Why do guys ghost and play with girls even if they are attracted to them? (Page 2)
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This is exactly why I believe everybody should wait till they get married before having sex.
You'll know man is with you if he sticks by your side even if you don't have sex with him.
I've seen it many many times where a woman doesn't want to have sex and the man bails out.
And in your case he Hit it and quit it.
What's his incentive to stay with you?
Once he got what he wanted he has no reason to stay with you and now he's going to move on to the next woman.
Well your mindset is wrong, some guys and girls wanna have fun and taste each dish before they get married, and thats fine, why would a girl want someone who has 0 experience in everything? If she had feelings, she was attracted to the wrong guy and thats a lesson. Guys trick girls and girls won't lose to guys in this aspect too, you gotta be tricked to learn and thats life, just move on
@Mithradath I have the wrong mindset?
You're literally basing an entire relationship off of sex.
Sex should be the last thing to be worried about when it comes to a relationship.
Your first build a friendship and then a life partner that will help you grow as a person.
"you gotta be tricked to learn and thats life"
Your mindset is incredibly disturbing.
When did relationships go from trying to find the right person to creating a family with to trying to trick each other to have sex?
Once again my point has been proven. if women didn't have sex with men until marriage they wouldn't have assholes like you tricking them.
Yea you do, look, I didn't affirm anything, everything I said was based on "some" and I've seen a ton of girls rejecting guys who didn't hsd experience, you gotta try to learn. Also you got way too offensive and that proves I'm right, I haven't tricked any girls nor have had sex yet, your kind of family looks to be one that won't last much, I've seen that kind of family, and now they are divorced and looking anywhere for sex, because they couldn't when they were younger. Do you think first love has a 100% chance? No, what are you doing in your 28's? are you living off disney fantasies?
@Mithradath ah shit, You're only 21 years old.
This makes perfect sense though because at your age your entire world revolves around sex.
there's no point in trying to bestow any wisdom on you because you're not going to listen.
Good luck out there buddy.
You're not going crazy. He lied to you and he used you. He's a scumbag who lacks integrity.
One thing you have to learn, don't be nice and caring towards men unless you are in a relationship with them. Be indifferent.
Another thing, if you want something serious w a guy, don't sleep w him until he acts serious towards you.
Oh yeah and the long distance excuse is bullshit. Both my ex bfs lived across the country and the moved for me.
Take it from an old bitch
Like the very first opinion, I didn't read the whole paragraph. It has nothing to do with you. It's all about him and his character. All he wanted was to get into your panties. That's it and once that challenge was accomplished then it's time to go find somebody else. He enjoys the challenge
Every guy could have a different reason for doing this sort of thing, but probably the two most common are because either he isn't ready for monogamy and sleeping with him only encouraged him to think he can sleep with other girls, or the sex was bad in that she was clearly mostly in it because she wanted the "connection" rather than because she wanted to be gotten off.
Ghosting usually goes like this from what I understand: A person wants only one thing from a certain person. So, they ask for it to see if they'll get it. If they don't get it they might go away, but if they do then they'll take it and leave (they only talk to you when they want it, nothing else).
You should have been a bit more selective, learn to filter people. If you didn't know him for long and didn't like him enough that you were up for it you shouldn't have gone in but you did. I'm sorry if saying that hurts but maybe you'd think about these sort of things more now, and learn from them. Truth never hurts, misconceptions do. If he knew you'd get hurt by this maybe you should consider not chasing him.
People are selfish a$&holes! Some women are like this also. That's the short and sweet answer lol. Selfish 100% Don't think of the other person's feelings in any way at all. It's really sad ghosting seems to have become "normal" and "accepted" as something that just happens. Where has basic human respect gone? There is none these days at all.
We are hard wired to spread our seed far and wide.
We can’t help it, we get horny as fuck, and will play games as long as it takes o get her to suck our cock, or pull down her panties and bend over.
After we cum, we lose interest in her - fast.
Until a few hours pass, and that craving starts to build again, and that need to cum is again first and foremost on our minds.
And on and on and on it goes...
Men and women think of sex differently, give it different amounts of meaning.
Its fucked up and I'm sad to hear how it was from your perspective.
But if a guy just want to have some meaningless fun that might be what he has to do, its sucks for guys and girls alike.
Most guys can't just post on snapchat and ask "who wants to come over?" Like most girls can.
While I would love into why this iron ghosted you, and not just assume that it was a lie, I would be very very wary of him in the future. If he wants to meet up just for sex again, that's your answer: he's a player. Please don't waste your time on people who aren't willing to give you some of theirs.
He was pretending to get offended just to gain her trust and get her into his bed. I have met a lot of guys like these, but i didn't trust them enough to get into their bed. So i put them on a test and they failed and they walked getting frustrated and td me the truth that they never loved me they just wanna f**k me. I met some good guys too but very rare. You are not mad, most of the guys these days are.
I'm sure you already know the answer. That dude is a "fuckboy", for lack of a better word. They'll say whatever it takes to get laid, next time I can only advise that you be more discerning with the guys you talk to and spend time with. If it seems too good to be true, that's more than likely because it is. People like that are typically pretty shallow and transparent when you learn to look at them objectively.
Because a man does NOT owe you a relationship for your sexual consent. If you didn't consider the sex mutually beneficial on its own, it's your own fault for making what's called a covert contract with him. It's the same deal with guys and the friendzone. Young people all-around are pretty unskilled communicators and lack healthy ways to deal with disappointment. These things usually come with experience.
I agree with “covered contracts”. Nice guys are guilty of the same thing. Being nice to the girl thinking they are going to get sexually rewarded.
But as for ghosting. It doesn’t take any effort to send someone a quick text about how you feel and best of luck. That’s common courtesy.
@bluetoblack99 fair enough. The need for closure is something our culture needs to become more conscious of across the board!
I’ve been around a bit longer than you. I can tell that people (especially women) have gotten progressively worse about this in the last 10 years.
@bluetoblack99 oh yeah. And it's largely because of technology habitualizing instant gratification and unaccountability.
That is very true. It’s a problem on both ends but modern feminism has made it worse on the female side. Feminism encourages women to be conceited like its a sign of “being strong”. You are not “strong” if you disrespect someone because you are cowardly selfish piece of shit.
Just curious how this is all going to pan out for modern women 20 to 30 years from now. When are they going wake up and realize that their behavior is ultimately self destructive?
A possibility of him not talking to you anymore is that him and his ex probably started talking again, but he probably still had feelings for you but chose his ex over you cuz maybe he was still sad about his ex and would think about her. I don't know but this can be a possibility not saying it is the reason.
You're into the wrong guys hun most of us are actually worth a damn we don't ghost a woman unless she cheats or treats us bad and it takes a lot of bad for most guys to finally say fuck it
This looks like you would be a nice potential girlfriend for him and he really likes you but the fact that you live too far away makes a working relationship impossible. Therefore he doesn't want to bind with you because he knows its not gonna work out.
But why couldn’t he just say it? Instead of making me think he’s coming back next day then when I confront him about it on text by saying how he hurt me he unfollows me.
I don't know either. Girls always do this to me (leave me on "read" or unfollow when asking out). I guess its cowardice
Fear of intimacy, fear of commitment, fear of being their authentic selves in front of someone they really like and showing some vulnerability.
So he ghosted and unfollowed me cause he was scared or?
Possibly yeah. It’s also likely he’s not even fully cognizant of the fear
Why would he be scared cause of long distance? Did he even ever like me
He very well could have liked you it’s hard to say for sure. The distance could have contributed, it could have been many things including past experiences with dating, not having good relationships to model one after growing up, an attachment injury from when he was a child, etc.
He did always bring up how it’s a shame I’m far cause I have a good heart and said he had a girlfriend before but broke up with her because of long distance. But he said I’m too far but we’ll see where things go
Long distance is really hard. It’s getting easier with technology now days but it is still very challenging
Do u generally think it’s because of long distance?
Honestly I couldn’t say for certain. There’s just too many possibilities and I don’t know him you or your relationship so I don't know 🤷♂️
Lots of guys are just after that magical number of girls... the more they get, the more of a man they are... others seem to be looking for that magical pussy, one that makes life perfect, takes away all their probs...
so basically, guys are just idiots. we get used, they move on like its nothing.
If you have seen these games then why do you fall for them?
Not all men are like that I'll have you know.
@Chiefbenttwig who said I fall for them any more. Now when a guy asks me out, I know what its about and I either go or I dont... and the only guys who say they aren't like that are trying to sound sweet and sensitive, or asexual.
You & every one (including me) still fall for these game from time to time. I meant NO offence.
He played you, and now you're just another notch above his bedpost. It's not nice that you were part of his game, but there are guys out there who be like that.
Move on from such creepers, and chalk it up to never entertain such guys again,