Can't tell if he's emotionally unavailable or just unavailable to me?

nojokecarmichael
This guy seems to fit into more than one box and he has been the hardest person to ever decode. He never seemed 100% there and at times exhibited codependency.

Over time, he opened up to me about some things (he spoke of being heartbroken and having been attached to an ex's child she had after she cheated on him) and I gave him expectations for how I expect to be treated, including not being a 2nd option. We talked and came to an understanding but after that he changed completely. He pulled away- something common with emotionally unavailable people when you set boundaries and expectations of them. Then it was like he tried to keep me on a string.
I held on to the bit of who he was in the beginning, the good even though there were little things but he still showed a willingness to change.

I'm not the issue yet I can't help but think what of what I could have possibly done if anything to cause this, why the sudden change? I deserve more than what he offers and I'm not his therapist, I just wanted things to be different. Maybe I differed from the norm of what he was used to, maybe I was more stable than the people's he's dated, or maybe I was just a placeholder.
Can't tell if he's emotionally unavailable or just unavailable to me?
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