We started going out about a year ago, we have so much in common but over the last year more and more issues have been popping up. First, she lives at home and has a very stressful home life, she basically has to take care of her family constantly. She is a very light sleeper and gets very little sleep at home, and then because of the stress always has something going wrong, like getting sick.
When we first started dating, I told her that I was in the middle of losing weight and that working out and being healthy was very important to me because of all the progress I had made. She was very excited about this because she wanted to get in better shape. But she ended up gaining a lot of weight because of all the stress. Whenever she comes over, she almost always orders a ton of snacks and one time even overate so much that she threw up. We also occasionally take edibles and she will routinely take so many edibles that she will basically black out and not be able to do anything. I told her that she over does it and that she needs to be more careful, because it basically ruins our nights together.
She has severe social anxiety and has had numerous panic attacks and I have to drop whatever I am doing to comfort her or we have to leave. This has happened in public and at home and it can be seemingly triggered by anything.
I have tried to be a good influence, But I don’t pressure her, I go to the gym every day and just let her know I’m going and I try to eat healthy and have tried to get her to do the same. I try to lead by example. She will try really hard for a day or two and then something will come up at work or home life and then she will spiral out of control again. She has severe body image issues, and some days she will send message after message about how bad she looks, I reassure her but it really doesn’t do much…
I am just not sure what to do, I love her, but it’s overwhelming and she has also become very dependent on me which just makes me nervous…
When we first started dating, I told her that I was in the middle of losing weight and that working out and being healthy was very important to me because of all the progress I had made. She was very excited about this because she wanted to get in better shape. But she ended up gaining a lot of weight because of all the stress. Whenever she comes over, she almost always orders a ton of snacks and one time even overate so much that she threw up. We also occasionally take edibles and she will routinely take so many edibles that she will basically black out and not be able to do anything. I told her that she over does it and that she needs to be more careful, because it basically ruins our nights together.
She has severe social anxiety and has had numerous panic attacks and I have to drop whatever I am doing to comfort her or we have to leave. This has happened in public and at home and it can be seemingly triggered by anything.
I have tried to be a good influence, But I don’t pressure her, I go to the gym every day and just let her know I’m going and I try to eat healthy and have tried to get her to do the same. I try to lead by example. She will try really hard for a day or two and then something will come up at work or home life and then she will spiral out of control again. She has severe body image issues, and some days she will send message after message about how bad she looks, I reassure her but it really doesn’t do much…
I am just not sure what to do, I love her, but it’s overwhelming and she has also become very dependent on me which just makes me nervous…
