Is physical attractiveness all you need to get a guy to be into you/like you?

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errorgoodnameunfound · Accepted Answer

Guys unfortunately have been brainwashed long ago with so much stuff about how wonderful pretty women are and how important it is to be her chivalrous white knight and to have her as if she is your trophy. It is sad af to me that for so many years, beer, cars, etc. were sold to guys using women. And sadly a lot of stuff still sexualizes women to sell things, to men and women. Not only does it put women as objects and "pressurizes" them to "look better" but it treats men as if they're stupid animals with no brains.

Even "femininst" icons of today like Wonder Women and the like sadden me because she and many of them wear high heels, seemingly out of their own choice, but in the end, high heels have no advantage in enhancing functionality, but instead 90% about enhancing/faking looks that I see as marking a woman as weak if she wears them by choice, especially if she considers herself a "feminist for equality."

In fact, from what I read, high heels were meant to be originally for men that rode horses for the sake of functionality. It was in fact a man that made high heels for women, likely specifically to control their looks, (https://www.theguardian.com/fashion/2019/mar/20/sex-power-oppression-why-women-wear-high-heels ) so using it for any sort of feminist cause defies logic in all sorts of ways and is an absolute lie. I pity the men stupid enough to like them, but then whine when they have to walk slower or spend more for those same things to be worn by their equally illogical girlfriend/wife. They do it to themselves and often have to learn the hard way.

So as you can see, no, physical attractiveness does near nothing for me. I easily see past it, unafraid to call out the hypocrisies so obvious in gender issues for both sides. Actually, I kinda like this "Humphy" "woke white knight" guy in a vid I saw earlier today. Notice in the end, after specifically showing his respectfulness, he proves this because in the end, nobody was by his side, and he did not expect anyone to be either. And ofc my fave quote "humphy I love you!" "no you don't, you love the idea of me" :)

rjroy3 · Accepted Answer

Yes;

More specifically yes she can get "a" guy interested. That doesn't mean she will get a particular guy interested. Or that necessarily all the guys showing interest are actually into her vs putting up with her shit because she's hot and is sleeping with them.

If a girl is hot, she can definitely get "a" guy to be into her. If she is hot enough a lot of guys will be into her on that alone. a lot of that is just to have sex and leave. But a lot of those men would want to be with her longterm with consistent sex as well.

Does a girl being hot mean she can/will get any guy? No.

But if a girl is simply physically attractive she can get at least 1 guy. That said, if she is atrocious enough of a person a guy might be into her enough to stick around while still not liking her as a person. So he's attracted but not "into her" so to speak.

I knew beautiful girls in high-school and college I disliked and didn't want to be around whatsoever because they were God awful people. Also had the spine to follow through with separating myself from them.

But for a lot of guys the threshold they have for putting up with a girls bullshit is high depending on how hot she is in relation to his ability to find another girl of relatively decent quality.

It sucks but it's true. If a guy could find and get with a cute girl with relative ease in his everyday life. Just because he sees the hottest girl he's ever seen, he not going to put up with her bullshit because he can find another girl. Even if that girl is superficially less hot to some degree.

But if a guy doesn't have any girls at all and little to no chance of getting one. The likelihood that he will put up with that girls crap is high. Because she's hot, probably has sex with him sometimes, and he can't do better in that he can't find a cute girl who would treat him better. Not necessarily finding a girl just as hot.

LolaMexico · Accepted Answer

It's weird. I'm dating a guy that is my dream come true physically speaking, our chemistry is mind blowing, but in the field of talks we are less compatible. Before, I used to have a long term relationship with my ex (10 years togheter!) whom which I could talk for hours but I did not feel particularly attracted in a corporeal sense.

I don't know if I'm still in the newest part of this relationship, the one that is to fresh to think with some distance, but at the moment I'm very happy of being with this guy, he cuts my breath and when he is romantic can kill me and make feel so exited i don't even think about we not talk as I used to do with my ex.

What I want to say is that it might depend on your personality or the things you are looking for. Because my ex was more worried about his professional growth (at al level that he thinking of ending ten years of relatioship because he got an overseas opportunity instead of looking for solutions) know I think less in intelectual chemestry as a must. If a guy have a big heart and is able to love you and taking care of you (and plus he is sexy), you might change your mind.

Nevertheless, he has to be a golden heart guy. If he is a jerk, it does not matter if he is a god.

SaraSmithishere · Accepted Answer

No, you need to have things in common with the person. I've been attracted to men but once I've spoken to them for a few minutes (or hours, depending on whether we were on a date or not), I learned I had nothing in common with them and that we shouldn't hang out with each other. It's like a pretty dress. Sometimes it looks amazing on the rack, and then you put it on and you realize it would be great for a girl with boobs that are bigger than yours, or maybe for a more hipster looking girl, and it's a great dress and it's nice-looking, but it just doesn't work on you.

coachTanthony · Answer

-------------Yeah the dumb guys.. fuck boys... immature boys... But if you want a high status male you need much more going for you.

Rab1901 · Answer

For many guys, physical attractiveness draws them in because it always feels good to look at something or someone beautiful but it goes way deeper than that. I believe the biggest reason for a guy going for someone physically attractive is because men have been told that they should be looking for someone beautiful and it just gives men a sense of pride. A guy with a physically attractive woman is usually treated with more respect and it's easier for him to move up in the world as well. I have attracted women of all shapes and sizes, but when people see me with the most attractive women, more people want to be my friend and overall just spread more positive energy around me, including spending more money on me and giving me opportunities to make more money. It's as if I am a higher quality for being with an attractive woman. I do believe many of these people have selfish motives, but I actually believe that a good bunch of people truly just feel that I am a better person to be with, so it really is a huge bonus to be with an attractive woman.

All that being said, any quality guy absolutely cares about much more than just physical appearance, and no quality guy would settle for someone who is just pretty. Many guys would want to sleep with her just for the physical pleasure but he'd have to be pretty unsure of himself if he stays with someone who only has looks going for her. Beauty goes way deeper than the surface, and many beautiful women do not work on their character because they are are too used to getting their way.

jshm2 · Answer

No. Unless a hookup is all you are after.

It's when the makeup comes off, and your push-up bra/duct tape boobs, reveal all ; that you are bared for what you really are.

For example one of my friends cousins was dating a girl a long while back. She was a breast cancer survivor, and had one of her breasts removed before she met him. She was wearing a breast prosthesis for the 1-2 years they were dating, and she never let him see her naked during that time. But it was when we had a pool party at a mate's house that things kicked off big time as her prosthesis got displaced.

Obviously the girls were sympathetic and a couple of guys did the "monoboob" joke, but her boyfriend called her out for being a "freak," and when she was going to tell him about her issue. He ditched her on the spot. It was a shame to see as they were a great match otherwise.

Moral of the story being: if you're not showing reality somewhere along the beginning of the line - it'll end in tears.

bluetoblack99 · Answer

It’s a huge head start. But it just that a head start. A semi attractive girl who has many other qualities can still be more attractive to guys. We are definitely visual but most of us aren’t that stupid. If we want a relationship with a girl we will definitely look at other aspects (hook up is a different story) At best you will just pumped and dumped if you just depend on looks.

Just avoid being the following:

- playing TOO hard to get. Purposely being more difficult beyond how a typical woman behaves will quickly turn any self respecting guy off.
- too boring. You have to throw out ideas and engage in the conversations. Sure guys have to take the lead but we can’t fall in love with a sex doll.
- too materialistic. From what I’ve seen women tend to be more materialistic than guys. It’s just expected. But some overdo it and it’s a huge character flaw.
- being a freeloader and expecting him to always pay for everything while showing little or no gratitude. It’s okay in the beginning to let him treat you out a bit. But always say thank you and after 3 dates it’s time for you to pitch to the best of your ability.
- being too political. It’s trendy nowadays to see people incessantly spout political views were they shouldn’t. 2 out 3 women I see on dating apps now just HAVE to mention politics in their profiles. Some are absolutely obsessed. Even if the guy agrees with your views it’s still not good place to start.
- verbally saying you are a “feminist”. A real (old school) feminist doesn’t need to go around advertising it. She gains respect through her actions of being independent, brave and a hard worker. But most verbally self avowed “feminists” I’ve met in my life aren’t usually that physically attractive anyway so just saying.

If you can avoid those pitfalls you should be good to go.

Anonymous · Answer

As a guy, I can't take that stuff personal. I've seen guys who are less educated, more cheap, and less attractive find pretty girls or are even married now. If I get rejected by girls, it's fine you move on. But i've been rejected so much now that I kind of expect it. I think I think I am an overall proper guy -- takes care of himself, in grad school, decent looking, knows how to dress, understanding/caring/willing to listen and I cook good food... Yet I am still a virgin. It's odd to because I enjoy talking, I enjoy asking questions (not personal) about herself, her interests and going further with it. I can talk about anything really -- sports, politics, religion, movies, entertainment, activities (traveling), etc. To answer your question I think most of care about looks but it's what the other person considers "attractive". Guys/men look at that quality yes, and as do I (not going to lie) but I have crossed paths with many "attractive" girls and there personalities with awful. I would never want to date or be with girls like that. People have to be well-rounded. A guy who's 6 ft 5 and has a large dick doesn't have to work much to get girls because that's what he uses. Girls or women who are extremely pretty know it and you can tell by their social media accounts how they portray themselves. But those people I mentioned doesn't mean they are good overall because they just use their attractiveness to get people but in the long run if they are shitty people they should expect many breakups or displeasure. Hence why I said people overall should be good and have many great qualities. This is my opinion, many people may not agree with it, there will be people who use their looks or guys who use their money to get what they want.

Miristheiss · Answer

I'll be honest, at the very outset, when he is just seeing you for the first time and getting to know you him finding you attractive and feminine is really a good chunk of it. If there is something that just captivates us physically, your look, eyes, smile, a figure we find cute you are really in good. I'd say many of us are optimistic and have really high hopes that we'll like the rest once we get to know more. Of course, if the personalities clash, there are differing views on core issues and as we learn about each other... it is very possible the two aren't a match, they aren't compatible, they may not even like each other but yes, at the very outset, looks get you in the door to his heart to make it to the next round.

I've met a girl before that she was kind of cute, I didn't really think about her that much but we spent a lot of time together and I got to know her a bit and her "I guess she is kind of cute" became irresistible to me.

SomeBlondeChick · Answer

Depends on  what   you mean by like/into you. If you're interested in casual / one nights yeah that works wonders. Anything beyond that it's typically meaningless.  As example, I had to speak with a friend about his cousin a few years ago. We'd just met but he soon made some comments that were pretty forward. His intent was obvious. I  *am*  an attractive woman who, when I wasn't dating, had a lot of guys interested. But I don't have an interest in casual sex (what this cousin wanted). When he tried other means to win favor he didn't have such success cause my guard was up.  . In reality, he screwed himself over by being so blunt as, getting to know him later, we could have done well together. Similar personalities, etc.

ineedatan · Answer

Your looks and the way you physically present yourself will attract a guy on the surface level. But if you care to genuinely attract a GENUINE MAN, it takes personality and a good character, similar views on life concerning things of importance to the both of you to have him take a liking.

Anonymous · Answer

For me there are three things, but only one of them matters. Spiritual attraction (Does she share faith in Jesus), Mental attraction (do we think well together), and Physical attraction (Do we like each other's pheromones). I honestly want all three, but as a man if I were to settle for two it would be Spiritual and Physical, marriage is very much a physical bond as well as spiritual teamwork, I could forego the mind, but don't want to. The most important one is the spiritual, because the consequences are eternal. I have female friends that I have Spiritual and Mental attraction towards, but I don't respond to their pheromones. I still value and enjoy them as people, but don't seek marriage.

Don-_-Don · Answer

Nope, you can hot as hell, but some guys will turn away if you act like garbage. Also, I'm sure if physical attraction is all you're going to rely on then you might as well rely on yourself to a pump and dump for every guy you like.
You have to have good personality traits and values. Just being a good person overall. Be respectable towards yourself and others. All that good stuff.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Physical attraction might get someone to notice you.. But it takes way more than just physical attraction to keep someone... And if it's"just" physical attraction, what will happen when your looks change, which they do... Looks is just one part of a person... People need to look at more than just looks... If someone can't see me past just my looks, to my mind, my heart, my personality, character, soul, I wouldn't care if they were interested in me.. I wouldn't be interested in them...

centerline · Answer

physical attractiveness gets a guy interested in you... but its how your personality reacts with his that will make or break the chance of you loving one another...

as a booty call, if a hot guy keeps his stupid mouth shut, and the pretty girl keeps her bitchy attitude to herself, the sex can be absolutely great beteween them, but if their attitudes/personalities clash, they will never know how good it feels...

RagnarRedbeard · Answer

For the majority of guys yes, because they're not used to dating very attractive women. To be brutally honest the majority of guys barely have any real standards.

For more attractive guys who are, no. If they can choose between multiple very good looking women they're gonna choose based on other things.

modelUN242 · Answer

It’s a good base but no. I know attractive women being disrespected and cheated on. Most importantly, you need to love yourself and have dignity. Bad men target vulnerable women. And most men don’t want dumb and child-like women, she should have a drive, hobbies, friends and family that she talk to, etc. Something that makes her interesting.

thomual · Answer

At first yes. if you show interest andare attractive, and he is single, he will be interested at first. He might not want serious though, and if your personality sucks or you dont get along then he might do you. Beauty is just that, attraction, like a magnet. You can have a weak pull or strong one but if he pulls away that attraction will not be like glue. Its only a force of push and pull. it also makes people good about being around you.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

If you want a short term partner. Then you most likely only need is physical attraction.

If you want a long term partner. Then you most likely need physical, mental and emotional attraction. Along with an enjoyable personality and attitude.

The_thinking_gent78 · Answer

I think it depends on ‘the guy’

Of course there has to be the initial attraction but having depth of character, a sense of humour, honesty and integrity and having the confidence to be yourself are what’s important.

You could be stunningly beautiful yet at the same time a bitch with it!

penn78 · Answer

While it does help it's not everything depending on how shallow somebody is but for me it's the sound of your voice the cute way or casual whatever of how you dress , how much you curse and cuss , where you are from what your into , how you look at me in my eyes , if your under 50 years old and over 18 if your easy or a tease , your attitude your kiss your scent your lips your ass your tits and your phone number? Lol

scarlett774 · Answer

No looks fade over time, if your attractive and have a shit personality I automatically find that person less attractive, but if I like someone and they have a good personality they get more and more attractive everyday

Myk13 · Answer

Obviously it is her looks that will originally get my attention. But if she can’t carry an intelligent conversation, I’ll move on. More importantly, if she comes across like she has no respect for herself. She will most definitely not get any from me. Don’t get me wrong, I have enjoyed the company of many types of women in my search for Cinderella.

latarnd · Answer

No. Definitely not. Unless we're talking about one night stands. It's a great start and often incentive to talk to a girl, but it would be only to see if you actually like them. It's super baseless and worthless to be in a relationship that's only focused on physical looks

elly91 · Answer

That might work initially... but really it's a combination of your looks and personality... so it's more a matter of how you carry your physical attractiveness... it doesn't mean you have to be a pin up... if you're confident about yourself a guy will notice...

jamesgoldman · Answer

No... I never cared for looks because I know how bad I look so using looks was a terrible benchmark

I use intelligence and it worked for both of my exes who happened to be physically attractive but that had no bearing on the relationship for me

Anonymous · Answer

Yes because guys don't like me and I don't fit the standards of beauty (and no, it's not my weight). I'm 25 and never been asked out or had a boyfriend before. Guys pretty much never show interest in me. But if I were attractive and fit the standards of beauty, I feel like guys would actually like me.

Rob17792 · Answer

no you actually need personality and brains and some sort of interests to keep the guy attracted to you. looks will only get you so far, but if you have an ugly personality aka mean and nasty and/or if you are dumb as a bag of rocks then the guy will leave for sure

bakingperfectionist · Answer

I have seen guys do some pretty crazy stuff for girls that only have their looks going for them xD so not in all cases, but a lot of the time yes. A pretty face is enough to cause obsession in some men tbh.

Brendan824 · Answer

Attraction is only to ignite a spark nothing else
Now there are different types of attractions such as physical intelligence personality and verbal
Physical attraction is the better one as we are mainly seers as we need to see to believe and that's majority of humans main sense it's much quicker to attract someone from physical attraction than the others and is also the most common

Sbgirl · Answer

Maybe at the very beginning. But as time progresses, I'm pretty sure most guys wouldn't want to put up with boring conversations, nothing in common, etc. Dating is not all about sex physical appearance, its more an element of the whole package.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

Not at all. Looks can only get a person so far. If there's no personality to back it up, the relationship won't last long (assuming that is what you're after and not a one night stand). Most quality people look for more than just looks, anyway.

TruthBringer · Answer

Only for a pump and dump session, yes. If it's for a long term relationship, you will need a lot more qualities than that, sweety. Especially when you're going to hit your wall when entering your 30s.

dmgstarfleet · Answer

No. It’s enough to make him want to f*ck you But that doesn’t mean he likes you, just that he wants to do you. A guy can and will have sex with a woman he dislikes if she is hot

Spyyril · Answer

It really varies from person to person, but for most, looks  do  play a part because it's the first thing you see. What matters most, though, is the girl's personality, and usually the guy's opinion on that is decided by what they think you're like when you first get talking.

Kinglet · Answer

Every guy here telling you "looks don't matter" is talking complete nonsense. Attractiveness is really all you need - except if you have a shitty personality. No matter how attractive you are if you're just a complete trash of a human being you're not going to stay in relationships for long.

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

For a serious relationship? No, not *only* physical attractiveness. Personality and looks, both matter to different degrees depending on the guy.
For a casual fling or relationship? Ig physical attractiveness is the only thing necessary.

lilyanony1 · Answer

Men are visual. They will like what they see first. A woman with self worth, a life and a focus other than a man will have more men interested than not.

someginger · Answer

Yeah short term bc they will be like oh she looks good i want to get to know her, however if she turns out to be like I don't know hotzi (hot-nazi) its a bit of a turn off haha

ADFSDF1996 · Answer

If he wants a serious relationship physical attractiveness will get his attention first but if the guy thinks you have other incompatible traits, he’ll move onto someone else.

DXMXND · Answer

If you're self asteem is that low and all you seek from an Individual is the the admiration of value he held to your looks and not your characteristics.

Eagle_93 · Answer

So for me, physical attractiveness is what usually first attracts me to a girl, but she has to have a great, sweet, kind personality for me to continue liking her.

_SOARER · Answer

sort of? haha
I think its true most of the time
Good thing is, most guys aren't picky and think most girls are attractive!
So just try and look cute, smile a lot, laugh at his jokes thats all you need to do

SphynxUK · Answer

Of course not! Why be with someone because they look good? What about all the other important attributes?

shane203 · Answer

if u want a relationship were he only wants sex well yeah hell with most guys attractive isn't even required 4 that if u want a real relationship no its not enugh.

LovingLover · Answer

It goes a loooooong way. Especially if the guy himself is shallow andjust keeps um you for sake of reputation or lowself esteem.

pajamasam · Answer

In the beginning, maybe, but if you have a shit personality after a few dates im gonna find out and lose interest.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Looks get us through the front door into your house, but personality is what makes us take our shoes off and make ourselves at home.

Gedaria · Answer

It helps at first but then it comes down to personality...

Unit1 · Answer

Certainly not. Looks get the initial contact and is a key ingredient to keep things going. Personality is what keeps things long term.

Anonymous · Answer

It's like advertising in a competitive market. People may want something that caters to their tastes. Each person is different. But yes physical attraction opens the door to a relationship. How you treat your body also says something about your personality.

serious · Answer

That is a good start yes but that is not all what is needed. NO.

Torari · Answer

Yes. And don't let anyone lie to you and say otherwise. For initial attraction the only thing that matters is how hot you are. Personality only starts mattering if you consider a long term girlfriend.

YHL6965 · Answer

For me, it will get my curiosity, my attention, but so does a great personality. However, a great personality is truly what will make me into that girl or not. Looks is just something on the side for me.

jkm1864 · Answer

No and that should be obvious. A woman also has to have a good personality also,

Anonymous · Answer

No, it takes a lot more. Physical attractiveness is what gets our attention initially, but it's other things like personality, sense of humor, compatible interests and values and sexual compatibility that keep us interested.

AffectionKing · Answer

Nope, physical attraction just make us want to have sex with you. It takes more for a guy to be around you on a consistent basis.

madgoat · Answer

No, it'll get you noticed. If you're a spoilt princess or a entitled psychotic, they'll notice that too.

ohshee · Answer

It might work on some guys but not all i need way more that that

wanderinsquirrel · Answer

For a short term maybe yes.. For a long term absolutely not enough!

Cherokeehp · Answer

Yeah pretty much. As long as you don’t act like a massive bitch or something.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

You also need self respect and intelligence or a hard work ethic or money or a good career

razzmatazz090 · Answer

I think if a girl is hot enough I would be able to forgive any kind of crooked belief system she might have.

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