby you love and it's also a good way to get to know people and find someone who has the same interests as you like gaming etc as you'll connect more. So i guess you've got all your life ahead of you and you're not 30 with no job or wife so you're fine for now. I reckon focus on a job you like etc and work hard for it as keeping busy is good for you, then you'll most likely come across someone you connect with.
I have had friends do this but I go straight for the one I like and if I don't get shut down I know she likes me for who I am. There is no reason for making a lady feel insucure.
No, I have better things to do than playing games, I would rather be honest and sincere.
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Sure why not. Or flirt with other girls because why not, we don't stop having interest in others because we like one. Women don't stop enjoying male attention when they like a guy.
Nope, but I usually like many girls until I realize one of them likes me back then I would try and flirt with only them
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Some guys do, but I don't. (can't lol, sad mf)
I personally think it'll just make him look like he gets along with females a lot more rather than males. Or girls think he's a great guy to hang with because they think he's gay or somethin' haha..
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