Do males ever truly have female best friends that they feel absolutely nothing for romantically?

[Anonymous]

Or is the fact that your friendship exists and is so close a sign that they feel more than anything platonic?

[MrOracle]

Let's start by making it clear that I'm talking about SINGLE, hetero men, and further, men who aren't 9+ guys who are able to easily get laid as much as they like. This does NOT necessarily apply to guys already in a relationship, or super-attractive guys who don't struggle to get sex.

So... it can happen, but it's FAR more rare that most women appreciate. MOST of your (single) male "friends" aren't really friends - they are guys who hang around you because they hope to eventually have a shot at either dating or banging you. Of course, in the real world, they rarely succeed, but lots of guys have hope despite the abysmal odds of it working out for them.

The issue, of course, is that this very much affects your relationship with those guys. And a LOT of women take advantage of that hope to some degree or other, by using their "friends" for attention (VERY common), consolation regarding other relationships (VERY common), "favors"/free labor (VERY common), or outright cash (less common). The show The Big Bang Theory, S02E19 The Dead Hooker Juxtaposition episode talks a lot about that issue.

It's also the case that the guy is EVENTUALLY either going to push the romantic/sexual nature of his desires, or he's going to abandon hope and disappear out of your life.

Again, exceptions exist, and this is a generalization, but women tend to believe that guys secretly liking them is more of an exception than the rule, but it isn't, and men know this across the board. That's why if you ask "can men and women be 'just friends'?", men will almost universally say "not a chance." We know how we are, and how other men are, and we're under no illusions.

Women often know the truth as well - if you ask women "if you gave your guy friend an opportunity, would he have sex with you?", most will agree that he would, and by definition, that is NOT "just friends."

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[pajamasam]

At one point I would tell you no. But I made a friend with a girl who was SUPER attractive, and I had the intention of being friends hoping for more. While I was sitting having lunch with her and some other friends she revealed she had a stalker. She pointed across the room and he was there, watching all creepy. She told me that she tried to be friends with him but he wouldn't just leave it at that, and she told me she loved that I was just a friend with her and I didn't try to hit on her.

At first I was privately humiliated, she didn't know I had some feelings for her. Then I realized I was only a few steps away from being the creepy stalker. Seeing the female perspective of a stalker scenario first hand changed my mind. I decided to just be platonic friends with her and it was a wonderful friendship. I learned a lot about how to interact with women and I would advise any guy to try the same.

[btbc92]

Yes. I have friends that didn't feel anything romantically towards me and friends who did. We all still got along and remained friends. Just because your developing feelings it doesn't mean its the correct choice to make as far as dating. My friends and I have similar values and hobbies. But not standards and desires when it comes to dating, sex, faith, marriage, etc. So seriously think about that. If they can't handle it, then their not real friends. Sorry to say.

[Aislin9]

I can't say I know for sure but I have a few close rare male friends that are platonic now.

[Hermes-Paris]

I have had some women that were great friends and drinking buddies that we just didn't ever take it to more than just having fun like I do with my male buddies. Yes it can be done and it is great fun. It just gets harder when one of the two finds someone in their lives.

[JackSmy]

Yes. No feelings, 'romantically' like wanting a relationship, but we can't help biology, and some 'Just friends' are just so sexy-hot, we can't help but look, smile, and then feel guilty!!
Sometimes you get caught, looking, and she knows, and a few love that, and just being lusted for, knowing he won't ever do anything with you, intimately!!

[shashwat11]

Not at all possible... Any guy who says they have NEVER thought about their female best friend in a romantic/sexual scenario is a liar. And this is true for both genders. But, having a random thought now and then is completely different from having a romantic/sexual feelings towards the friend.
But the thing is, most guys don't act on it or don't want to act on it due to their respective reasons.

[Gedaria]

Being friends gives you feelings for that person. No matter the gender. I have female friends I go to their house , they come to mine, we chat and have meals. I f watch a film or something, we cuddle up on sofa, and can even have a cry together. I have a little attraction to them. But they are more like sisters than lovers...

[ecfresh]

Yes, my bestie of over 20 years is my like my little sister. We can tell each other anything and our conservations are full of laughs. I love her but have zero romantic feelings towards her.

[Anonymous]

NO. this question gets asked so many times it's cliche.
Males do NOT make time in their lives for females outside of family that they are not sexually interested in. If one tells you otherwise he is being a simp and is afraid to tell you the truth. But ask him when the last time he texted some ugly girl out of the blue just to see how her day was, or spent time with her without necessity.

[ItsTheNephilim]

Never saw anything like that work out. Males and females being friends, they can workout. Being best friends, it's highly unlikely.

[Bhavin2184]

Yes I have female friends no romantically or sexual feelings. Not necessary that all man will have feelings for all the woman they know.

[jamesgoldman]

Best friends no
Friends sure
Some are too young for me, a few are too old for me and a few are just idiots

[Kurαȷ]

Of course, there are many women who are unattractive.
No issue being friends with those.

[serious]

Yes I am sure there must be. It is possible. Entirely. Might be difficult or tough but possible.

[Meonshi]

Yes, males can have absolutely platonic female best friends.

[Smirnoff23]

Yes they do have female best friends they can love them but have no romantic interest

[medo131213]

in few times it's be nothing
but for most there will be love
that's you can't control it

[Anonymous]

If a man has a woman as his best friend, there's something wrong with him that makes him unable to be friends with men

[Opinion Owner]

No man will ever want a woman as his best friend

[Proxyz123]

At times I can't control but be friends. I can only be friends with her. Nothing more

[StickStickity13]

I used to, not anymore.

[justaboy_]

Yes i have a few

[Akshayjosh]

Absolutely.

[hellacray]

I doubt it.