Im scared about my girlfriend and our relationship?

[jacobdyson11]

My girlfriend is very odd, I know she loves me a lot but has a very hard time being open with me and struggles to tell me the truth at first but is able too once I reassure her it’s alright. She’s done stuff that I haven’t liked and it hurts but we usually talk through It because we love each other. She has cheated on 2 of her exes because they deserved it and always cheated on her but she won’t go into it because she regrets the type of person she was and to be honest so have I. the thing is my girlfriend is very beautiful and has guys always hitting her up on Facebook and Snapchat and luckily she doesn’t talk to them or if they message her she’ll say something back and then not speak to them again which is fine but still makes me uncomfortable for no reason. Like she says she’s never lied to me and stuff and most of the stuff she’s done to hurt me hasn’t been with other guys, just stuff I wish she told me first and not Instagram. Like just recently I asked her because these too guys kept hitting her up and one previously said that he loved her and I said you can talk to them if you want and she said no but when she was on Snapchat I saw that they hit hit her up and I got mad because why’d she lie and she said I didn’t see it as talking because they said something and i answered and left them on read. Also recently when me and girlfriend were together this guy who always hits her up and someone she talked to when we were broken up hits her up while we’re together and he starts talking to her and he compliments her and she gives shitty answers and not talking but still lied about but I know she doesn’t like this guy because he’s an alcoholic and shit. I’m just in weird head space because I know she loves me and won’t cheat and shit but like some stuff she does makes me uncomfortable. How can I deal with this because I don’t wanna break up and feel free to ask questions

[livingthelife19]

Wow. a lot to take in here. there isnalot more to this than what you wrote. There are so many factors at play here. Bottom line, you have no trust in her and that is not good. You can't build a relationship without trust. In your defense it sounds like you have more than enough reasons not to trust her. I also think you are blind because you are in love with her. She knows she is lying to you when she does and she knows that she can because you let it go and she gets away with it. If your able to catch her lyinf then you can go ahead and expect there are 3 more lies you didn't catch onto. If she slept with other people while y'all were split up that says a lot. For one it says that she was and is not in love with you. If she was then she would not have slept with other people. I'm assuming these were short breakups. And regardless if he is an alcoholic girls still want to get fucked. if she is doing things with these guys then it's for the sex not to get to know the dude. I could elaborate on this all day but I just don't have the time. Just know what your into, what she is capable of and if she continues the same behavior and you decide to stay with her, don't get mad at her. You knew what she does and chose to stay with her.

[jacobdyson11]

She never slept with anyone at all or has met with this guy. Maybe I gave the wrong idea or worded it wrong he just always hits her up. She’s had one big lie but she came clean and she’s done some stuff to hurt me but it was never about other guys and stuff

[madgoat]

You don't fully trust her. Perhaps rightly so. It takes a mature and laid back approach to live with this and you're not there.
She needs to be completely honest and straight with you and I'm not sure she can.
You need to set clear boundaries and be consistent. And blind trust would help you until proven otherwise.
However pretty she is, I'm not sure the stress will be worth it.

[igiem]

Find a therapist (I am not calling you mental) and just talk about your feelings. The internet is not really the best place for this kind of situation. It would be better to interact with real people about how you feel.

My opinion though is that you should relax, ease off, and put some faith in your girlfriends words. Enjoy the time you have together, and just let her know when and how her interactions with other men are making you uncomfortable.

[nikoluushkaa]

If she could rationalize cheating on two of her past partners then eventually she'll rationalize a reason to cheat on you. Just make sure to use protection. Good luck with that one bud.

[Avicenna]

Tell her what your expectations are for your relationship and let her address your concerns. If she doesn't, you can't stay with her.

[Anonymous]

I assume you had to hit on her first