Im worried that I'm ruining my girlfriend's life?

[pericles]

we're so different and she is having to change so much just to be with me. for example. she wants to get married in the next five years and I'm just not that sort of person. she's incredibly clingy and that does my head in and I'm just worried that because we love each other so much I'm stopping her from being with someone who would make her much happier.

[nique23]

This could all be true, but I know that when we LOVE at times we LOVE HARD. I wouldn't say your ruining your girlfriend's life because we can only do what people allow , but you may be holding her back a bit , BUT not against her own free will. It goes back to what I said in the very beginning sometimes we compromise because we see no otherway. She wants to get married in 5 years and right now you don't see that happening , but who's to say that won't change ? I don't think your ruining her life ,I just think that she loves you to the point that she's willing to make sacrifices at her own expense. I think you two need to talk and maybe you need to start thinking about what your willing to sacrifice.

[yummymummyxXx]

sweetie don't sweat it. you could never hold her back, maybe she is just insecure and clingy due to recent changes to her body like the fact she has just given you a son and you are still v. good looking whilst she is frumpy. I'm sure when she has sorted her post baby head out she will be less clingy and the relationship will improve not that nething is wrong with it.

[Anonymous]

okay first off, if she didn't love you and wannt to be with you, then she wouldn't be. she knows what's going on and can control her life. and if its you that she wants to be with, than that's how it is. also, if you don't plan on marrying her and stuff then that's stuff that she needs to know before its 5 years down the road and its a suprise to her. communication is an important part of the relationship.