My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year, she is great, kind and we have a bunch in common. At the beginning she would apologize if she complained. I told her that she could vent to me whenever she needed to, thinking it would be an occasional thing. But it’s turned into a constant thing and I feel more like a therapist/caretaker than an equal partner.
She always has drama at work, with friends and with family. Many times that drama has resulted in her just crying at my apartment and I basically drop whatever I’m doing to comfort her. She will also forget to eat and that will cause migraines. She has also over eaten and thrown up a few times at my place. She has panic attacks that can be triggered by anything and normally results in us changing plans completely to just go back home. Almost every morning she texts me that she barely slept the night before for various reasons, so she is constantly tired.
She has severe body image and anxiety issues and before she comes over she will text me that she is ugly and looks disgusting that day. I always reassure her and try to make her feel better.
We went on a short road trip for my birthday and she got so drunk at dinner that I had to take care of her, and then the next day she was hung over and she somehow pulled a muscle in her back so bad that she couldn’t walk and we had to go home. And that pulled muscle has lasted a few weeks, making it impossible for her to do anything. I called her one night and she was just sitting on her chair and she was in so Much pain she couldn’t get up from the chair and had to hang up.
She is also terrified I am going to leave her. I want to try to help her, and I have tried a lot, but every time we solve one issue, 3 others replace it and then the original issue resurfaces. I just don’t know what to do. She loves me & I love her and she relies on me, I want her to be happy but it is really sapping everything out of me because I am just constantly comforting and caring for her.
She always has drama at work, with friends and with family. Many times that drama has resulted in her just crying at my apartment and I basically drop whatever I’m doing to comfort her. She will also forget to eat and that will cause migraines. She has also over eaten and thrown up a few times at my place. She has panic attacks that can be triggered by anything and normally results in us changing plans completely to just go back home. Almost every morning she texts me that she barely slept the night before for various reasons, so she is constantly tired.
She has severe body image and anxiety issues and before she comes over she will text me that she is ugly and looks disgusting that day. I always reassure her and try to make her feel better.
We went on a short road trip for my birthday and she got so drunk at dinner that I had to take care of her, and then the next day she was hung over and she somehow pulled a muscle in her back so bad that she couldn’t walk and we had to go home. And that pulled muscle has lasted a few weeks, making it impossible for her to do anything. I called her one night and she was just sitting on her chair and she was in so Much pain she couldn’t get up from the chair and had to hang up.
She is also terrified I am going to leave her. I want to try to help her, and I have tried a lot, but every time we solve one issue, 3 others replace it and then the original issue resurfaces. I just don’t know what to do. She loves me & I love her and she relies on me, I want her to be happy but it is really sapping everything out of me because I am just constantly comforting and caring for her.
