You're asking too much. No one has control over someone else's thoughts. That's The Thought Police, and it's a '1984' novel concept that no one wants as a reality.
If you're not ever thinking about anyone else sexually, you're very very rare. Monogomy is a social construct, not a biological trait we are born with. We make decisions to commit to one another, but the biological drive for others cannot be eradicated. Doesn't mean we have to act on it, but thoughts are just thoughts. So the word "faithful" does not belong in this context.
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there's nothing wrong with thinking about other woman as long as your not cheating on each other it doesn't matter. Its gonna happen. Men like to think and fantasize. My boyfriend does it. He has told me things that he fantasize's about. I like hearing his thoughts. He's very open with me. You should have a sex talk. Talk about sexy stuff and what he fantasizes. Be open to more fun things with your man. You can still be faithful if you both are exclusive. Nothing wrong with thinking dirty. We even watch porn together. I know what he likes.
Lust is a choice, but attraction isn't. Being attracted to people of the opposite sex is natural and healthy, but you don't have to think sexually about them for that is a choice. The same thing that makes a man physically attracted to other women is what makes him attracted to you. However all people can chose what to think. Lust is a sin and will get you to Hell, but attraction is healthy and beautiful by design. It is only possible to resist temptation with Christ. Knowing him personally will save you from Hell.
That depends. Are you talking about the guy looking at a girl and acknowledging that she's attractive? Because that's a passive thing that we're programmed to do. If you're talking about him fantasising over another girl then that's a different story, and yes that'd be possible.
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I’m sure it’s possible but men aren’t women for reasons outside of your control. They have a penis and you shouldn’t place expectations on them like you would. People need to accept the harsh realities between the sexes and things will be much better.
You don’t want a guy like that. He would be void of creativity and you want him to still have an imagination and a good fantasy life, just with you. And no, it’s not about self control in thought, it’s about self control in action. He’s still going to think other women are attractive but he will only want to make love to you. Much like you can fantasize about other men.
Is it possible? Yes. Is it likely? Not exactly.
If you find a guy who is completely faithful "physically" and is still mentally all into you, you've done well. Your guy isn't going to go blind and suddenly not notice other beautiful women. The best you can hope for is that his first thought is not " damn, I'd like to fuck her and I would if I were single", but rather " there's a very pretty girl", and that's it.
Be grateful if you find that !Once I'm with someone, my focus is usually completely on them. The thought doesn't even cross my mind. Now I might notice other attractive women (I'm not blind) lol, but there's no thoughts otherwise of being unfaithful or anything, I just think "she's attractive" and that's the end of it. So yes we can.
Anything is possible. Is it probable? No. We can control our actions, not our thoughts.
to get and keep a guy around long term. really need 4 key things.
strong physically attraction, strong mental attraction, strong sexual attraction, strong emotional attraction. all of which need to be in sync really.ya I am now for no good reason, I made a promise and I'm gonna follow through with it, granted she broke her end so, I just want one good woman, but it's too much to ask these days so I'll just kick the bucket one of these days
So you think you will find a guy who will never find any other women attractive?
i am that way.
if i have a relationship, i dont want any other woman tbh
im faithful
id be happy having one woman for myselfWhen a guy is in real true love, that happens.
From what I've seen around me, it doesn't seem to exist.
If he is in love with you
No. I think that's bananas.
No..
yes it is possible
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