Yeah that is so selfish though. Usually girls pluck up the courage to ask out girls. Girls should pluck up the courage to turn down the guy. It's horrible to ghost a guy.
@Jaffacakemucher whats worse ghosting a guy the girl was talking to or giving a guy a fake number?
Just say it!! it's better than gosting someone!!!
@BlueeSheepOwl I don't know and don't think it matters as I would never do either and not except a girl to do either. If you want to regect someone tell them it won't work out don't ever ghoast someone or give a fake number it is sometimes really damaging to people mentally being messed around like that. Even if the person really wants yes... The chance to go out when them they deserve a no. They should never be ghosted or given a fake number as its a horrible thing to do.
exactly @newinthegame that's exactly what they should do I totally agree with you
They were attention whores, basically
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Wow- you're mean, bitter, and cynical, too? Lol
@Jamie05rhs you haven't seen me on here much have you? My username literally has "cynical" in it! LOLYears of being rejected, friendzoned, lied to, cheated on, and dealing with assholes will do that to anyone, even the nicest woman.
But I try not to let my past reflect how I treat others, even guys... I don't want to be one of those people that hates the opposite gender because of a few bad apples. I reserve the right to hate all people equally until they prove otherwise (I'm sarcastic too, lol)
I may have seen your posts a couple of times, but I guess I haven't gotten to know you that well.I appreciate you giving guys a chance, even with all you have been through!
Well, people who hide their feelings aren't the type of person I'd want to be in a relationship with anyway. I'd rather it happen now then receive divorce papers out of the blue 10 or 20 years down the road.
@Jamie05rhs Exactly. Ghosting is a blessing in disguise! Move on with a smile on your face.
Well I'm sorry for not being either the tremendous effort it would take you to say " I'm not interested"
@up_64 Yeah I know its bad, but sometimes you can't deal with the emotional aspect of talking it out. And the easiest quickest way to de-attach yourself is just to ghost them. Its definitely not the best/kindest way but gets the message across in the end.
It really doesn't sometimes. Say I don't know the girl in person and without any previous signs she's starts ghosting. I'd be worried for her. Because since I would have no idea she just didn't want to talk to me I'd assume something must be impeding her from answering.
Is saying " I don't like you" that hard.
Yeah, You have to explain why then try to sugar coat it. It also may bring them insecurity so I’m being generous
This site is tiny so from what you've said I think I'm halfway towards guessing who you are. Not that it matters. And you don't have to sugar coat it. I'd rather a harsh fuck off than a non answer
If someone gets sexual, they deserve to be ghosted.
But I agree with up_64. Most of us guys would rather just be told. We can take it. We're not little boys anymore.
Yeah I agree being sexual could be a reason. But I've been ghosted in multiple occasions for no fucking reason. And one of those time it was by a girl I go to class with... No explanation... Nothing.
I’d like you to guess who I am, You have interested me with that. Anyway, if a girl is to say “fuck off” you’d still be in question. I don’t really see a difference. Both ways will give you the same feelings. Also, Yes being randomly sexual is mainly the reason
I do this a lot!! The guys picture is ugly and I keep talking to him a bit more until I cut it off so he doesn't realize it's because of his looks
Is it really that or are you looking for an excuse to keep talking to him? Because I've heard that women are less visual than guys are.
Yes, That’s all there is behind it. I don’t think women are less visual nor are guys, everybody wants somebody they see attractive
How would you describe acting like an adult?
Not being afraid to say to someone they aren't interested anymore. Having empathy by being able to put yourself in someone elses shoes. And understanding you don't do to others that you wouldn't want others to do to you. When someone ghost you and you finally figure out that's what they did, it leaves the person questioning what they did wrong. They feel stupid for letting someone in that obviously did not care or have respect for them. They'll dwell on the fact that they didn't know anything changed and their first thought wasn't that they ghosted them. Their first thoughts were something was wrong so they worried about them. They worried about a person that didn't give 2 sh! ts about them.You emotionally torture people while you're probably sitting around with your friends laughing at the person you ghosted. Its cruel not to allow people to have closure plain and simple. And all it would take to allow people to have closure is to have a short adult conversation to help them understand what went wrong. I don't care if you are honest and tell them you're sorry but I met someone else. It might still hurt the other person but it will give them the closure that it's over and they need to move on. That's just having human decency.
PinkMichae, I agree 100% with your response. Let them know directly, otherwise they will worry non-stop.
Thank you @Scarecrow13. 😎😎😎
I love your response too
but if it's a guy who's your type, clearly that's different,... right?
@McKellar What do you mean? Guys who make me fear for my safety or can't take no for an answer aren't my type.
What about a guy that you feel very safe & comfortable around & express to him that you really like him? That's showing that he's your type, right?
@McKellar Well in that case he would be. But why would I ghost him if he makes me feel comfortable?
That's the thing,... you wouldn't.
They should tell the guy!
Jsut cos a guy does someonething stupid doesn't mean a girl needs to copy. Likewise witg the other way round. Ghosting is horrible the person deserves to be given a no.
Ghosting is far worse than a guy not responding to his gfs message within 5 mins lol
As Jack Nicholson said, they lack accountability.