Does an apology from your abusive partner guarantee they won’t hit you again? (Page 2)

Question

My boyfriend and I recently got into an altercation. It wasn’t initially a altercation. We were having a debate about religion and in a way he started to become obnoxious and loud rather than have a calm agree to disagree kind of debate and he also started to disrespect my beliefs so out of frustration and anger I told him to stop talking to me. He paused for a second, repeated what I said as if he couldn’t believe I said it when he knew he had it coming from how lous and disrespectful he was being and out of nowhere he slapped me. Then that slap turned into a shove and even harder slaps. He choked me, attempted to suffocate me with my shirt over my head while I cried out trying to get him to stop. He attempted to bang my head onto the floor only thing that stopped him was me altering my body while he held me down so that he couldn’t. I attempted to leave while he attacked me but that only made him lash out even worse telling me I couldn’t leave or “I don’t care if you leave.” But he would contradict himself by trying to stop me from leaving. After it all ended I was left with a blood clot in my left eye, busted lip and my entire right side of my body was sore. I couldn’t even turn over in bed the next day without being in pain. He called himself apologizing with kisses, soft touches and sex afterwards but I couldn’t bring myself to accept it and stop crying. I ended up leaving after he left the house to “cool down” with his friends. I didn’t text him and let him know. He got back to his home, saw that I left and texted me with this apology but something tells me he’s just gonna do it again.

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

Sadly no. Some people will hit you, then apologize. Then they'll hit you again, and apologize again...

fishlipsfriend · Answer

No please run from this person. Once a man hits you then it shows he has zero respect for women. He is very emotionally immature and he has no idea what it means to love a woman. Run whiles it's in early stages because once you in deep it leaves a huge scar.

Anonymous · Answer

OMG leave now! No, apologies are just empty words at this point. Taking that kind of physical action is NEVER okay, and it takes a special kind of person to even consider crossing that line by physically attacking someone else. I'm so sorry to hear how badly injured you were, physically, emotionally and mentally. Abuse always escalates. It will get worse, not better. Do not subject yourself to his abuse. Get out while you can.

David_Kek · Answer

Depends whether the apology was
sincere and the underlying cause is resolved, and that means both putting in the work.
As a man who did dump my ex for the 3nd time she slapped me, I'm gonna have to side with Bill Burr and say; "ass whoopings don't just fall out of the sky".

Anonymous · Answer

This is one of the most fucked things I've ever read. How could you even consider going back to him? This is far beyond rough play, this is not a joke, this is very serious.

I'm the last dude on earth to tell anyone to call the cops on anyone else, but you should probs get a restraining order against this POS. This guy is fucking trash. Like he tried to bang your head on the floor? Wtf kind of ape shit is this?

Run, run, RUN!

Lliam · Answer

That guy is a criminal monster and you should file a police report. Get a restraining order. Never, ever, ever have contact with him again. He is beyond dangerous.

Nutmustard · Answer

He will do it again, that is guaranteed. It’s just a matter of when it’ll happen, get out of that relationship now and go and stay with someone who can protect you. Also file a police report, these guys who are violent towards women are the scum of the earth.
stay safe and take care

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

No, it doesn't mean he'll stop. It is the cycle of abuse. He may apologize but he will do it again. Here's a good cycle for reference:

spartan55 · Answer

I'm not being dramatic in any sense, but if you stay with him, he WILL eventually kill you.

BCA6010 · Answer

Apologies that aren't given IMMEDIATELY (as in on-the-spot) after someone realizes they made a mistake are basically worthless; it's damage control and usually insincere. That holds true for celebrities and politicians too by the way.

Anonymous · Answer

Those animals should be locked up!!!

It could cost him years in prison, if you decide to report it and make pictures of bruises.

Yes, he will do it again as he got away with it once.

Just forget, ' but he loves me' excuse or any other form of it.

Your life worth more

And you deserve better then this animal.

Andytherese · Answer

Not for sure, most probably he won't, he is an aggressive person when angry, you should probably get out of that relationship, and he should go to therapy.

Moka01 · Answer

Girl, just because he said "sorry and won't do it again" doesn't mean that he won't. Considering over what he went rampage, it's best if you truly think about your relationship with him.
You don't have to live with the fear of being hit. Please stay safe ( ◜‿◝ )♡

Footballplayz · Answer

No it doesn't and I speak from experience they say sorry it won't happen again and then it does. I suggest you get as far away from him as possible. As a guy it's embarrassing to say you were abused by a smaller woman but it happens it happened to me.

worldscolide · Answer

no.. It never means that. That kind of thing is your partner trying to pull you back into a false sense of security.. I have been through this.. my ex use to do that all the time.. Never again.

ninjafemme · Answer

He can't sleep that is the biggest bullshit ever. He just wants to make sure you dont tell the cops. His gonna hit you again and again, because he doesn't love you, just wants to abuse you. Thats the final truth. His a shit person , move on.

genericname85 · Answer

lol if they hit you once, run for the hills... they can figure their shit out on their own and try their luck with the next partner... in that situation, i'd get away and cut them out. not worth taking that risk.

Juxtapose · Answer

Call the fucking cops on him or he is literally going to kill you. I'm not exaggerating. Once they start choking you your chances of dying are really bad..

G3tAClue · Answer

You’ve got to be kidding me, right? Taking that piece of shit back just gives him permission to do that again. Report him to the police and take out a restraining order against him. NOW!

Mickey9999 · Answer

Absolutely not. You’re only guarantee is to leave/end the relationship. No matter what, you deserve better

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