My husband and I are married two years now. I will tell you in details of what happend 3 months ago so then you can give me your opinion. We booked a holiday to another country. Just one day before, he told me our plans are canceled because the company demands his presence. We argued a lot that evening and he still didn't understand that I will waste my days off for nothing. Next day after he took off to work, I wrote a note for him and went to the airport. I got there but I could not enjoy the day because I was feeling sorry of leaving and he kept on calling me. He couldn't stop yelling so I just turned off my phone. Coming back to my hotel room on my second day of sight seeing , I almost jumped out of my skin when I heard my name coming up from behind when I closed the door. My husband was sitting on the couch so I went near him, staring wide -eyed while he looked angry. He started questioning me regarding my lack of care towards him and his problems. Before I had the chance to explain, he flipped me over his knees, face down. I was in complete shock while he was telling me that he might get fired and his boss didn't give him clearance, but he left anyway. My skirt was raised and his hand come down hard repeatedly. I could not believe that was happening to me, he never laid a finger to me before. I remember struggling to get loose and also saying that he should stop stressing and enjoy the rest of our holiday together. Big mistake! His hand come down again and again, making me cry already. The pain was unbearable for me but he didn't seem to care when I told him that he's HURTING me. I was a 27th women getting spanked to tears. I felt humiliated and if I'm being completely honest, I was really sorry for the whole situation I created. I stopped struggling and just laid there until he thought it's convenient to stop. Later that evening we discussed. Needless to say we both were very calm. That was only time occurance, he said.. but I'm still confused about it.
Men, what do you think about spanking your partner for discipline?
A man can discipline his wife without her consent and that's why it's disciplining her! He should hurt her so much or make her cry, anyways a good wife will. never make her husband sad or angry!
Personally if my future wife have this kink, it will be hard for me to do it because i'll responsible of her body, so my focus will be on taking care of her body, providing for her and keep her safe and loved 😊
No. I don't think a man can beat his wife without her consent. They can set an arrangement called domestic discipline. Some couples are into that. But without this arrangement , men just can't hit around their partner. Let's turn the tables for a second: what if the man does something wrong and the wife is very upset or angry about it. She should hurt him by hitting him?
A man is the head of the house, that's my belief and your right that husband can't just beat his wife like that, he will never beat her because she is a part of him which means hurting her means he'a hurting himself, also you never take consent to beat someone, cause when you beat someone it's because you had enough and can't take it anymore and pushed you beyond you limits...
Only an extreme cases a man disciplines his wife, but surely he won't brake her bones or make her bleed, just a couple of spanks on her butt and that's it, it might be funny and ease things 🙂
A wife must always respects her king and makes him happy because she knows that he loves her and he's taking good care of her and providing for her!
@TonyMetal_1986 pfft. That's lame. We're all equal and men are not the head of the house. They only feel that way because we women allow them to think so... the real truth is , you men are intimidated by intelligent women
@TonyMetal_1986 oh no! Did this young woman hit a nerve? 😎 You're right. An employee takes the bosses direction... good thing that "boss " isn't always male. That would be the day you spanked me and got off scott free. You'd find yourself looking all day for your car keys and think you lost them😂😂 Who's to say that the male is Captn of the ship? I say grab a mop
@girlzruleboyzdrool it seems your bored and wanna have fun and since i can't make you shut from here dwarf trashy chick, i guess i'll just have to block so. your blocked, be thankful 😂
@TonyMetal_1986 There is no superiority between man and woman. A woman can be a great leader too (work related). Nowadays women are working , taking care of her husband/kids and provides for them. I know thousands of cases where both, the male and the female are working hard. You are thinking that way because you know, some studies show that a part of the brain that helps produce violence, called the amygdala, is larger in men than in women. So here is your answer. You tend to be more violent, to hit someone with your fists who was flirting with your beloved one. Also you believe in spanking your wife, because that makes you feel stronger. Strong evidence supports the claim that male and female brains are different in many species, including us, partly because of androgenizing (masculinizing) influences of testosterone on the (anterior) hypothalamus, amygdala, and other parts of the brain involved in sex and violence.
Sooooo? What are you refering to? From the end tell me...
My views are totally different than yours, but i do believe that a man ain't superior to a woman and i don'r accept this, they are equal but with different roles and a man is a man and a would is lovely when she's submissive, i don't force any woman to be submissive, i just love the submissive ones because that's how a female should be...
I don't believe in female leaders because men always leads and the women follows, we are the reason of everything thay happens in the life of a female, a man is the life of his wife but surely a man will respects his wife because without her he won't worth a dime and that's why a man is a man and a woman is a woman.
Why would a man becomes violent with his wife? YOU TELL ME! Why a woman lets her man be violent with her, well i can say that some are animals and treat their wives like shit but some women who thinks that they can be a man and disrespect their men brings the violence towards them...
In the past me and my ex had a heated argument, i raised my hand up to smack her so i shut her and she knows that i'll do it cause i did it before and will do it again because i'm a real man and no one humiliates me especially women!
She told me: "you can beat and hit of that makes you comfortable but before you punch me, just know that i love you will always do" my arms was paralized and i went away, she came and told me that she was sorry and i appologized to her too and had a great night...
The conclusion is that no matter how strong your man is, the power of love that you have inside your heart for you man might stop him doing any sort of violence with you and that's if he truly loves you...
@TonyMetal_1986 I'm talking about the part of the brain called amygdala. Amygdala it's the responsible one for our emotions and decision making. This part is larger in men than in women. So that's why you intend to resolve issues by violence. Of course that another part of your brain stops you from doing that and you become logical. Every man should have principles. Also, the frontal cortex, helps to regulate impulses coming from the amygdala and surprise.. this part is more active in women. Anyway this is not an excuse for you treating your ex like the way you did. A man is not considered powerful just because he slapped his partner multiple times. Women don't become submissive just because their partner wishes so. That would be fake and it's a bad movement. If it's her true nature, no comment. She can be submissive as long as she wants, if that makes her truly happy. Is she fakes being a submissive just for her partner's sake, I would be sorry for both of them. Low self-esteem. Regarding the leadership, times have changed. People are more open-minded like it should be. There are a lot of female leaders I know. Indira Ghandi for example. Hillary Clinton. Merkel... and the list goes on. There are women out there who sustain a family by working hard and their "head of the family" the man is being lazy all day playing video games, sitting on the couch with a beer on his hand. What do you think about this?
Do you think that such men are called real men? These cockroaches are called male and losers...
No real man would accept to sit all day while his wife is doing everything, a man is a leader because he must earn it, if a man can't protect his wife, take good of her, provide for her and feed her, also to have a house where he put his family in to be warm and loved than he's no man, he's just a male with a d*ck that's all...
When a girl see a guy like that, she surely will take the lead and does everything so she remains alive...
A girl needs a real man in her life and not a lousy punk! Also a man should be able to love his wife only and forever...
Your right about the submission part, a woman submit to her husband by her own will so that he can lead her and women enjoys being submissive to their men...
Anyways some women are not like that and prefers to play the man's role, i was speaking in general.
I didn't used to think so either. It's only happened to me a few times... I was ticked off and face slapped him once BUT after researching and talking to some friends and other people it happens more than people know. It's just not talked about Me and my partner have been together for 20 years and sometimes couples go through stuff. For sure divorce if that's right for you
So you slapped him and he just put you over his thighs? I remember I did slap my husband like 3 years ago (he was my boyfriend back then) and he was just shocked. Not angry, just shocked. I know that some couples live by some rules of "Domestic discipline". If a couple manages to keep their relationship sane in that way, that's really good! Congratulations for your 20's years spend together!
Yeah, pretty much. I face slapped him and he was shocked... but then he said don't you do that again and I had this overwhelming urge and did it again. So he literally picked me up (I'm 5 ft 2 and lean) and he's 6ft 2 and threw me over his lap on our bed and spanked me pretty hard. And I was shocked bc he had never spanked me before. Anyway, we are Def. Not into Domestic Discipline as a lifestyle We're equal, best friends but best friends have tuffles. Guy best friends have had their fair share of fist fights so my hustand has spanked me a few times... when I've gone too far... he's super kind and a great calm guy but if I'm purposely pissing him off to be a hero or if I face slap him, I know he will spank me Like you face slapped your guy... sometimes it just happens in the moment. I've been spanked for hiding my guys wallet and phone and keys but that's a whole other story. We've been friends first before we ever married But I know it's normAL that guys don't want to hit girls bc they're nice guys but sometimes they lose their shit too. It'd a natural reaction that comes out for some. I was spanked before by different boyfriends in the past for bratty troublemaking behavior not knowing they were going to do it... it's just something that can happen. Like I said I know others that I've heard of that this happens to or heard along the grapevine and searching on the Internet if it was normal. And I'm not talking like ghetto like people. I'm talking cookie cutters and normal people. No one talks about it. But it happens and it's not just Domestic discipline. It's embarrassing but people like you and me talk about it And if we hated our husbands so much bc we face slapped them or made them worried and we crossed a line we could have left. Or they could have left us But they didn't. We got spanked.. I do think twice before I slap his face on an impulse
Well I will think ten times too, before leaving to another country like the way I did. It it funny you hided his keys and wallet? I imagine you didn't want him to leave outside with his pals. Haha. I was never spanked before. My parents had a different way of education. They explained me the mistakes and let me decide for myself, assuming the risks. So when my husband was getting ready to initiate the spanking, for me.. was just too outrageous to believe he would really do it. I was so shocked and he made me feel kinda embarassed. Hopefully I will not experience this again. I have low pain tolerance.
Yeah, I don't have a high pain tolerance either. When he''s spanked me I've retaliated even as far as pulling some. pranks on him to teach him a lesson for spanking me. I'm pretty crafty and stubborn... I seem to get myself in trouble by silent secret revenge sometimes lol the trouble is, my husband knows me well enough that he knows it was probably me behind it
Haha. Oh, girl! You are evil! Even when you were in a odd situation like that, you were thinking what to do next to annoy him. I bet you two never get bored of eachother. Well I'm a stubborn person too. Sometimes I mess with his mind in a way that he thinks he decided what he should do regarding some issues. The truth is that I secretly lead him to that decision. A weird thing he keeps on doing it since that day is that whenever I annoy him (seriously or just playfully).. he swatts my bottom once or twice telling me not to test him. I'm worried about that since then. He enjoyed it, maybe he liked what he did back then. God knows!😂
Yes!! You are so right. I think we'd make great friends haha on the fact I understand the mind thing... it's so easy, isn't it? Our brain thier brawn.. but in all seriousness I know we love our guys and they love us. I don't accept this spanking crap though. After disagreeing about it multiple times he has strongly opinionated that this is a reaction and he's decided he's going to do it. So I said fine but if you think I'm going to accept it you're wrong. So since the first spanking I've started a little "revenge" And I have to also say, the last time he spanked me I slapped his face bc I was so freakin pissed off that he spanked me (which now I agree that I deserved probably ) but anyway the face slap came out bc it was an instinot. .. which then got me another spanking. However I have not been spanked as long as you! My max amount was I'm guessing like 15 or 20 swats? We don't count bc it's not a thing like that with us.
I like your personality. Seems like you're a real person too. I had questions like yours too asking around trying to figure this crap out
My guess is your guy felt he had to do it bc he was soo mad and didn't want to hit you but wanted to show you how strong his feelings were about this and so he spanked you bc you're a girl. That being said. Id teach him a little lesson too and I understand all to well about their mind. Get him to finish a task that hasn't been completed haha Or the next time find a little secret prank to do. 😂😂 haha
I think you're guy liked how it made him feel to "teach you a lesson" that made him so worried and infuriated him. It sounds like you're independent too and strong minded, like me. I'm glad you went on that trip too. I bet it was worth that spanking bc he ended up joining you on the trip. So here's the funny thing. You still got your way bc he came on the trip 😀😂
Well I'm sure they love us and we love them, despite the little misunderstoods are going through sometimes. I guess every relationship has its ups and downs. If it would be perfect, we would get bored to death. But you see, the truth is that we are anatomically differents. Every person is unique. Some women are more expressive, but that doesn't mean they experience more emotion than men do. Some studies have shown that women are much more likely to produce inauthentic smiles than men do. Men tend to engage in more unprovoked aggression at higher frequency than the opposite gender. I like you too! You are a honest and a good person! 😀 Since I have learned reading and speaking, my questions regarding life are endless. I love life and I also have so many questions regarding the psychology of people. Well yeah.. before he actually put me over his knees, I ve seen anger in his eyes. I was genuinely afraid. When I suggested him that he should stop stressing , that made him even more angrier. Anyway it hurt like hell but it was worth it. After that episode, later on that day we were so calm and kind with eachother. Another proof that I lead him to a decision is that "he suggested " we should spend the entire week there. Like we were supposed to.. in the first place. Of course I told him that's a great idea and I would love it. I was surprised by the fact he asked me some advice regarding on what be should tell his boss. My answer was : "just tell him the truth , that your crazy wife was pissed and left to another freaking country. Add that also I intended to divorce you!" His expression was priceless. I thought his brain is reseted or something. He really thought I wanted a divorce 😅😂 . Good thing his boss was smart and he understood everything when my husband mentioned me.🤷🏻♀️ The trip was succesfull and I can't wait for another holiday. As soon as this pandemic is off we will book another.
divorce his ass and tell him to never do that again cause there's not supposed to be superiority in a relationship and he crossed a line that's literally abuse especially since you didn't agree to this
The thing is he never acted superior towards me or people in general. We discussed soon after that incident. He explained me that he lost his temper. I told him I will never tolerate it again. Also I'm sure I will not leave the house like that again..
I remember one time I was disrespecting my ex being a complete bitch and he grabbed me putting me across his knee lifted my skirt pulled down my underwear and beat my ass raw for what seemed like 10 minutes. I was shocked, soar, emotional and crying but I was so wet and we had sex and I admit I came so hard and so easily multiple times. I couldn't sit down for a week and I was still so shocked and angry at him and ran home to my parents who said I deserved it and forced me to go back. I really respected him after that.
If you got wet during a spanking of 10 minutes straight.. I have news for you. You're into it. Maybe you are masochist but you don't know it yet. On that day my husband also spanked me like 10-15 minutes but I was not turned on by it. Not at all. I was just trying to get away. Eventually I stopped squirming and took what was in store for me. He is much more taller than me and hits the gym daily so there was no way for me to "escape" the situation. I didn't enjoy it but it made me realise I did some wrongs. Still I don't believe in this type of punishment. People can solve problems communicating with eachother, calmly.
You should have sprayed him in the face when he was sleeping with little droplets of water for spanking you that night... teach him he can't do that and get away with it
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