Handsome guy, no Game... Is that Lame?

[AbSaluteSage]

We're all blessed in certain ways, a couple of mine being my looks and my intellect. But when it comes to getting at the ladies there's something about me that can't be understood. I tend to think that if I was as witty as one of my best friends I could get any girls number I wanted(with-in reason). Basically I feel like girls see me and think I'm a player but I don't have that player talk, which can dissappoint, or they think I'm a player and won't give me the time. Ahh, the gift and the curse. Mostly hooked up with girls that just want that one thing but I'm ready for something long term(a good girl). Any advise?

[Anonymous]

Just be yourself when you meet girls. Most girls can tell if you're insincere, so just be you. If girls have some kind of problem reconciling that the book doesn't match the cover, then they're not cut out for your awesomeness. You sound reasonably intelligent, so I'm going to guess you CAN come up with witty things. Maybe try to expand your social circle; meet new people who can appreciate it when you act like a goofball or say something outlandish they just. don't. get. I'm sure you have a hundred other good things going on that have nothing to do with how smooth you are.

Some girls think game itself is lame, and/or have enough game to make up for guys' lack of it. At 15, I fell for a socially awkward boy. He's a man now, and I can safely say he's the most awkward guy I know. It doesn't matter. :)

[AbSaluteSage]

Not cut for my awesomeness indeed, but... It is just the first impression on both sides... Maybe the discrimination could been their only flaw and would've turned out to be that perfect match for me but'll never get there because I couldn't work around their barriers. I think I'ma just try Match.com or one somethin, lol

[Opinion Owner]

Well if they're rude or otherwise disrespectful from the start, I'd be less inclined to go for it too. There are a lot of maybes and what-ifs, but unless there was something that really stood out about a girl and the only bad thing was her skepticism, I wouldn't worry about it too terribly much. Try doing lots of social things where you meet a lot of different kinds of people. Nice girls pop up when you least expect them.

[dryad]

First of all, girls are more visual than you think. We judge you from a distance by the way you're dressed. So playing on your icon --- you do look like a player to me. I can't see your eyes it's hidden in shadow; you got an overly proud expression; your head is tilted sidewise like a gangsta; and your jacket looks a little big for you. So all that said, once again, you "look" the part of a player to me. If you're trying to hook up with a girl for the first time, who you want for long term, etc, don't dress as you are now.

[cjwright79]

+1

[dryad]

merci beaucoup, cj

[AbSaluteSage]

I dress a lot of different ways... But I admit, "Fly Guy Gangsta" is my fav.

[citychick]

haha! I have to admit I like that look too. The contradiction of being fly yet awkward is intriguing. I'd be interested.

[dryad]

@city, I don't like the look at all.

[carshrimp]

You have to just be yourself. If you seem like a player or have a reputation for being one then coming out of that wouldn't be that easy but if you actually take the time to talk to the girl and get to know her better then she'd see that you're not one. I instantly liked a guy a lot more than before when I realized he was actually a nice guy and such a sweetie - despite the fact that he seemed like such a player beforehand. If you're looking for the long-term thing then being honest is the best way to be.

[iRockin]

Ask a girl that you talk to out on a date to the movies or out to dinner, develop a romantic relationship with them first, don't just expect a woman to fall for you right away as looks are only half the game.

[AbSaluteSage]

Can't develop very much at all if their number remains a mystery... and I'm not into stalking, lol

[cjwright79]

I doesn't matter how smart and good-looking you insist you are: without genuine modesty, you are no good to man nor beast.

[FashionNerd]

try to develop some kind of connection with a girl first, and get to know her and be her friend, so that shell see you as more than just a sex item.

[AbSaluteSage]

Lol, well yeah... The goal is always to know and be known... the challenge tends to be breaking the ice

[FashionNerd]

just go up and introduce yourself. like hi my name is so and so.

[Anonymous]

yo check it dawg, I be teachin how to spit da sick game playa hit me up

[slipslender]

KEWLNESS.

[Opinion Owner]

c told you, girls be gettin' all KRAZY when I spit da sick game huh shawtie?

[slipslender]

you be BALLIN' fineeee mistah

[Opinion Owner]

gurl, you ain't even SEEN ballin yet huny bunzz

[slipslender]

i dunt beleef my eyessss

[Opinion Owner]

u tipe so sexiiii, ghettoo man out PEACE LOVE AND CHICKIN GREECE

[slipslender]

BABBYY BOIII dunt leeeefe me behindd :::::::(((((

[Opinion Owner]

gurl dun flip, close dem purti eyez, ill meet you in your dreamz gurl

[slipslender]

yuuz thynx mine eyezes be purttyyyy? boiii I LURVEEEE yuuz. lyke LURVE-LURVE. TRUEZ LURVE. LURVE 2 DEEFEET all THEM AGEZES.

[Opinion Owner]

shyt gurl, that's deep I think I'm in love with you imma add you DATCALIBOI OUT

[drummerdude25]

^hahahaha!

[TheWhiteFreshPrince]

WTF LOL! You have way too much time on your hands, but it works.

[Opinion Owner]

shyt doug, you ain't got no ideuh, it be getting gurlz so wet I needa mop LOLZ

[AbSaluteSage]

Yeah, you remind me of my homeboi I was referring about as witty... lol, I just can't do it... Your kind can be a lot of fun to be around though no doubt about it