Was my ex a player/f*ckboy? or was our relationship just not good?

[Anonymous]

Hi. I am in the military. I dated this guy who was an NCO as I was a PFC. we were in different sections so its not fraternization. Anyways, we started dating after I had checked up on him for the fact he was sharing his "rap" notes which was very depressing. There was this girl that messed him up and made him suicidal, etc and I just decided to check up on him after I was done with duty. we watched horror movies, talked, etc and he kissed me. We ended up having sex. Anyways, he had asked me to be his girlfriend the next day and I would remind him how itd be a bad idea because of our ranks and previous issues. He's hardheaded (he even admitted this in the talk of breaking up with me) so he'd tell me how he doesn't care and how people here dont scare him and how he likes me because I was everything he wanted in a woman. I gave a shot. I was the type of girlfriend who's make him food, I'd clean around his room, I'd buy him things like his favorite drinks, refilling his fridge, making his bed, folding his clothes, bought him an XBOX, his dream cologne, I'd tell him he was a king and how much I appreciate him. I met his mom and he told me out of all women he been with (he have 24 body counts), that im the first. Anyways, we would have issues because he's be the type to always wanna not have communication and claim it stress him out when I tell him how unhealthy it is. despite others warning me, i thought he was just a guy thats been hurt so many times and to be patient. so, a month before he leaves the military, he dumped me. his best friend, a girl said he just isn't ready for a relationship in general and one of hus guy friends told me that he said he just wanted to f*ck me for i was the only girl on base to ever gave him attention. It just sucks to love someone yet they turn out to play with you just to bang because i wouldn't have if we wasn't together. Was this a f*ckboy/Player? or was I just a girlfriend who "stress him out"?

[PeachyPie93]

He was probably not serious since his friends told you that. Not too sure what to think, but he is probably a fuck boy.

[DryGermanGuy]

No, I think he honestly liked you. Why else to introduce you to family members? In the end he failed with his own personality (stubbornness, etc). And instead of admitting that, it’s easier for him to announce he never was serious to begin with.

[Asker]

i met his mom. One of his guy friends told me that he admit that he didn't have any romantic views towards me and how he just wanted to fxck me. I asked him why would he then introduce me to his mom. his friend said that sometimes, guys do things so crazy to make you feel special so u can drop your guard and continue sleeping with them mind you, this same friend before warned me and told me how he was a fxckboy. I told him (the ex) and he claimed that his friend was just hating on him because he gets to fxck all the bad bxtches...

im just so confused

[DryGermanGuy]

The guy wanted to make it right this time and just confused himself of what he is able to do for/in a real relationship. That's why the coping mechanism afterwards of "Nah, I wasn't serious".

[Deltanteiger]

Your story is WORSE THAN madame web.
I ain't buyin it. No way no how.

[Asker]

this was just a month ago. I am doing a no contact and trying to focus on myself but i just want the truth. I am also a black woman and I found out that he never found any black woman attractive so I just was wondering if this guy was infatuated with me or fetishizing me. i wonder if he just kept me along because i was the only girl to give him attention on base but broke up with me because he wanna go back to Cali and find someone better... yet he complains how women in cali aren't datable. im just confused if he was just a playboy in the past that may have liked me at first but I probably messed up or if he was playing with my feelings all along

[Dinklex3]

He was just an asshole.

There’s better men out there.