The guy I’m seeing showed me a photo of a girl in a bikini. Does he see me as just a friend?

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Shafaq_Mahnoor96 · Accepted Answer

Depends who the girl was. You didn't give any context, was it a random girl or was it someone he knows? Was she a model or some pretty girl he saw randomly on his phone? He's either:
1. Trying to get you Jealous and is Interested in you, also to get you to see him in a different light. Some guys do that sometimes.
2. He actually does see you as a friend and just generally showed you that picture and thought she was pretty.
3. Is hinting at you that he also wants to see you in a bikini someday

As I said I don't know for sure but there can be a million other reasons as to why. There's not much backstory or context you've given. And there's also Intuition, you'd probably know him way better than us...

Daniela1982 · Accepted Answer

He is suggesting that he would like to see you in a bikini - or a lot less. I think he wants to compare. In my book that means someone is into you for looks and sex. Don't give in to him. Play along and see what he's up to. If he wants you for you he won't ghost you. If he just wants your body and sex then he will dump you if you don't put out. The question is, is that the type of guy you want? Because I guarantee that sometime in the future he may find someone whom he likes the body of better and drop you like a bad debt.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Depends on why he sent you that picture? Most guys can be dumb and not have common sense when it comes to doing crap like that , even though his intentions of sending that picture to you ware probably no big deal , he was only really thinking of himself and not thinking how you would feel , he was probably sending you that picture hinting to you to buy that bikini and he wants to see you in it or he was implying that is the type of body shape and girl that turns him on which is very disrespectful , cuz how would he feel if you sent him a picture of some hot guy? So I would talk to him and tell him how that picture made you feel and see what he has to say

David92506 · Accepted Answer

Can you update your question to tell us how long have you two been going together? Are you just starting the relationship?

It all depends on the relationship you have with him. Are you both honest and down-to-earth? Do you two confide in each other? If so, I would view it as him sharing a picture with you.

If you two are just dating and don't know each other too well it would be a different story.

sadiefluff · Answer

I need a little more info like:

When he showed you this photo what did he say? Like: “Look at her! She’s HOT!” Or “look at my sister at the beach”, or “this is my friend Janelle”...

Was it a personal photo? From an ad? Off of his phone?

How long have you known this guy? And how do you know him? Like coworker? School friend? Etc

What did you say when he showed you? And how did he respond?

btbc92 · Answer

What I want to know is where the heck are you getting this guys? You can I have to ask if he sees you just a friend, or anything else. That's somebody you need to cut off if he's trying to imply something. I found out to be highly inappropriate. If your concern you need to seriously ask him what was the point of him sending that photo. Communicate with this person and set boundaries if your not happy. It should not be a question on how to do so.

nonratracereality · Answer

He's just showing you his lack of respect towards you because he wants to wholeheartedly interact with you but through time, his time he feels its not happening so while there's interest let me give you a subliminal request of my current desire. You then depending on your standards will either submit, leave or continue with the same behavior. Time to get real. And real fast.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

need more context really. or just straight up ask him why.

possible he liked the girl or how she looked.

possible he liked the bikini and thought something similar might look good on you.

maybe even a third option. but without asking him. won't know really.

Apope16 · Answer

There are only two options here...

A) He sees you as just a friend and is very comfortable talking about other women with you.

B) He actually likes you and has a crush on you.. but he is a narcissist who wants to play mind games with you and make you jealous.

When I truly like a girl and want a relationship with her... I never ever mention any other women. However, if asked I pretend that I am a ladies man.

DizzyDesii · Answer

DUDES BE acting dumb af 🤣 I don't know why I don't know why. This one dude i talked to last year had the nerve to send me a naked girl riding a teddy. He complimented her body then said “she looks good but i wish that were u riding em”. Do i give af about riding u? No. How dare u compliment her AND THEN ME. Lmao nahh it dont work like that

Davis04 · Answer

Question is, what is your relationship status with this guy you’re apparently “seeing”. If y’all haven’t figured that out yet than maybe he’s just comfortable showing you something like that.

If you don’t like him showing you things like that then don’t be afraid to voice your opinion on it. Be open and honest... that’s what friendships/relationships are like

midnightmoon05 · Answer

This question seems misleading. You explained to another user...

messinessBXper 3 Age 25
2 h
It actually was a video of a woman doing a split and he said “hey look” and we both laughed

Thats very diff. from your question...

But in any case... you can ask him what he means... maybe its just for a good laugh.

and it depends how he treats you...

SaraSmithishere · Answer

He might be an insecure asshole who's trying to be like, "oh look, here's a pic of a girl I find attractive", which translates to, "I'm trying to undermine your confidence and senses of self-worth by showing you another woman, even though there's no way I could date her". He might want to "bring you down a notch" because he's a dick.

WhistleForTheChoir · Answer

Fucking get over yourself. If a woman sent a man a picture of a shirtless dude, and we thought ANYTHING about it, we would be accused of having low self-esteem. No matter what you do, if we do anything besides laugh it off or be an ass-hole, we're fucking counted out of ANYTHING. I'm drunk, but that just means the advice you're getting is extra honest. And on that note, fuck you.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Who's the girl? An ex? Just a friend? A commercial model who doesn't personally know him? Maybe he's hinting he'd like to someday see you wearing a bikini.

anon_mke · Answer

He sees you as a friend. A guy wouldn't show you that unless he's very comfortable with you in a friendly way, basically thinking of you as one of the boys.

Gorlll · Answer

Nah, idt he sees u as just a friend
Have you guys been taking? Like talking talking
If so that doesn’t mean he just sees u as just a friend
My ex use to show me porn if girls tits? And he like real liked me at that point
So de

youknowbetter · Answer

Are you sleeping with him? What context was the photo brought up as? How sexual was the photo?  Sounds to me he doesn’t respect you much. Maybe it was an honest mistake but that was pretty stupid.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Some men are selfish and try to incite jealousy to increase your attention or to get you to be more sexual with them or just to feel more attractive on the inside by making you feel bad around them - you need to cut him out if he is doing that

angiebangie · Answer

Depends on the context, but in general, it seems like a bad sign

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

How does showing a pic of girl in bikini make someone understand what is in his mind for u.. you need to look at many other things he is doing. even they way he is communicating with you otherwise..
Lot of smaller aspects which I think a girl ur age is smart enough to know.

WarningWarning · Answer

Does he think you might get turned on? Guys are dumb, but not that dumb

SarahsSummer · Answer

Are you saying you aren't sure if you are actually in a relationship with the guy you say you are "seeing"?

emmily2396 · Answer

Umm, some guys may be like: i don't mind sending pervy stuff because I like you. It really depends on how much you talked this far. If you've been chatting constantly for a long time maybe

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Have you asked him about what your relatiinship is? Where it's going?  Have you told him you dont like it when he jokes bout you having another guy? Talk to him

shreejan · Answer

I don't think he just considers you a friend. May be he is trying to tell u to get a figure like that girl. Or it may be he is just trying to tease you. Don't worry so much about small habits of your partner if u want a long lasting relationship

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

context? what did he say about it? what kind of picture was it? how does he usually talk to you? how do you treat him? XD oooooo shyeeeeet, you don't wanna answer that question

nodnol32 · Answer

My best suggestion to you would be to clear things with him once and for all. Because there are only so much doubts one can have.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, he must be doing some immature stuff trying to make you jealous trust me you don't deserve his bull Honey

Blossombrooke · Answer

Regardless that’s a red flag. You two need to clarify what you are so you don’t get hurt because a decent guy wouldn’t show a woman in a bikini to a girl that he’s romantically interested in

theCobbler · Answer

Hard to say with limited knowledge of the question! What are the who's, what's, when's & why's behind his showing you the pic?  Too many variables to form a proper answer !

Shellyworld · Answer

Depends on how he showed it to you. Was that like “look how great!” Or was it like “do you like the bikini?” If its the latter it means he wants you to wear bikini. If its the former.. then I don’t know.

Paris13 · Answer

I feel it is Disrespectful. Shows his True Colors, This Coward. xxxx

darkprince123 · Answer

When I was doing the same with one of the girls  I was trying to make her realize that we are friends and she don't have to be jealous

Anonymous · Answer

Not necessarily. My boyfriend shows me photos of his sisters friends to show me things I "could try" 😒 if he keeps doing it I'll have to tell him to stop

Elsa143 · Answer

Yes if he was interested in you he would have tried to impress you.

Boredguy400 · Answer

Not necessarily. I used to swap pictures of naked people with a woman that I loved very much. We just both liked naked people.

Rob17792 · Answer

No he likes you he's just a moron and doesn't know how to flirt with women

thomual · Answer

Seems like friend zone behavior, but more information is needed.

AmeenKA · Answer

It depends on the guy. Different guy might mean different thing by doing that.

Sha84 · Answer

more than likely a platonic relationship but depending on what he say when showing you. perhaps a hint he wants check you out in a bikini

chriscdi · Answer

seems sorta like it but just cause he sees you as a friend doesn't mean you have no chance with him, just makes it a little more difficult

Yeshua · Answer

I honestly have no idea. It's too vague and not specific enough for me to pin down the intent. It could have just been a thoughtless moment for all I can tell. Happens to everybody.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Great question. I really don't know. A lot of it probably depends on the context. Maybe he's saying he wants to see you in that bikini?

DonCachondo · Answer

That might be his way of signaling his own sexuality to you and using your reaction to gauge how sexually receptive you are

AmeerX · Answer

It doesn't matter how he sees you. It matters how you see him. If you want you could easily ensnare him

andy530 · Answer

Probably not... he probably was just pointing something out about a girl who happened to be wearing a bikini

PrTafi · Answer

Texting you to know if you will feel jealous or not.

Anonymous · Answer

Hard to say without context. Did he just randomly bring out a bikini picture? What did he say about it? What was the reason? There's no details.

Guanfei · Answer

Until you're officially his girlfriend, you're still just a friend.

KristaGrym · Answer

Move on... he is playing around. Don't waste your time.

MbSaAl · Answer

Maybe he want's you to have bikinis just like her and he admires you.

AdithyaR · Answer

There's too little information to actually make a guess, it depends on the situation.

OfDeath · Answer

Depends on the context of both the photo and the circumstances in which he showed it to you.

walt0462 · Answer

No he is probably wanting to see you in that same bikini as the one in the photo

Nigjt · Answer

I wouldn't think so but he might want to see u in a bikini like the one he show u that's all. God Bless

Himena · Answer

Are you sleeping? If you does, he wants to make you jelaous.

Knuxx · Answer

Did he include a message like, "this would look good on you."or anything the like.

Britt93204 · Answer

Either he's trying to give innuendo that he wants you in a bikini (not a good sign, respect/value yourself) or yes, he only sees you as a friend, honest truth.

Surely · Answer

So, who was the girl in the bikini. Someone he knew or just a pretty girl?

MountAverage · Answer

Do you really expect useful opinions from us without us knowing any context?

pizzalovershouse · Answer

can't say ask him hos he thinks of you an his feelings

Nature_Enthusiast · Answer

Definitely. I would never do that. Does he know how you feel towards him?

OpenNudist · Answer

It's kind of a mixed message to be perfectly honest

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