(TW abuse) Would you forgive an abusive person if they were sorry?

[scooogy]

[provokeesmokee]

Depends.

My mother is abusive and apologized, then still acted the same abusive way, many times. So many that the only logical conclusion I could reach was that she will never be capable of truly changing.

So far, she continues to prove me right.

But I've seen people who have been abusive but not intentionally change themselves and become decent people.

I say forgive the first time, but never forget. When/if they fall back into their abusive ways, you get to make another call. So you believe in their capability to change, or not?

[EmyyWolf]

Forgive? He’d probably end up DEAD.

I just know, that as soon as he lays a finger on me. He’s gonna end up eating a bullet. It is what it is. It’s my hard wired reaction.

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There’s no “forgiving”. Because he won’t survive.

[scooogy]

I rather thought of emotional abuse like jealousy games or abandonment

[exitseven]

It would depend on the circumstances. I was in an abusive relationship with somebody who herself was abused as a kid. She had issues and i sort of understood. When she uses to hit me I used to just hold onto her until she calmed down. I would never hit her because she got hit enough in her life. Eventually she dumped me but if she was to contact me tomorrow and apologize i would forgive her.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[jeffend888]

Forgive all you want. But once a person shows themselves to be abusive, whether it’s physically or mentally, now it’s on you going forward. You know who this person is and if you continuously expose yourself to said person, then it’s your fault.

[Chevy1_kb]

well I did forgive my abusive ex he was crying and said sorry for it but i said your fucking lucky iam and another thing i hit him back but that was only if he hit me first plus he took a knife to me twice when he was drunk but he did cry for it but that was no excuse i dont think he liked that I was able to stand up for myself and no take his shit and not scared

[NotTacocaT6969]

Being sorry does not undo the abuse.


If they apologized and also changed themself to no longer be abusive, I would take their apology seriously, but would still not trust them fully.

[Sabretooth]

Then, you shouldn't take them back.

[NotTacocaT6969]

@Sabretooth taking someone back was not part of the question.

But yes, you are right.

[catarecute]

forgive abusive people but i am not gonna make the mistake to expose myself to them later once i know what they are like. people dont change that easily.

[YesterdaysChild]

There is being sorry and there is being honest and actually repenting and changing their ways. Lots of people are sorry for what they have done, yet continue to do it. Which category does your fall under?

[MemeSupreme]

depends who did it, why, and what. also like how they apologized and their actions after but i doubt i'd ever forgive them for it. always going to be a part of me afraid and to resent them for what they did

[WhitneySnow]

If they abused me? Maybe, if they were sincerely sorry and I felt like they would never do it again. If they abused someone else? No, it’s not my place to forgive them.

[zoe2187]

No! Never. Abuse is in their hearts if they do it once it’ll happen again. The idea of hurting someone is unfathomable to me. Obviously the abuser doesn’t feel the same way.

[StarWarGirl]

I would forgive for shake of my mental peace. But I won't forgive him for what he did and go back to normal again.

[Jazzy54]

I’d forgive them, but they’d no longer be in my life. Forgiveness doesn’t always equal reconciliation.

[HitsyHonesty]

Yes, but ain't no way we getting back together! Later Biiiiitch!

[petitedollbabee]

No. While I would appreciate the apology if it was sincere, I do not owe them forgiveness.

[Ninania]

Abusive people are always sorry and never change. I wouldn't waste any more time on them.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I will always forgive if someone is truly remorseful which actually means they don't go back to doing the ish they did.

[Carina0]

If you forgive, trust me it will never end good. They'll never change and as long as you stay, they will keep hurting you

[Massageman]

That would be a good starting point. But, there has to be change, too.

[genericname85]

depends on what abuse. but i'm tending to say no either way.

[Anonymous]

I'd forgive them for doing it (not so much for them but for my own piece of mind). But that wouldn't change that it was over between us and I'd wish them well.

[MissBoogus]

Maybe. And to forgive them would be more for myself, then them.

[Anonymous]

I might if they were sincere about it and feeding me BS.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, no. I’d cut them out of my life.